Is it normal to have baby blues when child is 7 months?

Lindsay - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My little one is Seven months now. I used to be taking care of my mother with MS, three days a week until recently. I am now an official stay at home Mom, which I love but I am also struggling with it. Georgia has just begun an awesome sleeping schedule SO in the morning I am busy getting stuff done and ready so that we can go out for lunch. The afternoon slows down when she naps and then my husband when my husband comes home I become depressed and start having random negative thoughts. I have looked for Mommy's groups and because we have only just moved here and are in a rural area I have not heard back from anyone, and my social group is only just building for support. Can anyone give me any coping mechanisms? I do realize that I am adjusting to the change of being home all the time, i guess I underestimated how it would effect me. I love being a Mom and I am glad I am a stay at home Mom. I feel bad that when my truly amazing husband comes home I am not in a better place. I do not feel resentful that he is working at all, and I want our evening when Georgia is sleeping to be enjoyable.

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Lorie - posted on 02/23/2010

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It is normal to get baby blues right up to a year.
There is a place called burned out mom's and i just fjoined it not to long ago and its right. It made me feel so much better already.
The burned out mom's group within facebook so go to communties you can join and find it there or goggle it.
ia m not sure how to give you the link or I would just do that.
You will realize that your not alone in any feelings you are having.

Catherine - posted on 02/23/2010

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i started staying at home when my son was 4 months old and i started getting those feelings and also started getting horrible migrains. I went to the doctor and he put me on lexapro which boosts the seritonin in ur brain so u dont have those thoughts and u feel better. i know that some people dont want to be put on stuff or they think it wont help but it really helped me out. Also another good way to get over the blues is to pick a hobby up. sewing or painting or anything that u used to love to do.
I hope i helped

Jane - posted on 02/23/2010

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My baby is 10 months old & I'm going back to the Dr...again! I was a stay home mom with my 1st son until he was 5 then went back to my career & now am a stay home mom again. My boys are 12 years apart. I'm so frustrated that I feel this way for so long & don't know what to do anymore. It's hard & I've tried for so long to get back to being me & I think I'm starting to loose hope. I'm embarresed & so sick of feeling like this. Hopefully the Dr will have something to help me get back to where I should be. Good luck & you're not alone!!

Kristi - posted on 02/23/2010

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Don't worry...you're not alone! Sometimes I feel the same way. I think I now understand that there are times when I get angry at my husband just for the simple fact that he gets out of the house a lot more often than I do. There are different things that I do to make me happy....My hobbies are cooking, baking and reading. So sometimes I'll do one of those activities. I've also been taking Wilton cake decorating classes at my local Michaels store. It's only two hours a week, but it gets me out of the house (by myself) and I can talk to other moms about what's going on in their lives. You may want to check with your local library. Many libraries hold story times for various age groups. Not only would your daughter benefit from interaction with other children, but you would benefit from the interaction with other parents (mainly moms, in my experience). Also, one more MAJOR coping skill...it may not seem like much, but sometime when your little one is still sleeping,just jump into a hot shower for a couple of minutes. You won't imagine how good it can make you feel just to be clean! And, if you need a little extra boost, do your hair and makeup while your at it. Put on a nice looking outfit (that's easy to clean, of course), or paint your nails. Make yourself feel pretty. And I'm sure when your husband comes home, he'll appreciate it too and give you all kinds of compliments!

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Lindsay - posted on 02/23/2010

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Thank you so much. I am just getting into cooking again. My husband tends to be the chef in the house. He is finally relinquishing control of the kitchen :) lol! I have to tell him to get out of the kitchen so that he won't drive me crazy. You are soo right about the shower and a nice outfit. That is what kept me feeling good about myself when i was pregnant too. While I was pregnant I learned how to do some basic knitting, and I would like to join this knitting club that is just down the road. I realize that there will be a lot of older women but I can imagine that that will be helpful too. I wish I could get away from the dark thoughts in the evening, but I imagine that will come with time once I immerse myself in some of these hobbies. I am trying to set up play dates with a couple of Mom's that I know.... It is a process isn't it? Thank you so much for your response.

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