Is this going to become a habit?

Tiara - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




You know how when your baby is first born he/she can NOT leave your side for NOTHING. They act like it's the end of the world once they know you set them down and try to walk away. What if I'm just like my baby though? My step-dad helps out so much with my baby and when she wakes up a little fussy after our nap together I ask him nicely to take her so I can go back to sleep. He usually walks her around the house to calm her down ("patrolling" lol) and it usually puts her back to sleep. But these past couple of days I've noticed I myself, can not go to sleep without her next to me. I need to cuddle and snuggle with her or else I'm up and there's no doubt about it. Is that odd? Or what? I just don't know what to call it. I shared with my step-dad how I noticed myself doing that and he said I'm the best mom he's seen so far with their baby and that that's an excellent thing to want to be close to her and can't feel comfortable enough to go to sleep unless she's next to me. He says most moms always push their babies away but me, I'm so excellent. He encourages me a lot and it lifts my spirit up so much and helps me and makes me feel much better. But, am I odd? I don't know what to call it. Lol.


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Kelsey - posted on 12/12/2009




Every good mother feels best with their baby by their side. Its instinct and just plain old love. I am so anxious when shes being taken care of by someone else, even if its just her own daddy. I dont trust anyone except a handfull of people, and thats perfectly normal for a caring mother.

Katy - posted on 12/12/2009




Your not odd, your just madly in love with your child!!! I know how you feel, my daughter is five next week and I still love her snuggling into me, and I hate putting my 11 week old boy down even when my arms hurt because then I can't hug him and smell him!!! It's a mothers thing! Either that or I am odd too!

Tiara - posted on 12/09/2009




Awww, thank you guys for calming me down lol. All of your post were very encouraging!

Tina - posted on 12/08/2009




I agree with what everyone else said. You're not odd at all. I was the same way when my daughter was an infant. I couldn't sleep if she wasn't close to me..most of the time. When my mother would keep her overnight I couldn't sleep for anything. I'd get up and go to check on her in her crib thinking she was in there. Even now, she'll come get in the bed with us in the mornings (she's almost 27 months old) I know if she gets out of the bed. I wake up instantly.

Jennifer - posted on 12/08/2009




I agree with everyone your not odd. My 3 yr old and I still love to cuddle in the mornings, and when she skips a morning it kinda bums me out. But I am going to enjoy it while I can, because one day she will not want to do that anymore.

Renae - posted on 12/08/2009




You are not odd. I slept with my baby at night for a few months (he had a feeding and sleeping disorder and it was the only way we could survive the worst of it). I still miss sleeping with him. I have to remind myself that baby belongs in his cot and I belong in bed with daddy. My reasoning is that its not fair on baby to let him think its normal to sleep with mummy because one day he will have to go in his own bed, so better now than when he's older. But, I still miss cuddling him and sleeping with him all night. I think I always will.

I think Jessica is right. Its called maternal instinct. People are always telling me to leave him with them and "have a break", I have never felt like I need a break from him, I'm happy being with him 24/7.

Rikki - posted on 12/07/2009




not odd at all i cant take myself away from my 10 week old ither i wont even let anyone take him for a few hours when other people want to hold him i sit there looking at them waiting for them to give him back lol i think its just part of being a mum and no matter how mutch they cry or how lill sleep we get we will always want to be close to our babys because we love them and dont want to miss a second without them :)))

Melanie - posted on 12/07/2009




Your not odd at all . my daughter is almost 2 and iam the same way with her .

Debra - posted on 12/07/2009




I was actually wondering that earlier lol. I brought my 3 month old daughter over to visit her g-ma and my brothers and family... and they were all taking turns holding her so I could play a board game with my brother.. didnt turn out well.. my brother got mad at me cuz i kept gettin up to go see my baby lol. I need her with me all the time.. Im jsut so used to it

Jessica - posted on 12/07/2009




haha you're not odd, it's called the maternal instinct. She was inside you for 9 months! And it's only natural to become closer to her. As she gets older you will learn to let go as she becomes more independent. Try not to worry and just trust yourself :)

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