Is it normal to become anti-social when your a stay at home mom?

Lynzi - posted on 11/24/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My son is 3 months old and I am home with him 24/7. Im currently living with my dad and he works from 3pm to midnight so it is only me and my son during the day. When I first had my son, I was wanting to have a social life like I once had but now I have done a complete 360! I am so caught up in my son and constantly doing something that I have no interest in answering my friends, family or my sons father's phone calls! I never leave the house and my son is starting to become scared around people. I have NO desire to have any social life and I know that this is NOT normal! I know that I do not have postpartum depression bc I am a happy, content person when I'm alone with my son..what is going on?!


Samantha - posted on 11/28/2011




I did that with my first- I think mainly because it was just such a life changing situation- I mean having a baby to a new mom really is a BIG deal- it's not about you anymore- your responsible for this whole new person who's needs come first- and that's truly something to get use to. As far as getting out of the house goes- It seemed so aggravating to make up that gigantic diaper bag with 20 diapers, 10 bottles,2-3 change of cloths, and every kind of medicine you could think of, not to mention the carseat. It was frustrating to just have to run into the post office, or store for two seconds because you had to lug the baby out and then put him right back in. When the second one came along I thought I'd go insane being that they were both babies, then the third- suprisingly got easier and my life returned back to normal. I'm sure sooner or later for you things will get back to normal + one more added to your life:) Your life just changed alot so give yourself a break your just being a mommy!

Bianka - posted on 11/25/2011




Yes, I have no friends. The only one I talk to is my husband and most of the time he is not around so it's basically me and kids all day at home. I am starting to see that it's affecting me mentally so I am trying to go to counseling.


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Lynzi - posted on 11/25/2011




Thanks everyone! I take him to church 2 Sunday's out of the month and he does well! Doesn't make a peep and I try to get down to my grandmother's and mothers as much as possible so I guess im going to start taking him out more then what I have been! I definitely want him to be social, active and mentally healthy!

Julie - posted on 11/25/2011




there are other things that can be caused by having a kid i did the same thing with my son for the first few months but i had my parents push me out of it. it's not healthy and can cause your child so have social isues when there older start off small little trips walk to the nears coffee shop have a friend meet you there only stay for as long as yur comfy to. make the trips long or more involved as you go it's a slow process toke me 3 months to get back to my normal self but if you work on it you'll get there

p.s my son was 2 months when i started correcting the behavior and it toke him till he was 2 before he would be social he was even afraid of other kids till recently and he's 3.5

Ashley - posted on 11/25/2011




I think in the beginning I kinda went through the same thing, unless someone (other than my husband) pushed their way into my life I was in my own bubble. But I quickly got bored of constant baby interaction and started to get out with my sister at least... I also talked to my mom alot! If you are happy and content than I say go with it. 3m is still young and your son can learn to not be scared with people when you are ready to show him off :)

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