is it ok for me to go to school?

Kaisha - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )




i recently enrolled in college its only 8 hours throughout the week but my daughter is used to me being with her every minute of every day! i know that school is suppose to be a good thing but how is it good when i feel so guilty? everyday i go i am afraid that she will start crawling or will say her first word anything like that and i feel like im missing out on so much. she is only 5 months old, and im trying to improve my life but in doing so i feel like im cheating my daughter out of the time she deserves with me. how do i deal with this


Tara - posted on 02/04/2010




It is hard being away from your kids, but I have to applaud you for going to school. Honestly, I think that you are unlikely to miss any of your daughter's firsts because you are who she is with most of the time. I thought that way as well with my first daughter and was worried that if I had to be away for an appointment or for any length of time I might miss a first, and I have to say that I didn't miss any firsts at all and I had to be away from her a number of times for lengthy periods because I was pregnant with my 2nd child. The way I got through being away from my daughter (and now from both of my daughters while I am working on my medical transcription course) is by saying to myself that I am doing this course to help make things better for our family (instead of relying only on my husband's income alone) and that the few hours I am away from them now will allow me to be with them more later - kids get more expensive the older they get, and bettering myself allows me to ensure that I will be able to stay at home with our girls and still help out.

What I would try to do is say to yourself "I am doing this for US and even though I'm missing small amounts of time now, I will be able to spend more time with her as she grows up".

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