is it wrong to not enjoy being a stay at home mum?

Megan - posted on 03/28/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

40

0

2

hi im just writing as i feel guilty for not enjoying being a sahm im finding it really hard i feel like who ever i talk to about how im feeling judges me and im in the wrong for feeling like this! im keen on looking for a part time job just to get away from this house and for some adult company asi dont have any friends and am limmited to adult company i find everything a struggle i feel like i cant do anything and im feeling quite depressed tbh! dont know how to get out of this or how to make life better at the minute:( any advice would be appreciated xxxxx

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Chana - posted on 03/30/2015

472

0

26

I am a stay at home mom and totally understand what you are saying. Sometimes it is very overwhelming and you can feel very isolated. The hardest thing for me was and still is the lack of adult conversation not so much wanting to get out and work because I have plenty of that to do at home with a 4 year old and a 2 1/2 year old. I don't think there is anything wrong with not being content being a stay at home mom. It is not for everybody. I personally love it even when I feel overwhelmed or isolated but that is just me. I have had several moms tell me "I could never be a stay at home mom". You need to sit with your husband a determine what is physically, emotionally and financially in the best interest of your family, no one can tell you that you have to figure that out yourself. In our situation it was not financially feasible for me to return to work because we would have had to pay daycare, gas money, wear and tear on the car along with added illness and whatever else may have come along. It just made sense for me to become a stay at home mom and I am happy with that but like I said you need to figure out what is best for you and your family. Yes I still miss work and adult conversation but this is working for us. If it turns out that it is in the best interest of your family for you to continue to stay at home look into finding play groups or other activities to get you(and your little ones) out of the house and interacting with others. Good Luck you will know what is best for your family.

Megan - posted on 03/30/2015

40

0

2

i agree with everytjong u said sarah! sahm arent any better then working ones especially when your not happy being one and struggling with it,itsnot healthy for anyone.i do think its important tofi d the balance of doing something other thrn being a mum n having another focus to keep things health like geting a part time job or joining a gym, im sure some people may think thats selfish but whats the point in being a sahm when its making u that unhappy which surely cant be good for the child. like u sed a happy contented mother is the important thing and if by having that balance helps achieve that then i dont think its a bad thing xxx

4 Comments

View replies by

Valoree - posted on 03/29/2015

10

0

3

I actually don't have much advice, but I am in the same boat.. I do enjoy staying at home and am grateful.most of the time, but I just moved to a different state so not being able to meet people through work or at least having conversations with someone other than my 2 year old can get exhausting. I actually joined circle of moms just to ask a similar question about staying at home, but mine is more geared toward exhaustion and not having much energy to even get dressed in the morning. It strange because I worked for a little bit when my son was 1 and even though he was not sleeping through the night and I wasn't getting a full nights sleep and I was working I was less tired/depressed than I am now being at sahm. I think it's normal.. I hope. I am going to visit family in a week
And I am hoping that'll boost my spirits about staying at home.. We shall see.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms