IS THIS REALLY MY HUSBAND?

Monica - posted on 07/24/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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HI EVERYONE IM A STAY AT HOME MOM...I HAVE ASK MY HUSBAND FOR MONEY SEVERAL TIMES AND HE OFTENS TELLS ME HE HAS NO MONEY...SO NOW ITS SUMMER TIME HERE IN NYC AND I TOLD HIM I NEED CLOTHES...HE SAID Y U DONT GO NOWHERE AND HE DOSENT HAVE MONEY...SO I LEFT IT ALONE...COME TO FIND OUT HE GIVES HIS SON $100 A WEEK, AND HE JUST SPENDS THE MONEY ON SNACKS...

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Michelle - posted on 07/25/2016

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A marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Your husband is controlling and isn't treating you like a wife should be treated.
You said HE doesn't want you to work, if you don't have access to the household funds then he is being abusive. Abuse doesn't just mean physical, it can be holding someone hostage, withholding basic needs and making sure you don't even have the funds to leave.
You have a big decision to make. You need to tell your husband that you are his equal and he needs to start treating you like one or leave him. He probably won't change anyway.

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Lisa - posted on 07/25/2016

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You are in a difficult situation. Unfortunately, the sadness and frustration that you are feeling will only continue if you can't work with your husband and communicate how you are feeling. Does he respond negatively when you communicate your feelings? When you got married, did you discuss finances and how things would work in your marriage and your family? Finances in marriage are often the cause of conflict until both spouses can come to agreement and be on the same page. http://bit.ly/2a6S7YI

I hope you and your husband can work through these issues and come to a resolution where both feel confident in moving forward.

Monica - posted on 07/25/2016

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Well I've talked about it and it leads into a argument he always say why do I care what they have...and he dosent want me working...I have a 5 month old son and a 2 year old

Eager - posted on 07/24/2016

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I am so sorry to hear about your husband, Monica. Like Michelle said, I do think it would be a good idea if you can fetch a job to meet your needs. Also, have you talked to him about his behavior at all? Communication is very important in a marriage, and I feel you should share your concerns and expectations with him and find a solution to it – may be it can help! Cheers!

Michelle - posted on 07/24/2016

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So your husband is controlling.
You can go out and get a job yourself or leave him. If you get a job then make sure you open a bank account that he doesn't have access to.

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