Is there really a super mom?

Sue - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 52 moms have responded )

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Is there really a super mom? A mom who can get daily all the laundry, house cleaning, cooking, dishes and caretaking of two toddlers done in a day and still have time for herself?

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Amanda - posted on 03/06/2010

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Hi sue! I ask myself the exact same questions on a daily basis and I have come to this conclusion...though I dont think there will ever come a day when we will be able to get everything done plus time for ourselves we are all super moms in our own ways. Just try to remember that. No doubt you are doing a wonderful job and I swear it wont be like this forever.!

Shirley - posted on 03/04/2010

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Sure!! there are super moms. She can do everything you have mentioned and even more like, earning a living in the confines of her home, being able to extend help through personal services and yes still have time for herself. The secret for this is proper time management and most of all, you must find enjoyment in all the things that you do, specially if it is for your family. And if it is of any consolation, you will not see the reward of all your efforts at the moment, but when your children reaches their teen age, adulthood, they will begin to show you that they are appreciative of the time and energy and effort and SACRIFICE that you have given them, and then you will feel blessed that you gave yourself and your time to them. Children grows so fast, before you knew it, they are already grown ups and do not need your personal supervision anymore and you will miss that, supervising them, giving personal touch in their needs. I guarantee you, there is a very dear prize for all the efforts and that is when your children start to give back the same kind of love and affection and respect. Take it from me. Sometimes my husband and I reminisces the time when we take care of all their needs and tells ourselves we are glad we gave them our time and affection. God bless you. Have a nice day.

Lorie - posted on 03/04/2010

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NO, there is no way someone can get all that done with two babies and still have time to herself.
I have 3 boys 4,19 months and 8 week old. plus two DC kids 1 and 2.
I feel like I don't even have time to pee let alone time to myself.
As Amanda said, as long as everyone is happy and fed then everything is good. If you look at it like you should be doing everything in one day you will drive yourself crazy and if someone doesn't like it that can do it.

Charlotte - posted on 03/03/2010

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Super mom.. well I dont think anyone would call themselves that even if there life is flowing good. I have 4 babies.. 2-1-and newborn twins. My husband is gone almost all the time bc he is active army. My house is clean.. never any dirty dishes in the sink thanks to a dish washer.. I only have todays dirty laundy which I do a load before I go to bed. My babies are happy, healthy and clean all the time. I get out with them and do fun stuff! I keep a schedule all day to make my life eaiser with having so many babies. My time.. My me time comes about 10pm.. instead of watching tv during the day I keep up with the babies and record a show I know I am missing and watch it at 10pm. At that time my house has to be clean in order for me to relax. It all works out in the end... but to be a super mom.. its not how clean your life is its all on how much your kids love you back. if you get that one good night kiss while putting your child or baby down to bed.. you have done something right and that is what makes you a Super Mom!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 03/02/2010

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don't know - never met her and I don't want to! People like that don't exist, yet we try to be like that.
The kids are what's important - in 20 years they won't remember if the house was spotless and dinner was on time - what they will remember is the time mommy spent with them!

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Kryss - posted on 03/15/2010

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I have posted b4 but i wanted to say ..when i first brought my son home 10 yrs ago i didnt know how i was going to clean house wrk and do laundry and do all the things we are expected to do....it took me time to adjust and moderate my time and eventually i had tiome for all that my son and me time.....it trully takes experience to find out wht wrks....so yes we can be a super mom just takes time to do so:)

Erin - posted on 03/15/2010

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HAHA, I wonder that all the time. I think I'm doing ok, trying to get better at it. I'm just working on the time management and organization part, the better I get at those, the more smoothly things go. I just quit my job two months ago, so I find myself wondering how I got all these things done, and go to work. Now I have more time to spend with my lo and more time to cook. I try and cook as many meals as I can. I never have all the housework done, it's a never ending list. lets face it(especially if you cook) the min you finish the dishes there are more waiting after the next meal. lol

Katie - posted on 03/05/2010

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HAHA! no. I have had the same comteplations over the last few months, and i think just doing your best day to day is the only way to be a "super mom"! But the ones who get all of those things done are very committed to the way things look. you just have to do whats best your your sanity and well being as well as your children's.

Kisha - posted on 03/05/2010

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Yes, she lives with Superman (meaning she isn't real ) LOL. I think there is just too much pressure on women now a days to do EVERYTHING and do everything perfect. It's really unrealistic and sets us up for failure. I say do the best you can and hey if the laundry gets neglected for a day or 2 or 3, to heck with it.

Laura - posted on 03/05/2010

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I find that i can get the house clean, laundry, dishes and take care of two little ones, but not every night is there a meal cooked. (some nights its whatever i can get to making, other nights its something real simple) but rarely and I mean rarely do I find that I have time for myself

Kryss - posted on 03/05/2010

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Well it comes with experience...i have only one child but when i was 20 i had my newborn and my sisters newborn and it came with great learning but,,,im not sayn all can:) gl to you though if you suceed you are a pro already..i did it but, i had to clean in shifts and come 9 pm my son was asleep and all my house wrk was completed:)

Kristie - posted on 03/04/2010

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yes! but my idea of a super mom is not a flawless and never tiring individual. its a mom who loves her children with everything she has and gives whatever she can and is DAG ON tired ALL the time but keeps truckin :)

Christi - posted on 03/04/2010

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yes. my mother was one. she was a single mother to two girls, had a job as VP of GMAC, battled breast cancer that had spread throughout her entire body and was eating at her brain and still found time to clean house, cook dinner, do laundry and have a smile of her face at the end of the day. she also found time to go out and get her nails done, usually after a long day at kemo or radiations treaments. i am a stay at home mom now and just thinking of all she did by herself while facing her own death, i know i can do it too and i have alot less on my plate. so the answer to your question, yes, there are super moms. they are rare, but there are ones out there.

Rebecca - posted on 03/04/2010

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I try but gosh darn it if the toilet bowl is dirty for a few days longer then so be it lol. I think we all do what we can and the 50's mom is gone. I do dishes 3 times a day...wish we had a dishwasher...i take care of a 2.5yr old and 7.5month old of my own as well as childcare for 3other 2yr olds. I have supper cooked when hubby gets home we both give baths and then once the kids are in bed i get my butt to the gym. It's my ME time and I NEED that time. It helps me get on with the next day and I think no matter what we all deserve some ME time. It wasn't always like this but ever since our second was born I get more time for me:)

Danielle - posted on 03/04/2010

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i believe that we r all super mums in one way or another look no one is perefect but u have to admitt we all do a good dam job and look some of us r stonger in some departments then others but just remember we wernt put on this place to be perfect so as long as we do the best at it all i say we r all super mums in out on little ways!!!!!!

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Well as of right now I have a 18 month old boy and I'm 9 months pregnant with baby number 2. Super Mom only comes to visit our house maybe once a week and that's a huge MAYBE. lol If he's happy and we've all been fed that's a job well done!

Erin-louise - posted on 03/04/2010

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I often wonder the same thing...my house is never spotless. There is always laundry to do and dishes to do. I have seven kids. Four are my natural kids and they are 9, 7, just about 4, and 2. Then I have my sister in-laws 3 kids that are 6, just turned 2, and just turned 1. I wish I could have everything done by the end of the day but there is just not enough hours in a day. So if you find that super mom, can you send her my way...lol...I could use her help...hehehe.

Jessica - posted on 03/04/2010

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Lol, I manage to keep the house always clean, have the laundry caught up, cook real dinner almost every night, and make sure my kids (all 4, well 4 stopped with the 11yo awhile ago) are kept clean, they get their cuddle time, and am nursing a 4 month old baby. But, here come the but no me time. I'm very,very lucky to find the time to shower every other day, lol, usually I'm in my bathrobe, sometime clothed underneath sometimes jammies, haha, hair done- meaning pulled back into a ponytail... beauty routine consist of put hair back , put deodorant on, brush teeth. Something has got to go out the window, I figure for now it's me time thats okay though I'm okay with it, one day the kids will all be grown up and I will have plenty of me time, haha.

Deanna - posted on 03/04/2010

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Being a mom is a never ending cycle of laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking, stc. But the one thing that matters most os that we spend our time with our children. Making sure they are safe, happy and well loved. thats what makes a super mom. I have 5 kids all under the age of 12 and let me tell you, there are some days when I have it all together and get everything done in a day, but what fun is that when I can spend a little more time with the kids helping with homework... or a little extra time playing with the baby and seeing that sweet and fantastic grin of hers..... :)

April - posted on 03/03/2010

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We are all super moms!!! Even if all that isn't done in one day...It's hard work to care for children and take care of a house and cook....let alone have time for ourselves everyday. As long as we do the best we can ...we are super moms!

Sheryl - posted on 03/03/2010

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i think in a way we all are. we all have are thing that we are great at. i try to do everything but sometime is just don't work out. but as long i am doing a great job being a mom and wife. i see that as a super women.

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I wouldn't say super, but practiced is more of a word for it. It takes practice and patience, but yes it can be done!

Martha - posted on 03/03/2010

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We are all super moms in so many different ways and one thing my super mom taught me was "There are always going to be dishes to clean" So basically it comes down to stop worrying about what has not been done but be proud of what your did get done and what really matters is to not stress yourself and to be happy at the end of the day.

Myra - posted on 03/03/2010

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That woman does not nor has ever existed. A person cannot devote their entire waking hours to others and ever have time for themself....a shower and basic grooming would be about all anyone could expect.

However, I think if a mom lets everything else slide, but makes sure her kids are well taken care of, she is indeed a "Supermom" as taking care of the kids is harder than anything aside from making the time for yourself.

Amber - posted on 03/03/2010

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i agree that we are all super moms. We may not get everything accomplished everday but we do what we can, and that matters the most. Its sad to say but I hate visiting my mom sometimes because she is the most "super mom" i know. She has always had babies in the house and still manages to get ALL the laundry done, ALL the house cleaning, cooking, and dishes done, and at 8 pm when she puts my 3yr. old sister 2bed she has the rest of the night to herself..



it makes me look like a slacker but it helps keep me motivated that i know someone that can do it all and does!

Stephanie - posted on 03/03/2010

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I agree with Wendy. Our job never ends. Sick, depressed, stressed, everything that is going on in the lives of women now-a-days...We're always on call. I think if we can manage a house, children, partner, work, food, bills, not to mention school projects, homework, test prep, extracurricular activities, etc... If we're able to get even a majority of it done and still be able to smile.... to be able to make our kids smile... Then we're a "Super Mom".

Katharina - posted on 03/03/2010

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Every mom is a supermom. A supermom is not the person who is capable off keeping the house spotless, dinner cooked and look like a supermodel. A supermom is a mom her kids can always count on to be there for them. That is what makes a supermom

Elizabeth - posted on 03/02/2010

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I think of "super mom" sort of like the Loch Ness monster or the Yetty. Everyones heard of her, knows the what she's supposed to look like, yet she remains mysteriously absent from reality!!! I've never spotted one, or heard of a "true sighting"! Never seen a super mom, just real moms!! In the end would it be any fun if our moms were perfect??? I'm pretty sure our kids feel the same way! You're obvious hard work and love is the real stuff! Keep up the good work!

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Yes, me! Hahahah! Not. I think she is a myth. And anyone who says she is doing that - welldone to her!!!!!!!!!!!! But the rest of us mere mortals just have to muddle along. I've only got one baby ( 8months), am a stay at home mum, and still can't understand what I've done all day and where its gone. Except that I know that I've cared for my baby the best I can. I also forego housework for "me-time" which still amounts to getting as much sleep as I can lol! I figured that my husband married me for who I am rather than my housecleaning skills, and if he wants a cleaner that badly, he can go ahead and hire one. As I write this note, there is a pile of laundry on the table next to me, waiting to be folded, and do you know what? It can wait! I'm enjoying scrolling through the message boards! So there! :)
Thanks for the question - it made me laugh, and appreciate who I am and what I am doing!
PS: my (voluntarily childless) friend and I were joking the other day that there should be a SuperMom Superhero outfit - but we laughed when we started imagining her with wild hair (dragged through the bush backwards, kind of idea), boobies down to her waist (or watermelons, depending on where in lactation she was!!), a cape made up of spit up cloths (with a bit of baby sick on it for extra authenticity, texture and smell), a waistband that had toolkit loops for a bottle, pacifier, toys and rattles, and obligatory diaper). And her Clark Kent persona is a nicely manicured, neat, stylish lady in stiletto heels. Come to think of it, our SuperMom Superhero can have her stilettos too, if she wants them! Can always just kick them off if she's got sore feet. Which means for most of the time, of course, she'll be barefoot! haha. Ah, poor us!!

Angela - posted on 03/02/2010

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i wonder that myself sometimes and i only have one toddler. i still don't get everything done . sometimes i feel like a failure as a wife and mother

Sue - posted on 03/02/2010

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Yes, agree - it does make me feel good to see the kids smile or laugh and than give me hugs and kisses. That's what makes my day when I am having struggles with my day. The love my kids give me is what matters.

Melissa - posted on 03/02/2010

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I agree with Wendy, we are all super moms...where did I put my cape? Must be in the laundry!! You are awesome. Who cares about the dishes (unless there is nothing to eat that wonderful dinner you fixed on) or if there is a little dust on the furniture? Did you make your kids laugh today? I mean a really good belly laugh? That's why you are a super mom!!!

Christy - posted on 03/02/2010

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My friends look at me and call me Super Mom because they THINK I always have it together, a clean house and good kids..etc. But to be honest I struggle just as much as they do. So just remember, ever time you see those Super Moms... they are just faking it, just like I do. :)

Sarah - posted on 03/02/2010

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The best "Super Mom" is the one that takes care of all the family needs, and the best part of it..is when the kids give you "I LOVE YOU" for free...and when they tell you "UR THE BEST!!"..that about does it for me...as for all the daily chores..don't worry..they will still be there tomorrow...and should anybody complain...tell em to do it themselves then!..lol

Vickie - posted on 03/02/2010

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Sue, there is no woman out there that has it all together, especially if they have more than one kid! LOL Some are just better at hiding this in public then others :) I have been called Super Woman a few times, there are days were I can just go and go and Everything can manage to get done, with two kids (6 and 4) being pregnant and running a daycare from home with 3 other kids (all boys 6 mnth, 13 mnth, and 19 mnth). Then there are weeks where the house looks like a tornado came through and I am lucky to remember to pick up my daughter on time from school! LOL That is life!

But as has been said before: We are all Super Moms. Being a mom is not about what gets done in the house but what you are able to get done with your child! Have fun and enjoy your kids, the cleaning will always be there for another day! :)

Sue - posted on 03/02/2010

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Thanks everyone this makes me feel better hearing all the responses. Than I am doing a good job and doing the best I can. It just that sometimes I look at other moms when I am out and they look like they got it all togther and I wonder if they really do or if they are struggling like me and others.

Ashley - posted on 03/02/2010

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Every woman is a super mom! Whether you've got it altogether or not! You love and care for your babies and that makes YOU super!

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i dont think thats a super mom i just think thats a mom we as mom do almost everything well atleast in my household an thats how i like , an to the whole time by yourself i gert that every single night at 9 pm when my son goes to bed

Laura - posted on 03/02/2010

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I am not a super mom, but I manage to find some time to myself each day. My kids are now 3 and 6. It has definitely got easier as they've grown!!!

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No i just dont think its possible we are not perfect....well me anyway but i sure try my best to do it all but aslong as i do all thats important for my kids like feeding washing ,dressing them doing homework bringing the older one to and from school, play time,dinner & bed....the rest can wait which is usually a few loads of washing and no time left for me.but thats the joys of it all:)

Ieasha - posted on 03/01/2010

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Amanda you are so funny because thats how it is here in my house sometimes I can get it done and sometimes I just can't move at all. This the hardest job ever.

Kristi - posted on 03/01/2010

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If by "supermom" you mean a woman who ALWAYS has a clean house, is clean and smelling nice herself, is always happy, never complains and has dinner on the table every night without any dishes in the sink, then I must say, I've never met her! My house is big and old. It's VERY hard to keep clean. In fact, it's generally a mess! I don't always have clean clothes on and I don't always smell nice. BUT.......I do always have meals prepared, usually including a dessert of some kind. My child is generally always happy. He's clean and well taken care of. And my husband knows that even though I don't always have the entire house clean when he gets home, I've worked my butt off all day! So I must say that yes, I am Supermom. It's nice to meet you!!! :-)

Shaina - posted on 03/01/2010

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I'm glad I'm not the only mom who wonders this. There have been days where I can't believe I got EVERYTHING done. But those days a few and far between. I normally feel like there is just too much to do in one day. To me playing with my son is more important than to fold the laundry. : )

Shirley - posted on 03/01/2010

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My def. of a "supper mom" to me is :
A Mother who gives all she has,who thinks of her children with every decision she makes,
A woman who gives her whole heart.is a super mom, because she'll always be there.

Erin - posted on 03/01/2010

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yes, my mom, or at least i thought so growing up. as an adult i see all the little cheats she did like shoving a turky roaster full of dirty dishes into the cabinet under the sink as she ran to answer the door ,lol. i don't think being a supermom is so much about learning to manage your time and getting everything done everyday as much as it is about learning to let go of the need to feel perfect all the time.you are always going to have at least 1 friend who always seems one step ahead of you, but i'm sure they feel the same way too

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That woman does not exist! If my kids are fed and relatively clean at the end of the day, then I am happy. Everything else either happens or it goes on tomorrows list.

Wendy - posted on 03/01/2010

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I think that we are all "Super Moms"! At the end of the day we don't have our daily household chores done but we do see smiles on our babies faces proves that we are all "Super Moms" in some degree. :)

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