Is your husband a good father?

Shannon - posted on 06/14/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My husband is a fantastic father so much in fact that I feel like he is the better parent sometimes. My family on the other hand, is full of mediocre dad's. They consider watching their children "babysitting" and a huge burden. I sometimes feel out of place when my sisters and family members talk about how worthless their husbands are and how uninvolved they are with their kids. I know that I am lucky to have such a wonderful husband and father for my kids. Anyone else feel this way?

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Jovita - posted on 01/17/2013

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hes has good but in fenancially he is weak no gots to applying any jobs seeking. wht should i do ? pls helpd me or give me advice about my situations now no jobs since 20000 years n present he never find any job.i am the one who work i m a working mother of our two kids since we maried,im hoping for your good heart n share wit me in your good advice,i m very tired thinking wht is our feauture good feauture he really dont want have work i think he is not good father or he is very lazy guy.he is active on his vices hes a drug addictions. so gods will all bout this but i need your advice wht should i do as a wife .thanks very much more power to all of you and th stafff.good day,god bless us all.

Jovita - posted on 01/17/2013

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hes has good but in fenancially he is weak no gots to applying any jobs seeking. wht should i do ? pls helpd me or give me advice about my situations now no jobs since 20000 years n present he never find any job.i am the one who work i m a working mother of our two kids since we maried,im hoping for your good heart n share wit me in your good advice,i m very tired thinking wht is our feauture good feauture he really dont want have work i think he is not good father or he is very lazy guy.he is active on his vices hes a drug addictions. so gods will all bout this but i need your advice wht should i do as a wife .thanks very much more power to all of you and th stafff.good day,god bless us all.

Sally - posted on 06/22/2011

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i am sorry for how your family is , my husband is a great father,even though my family puts him down at times on how we raised our girls, but when i look at what their kids' are like i just ignore them and tell them they can say what ever they want they don't know anything about how he was with the kids. i am a SAHM, so i did most of the raising but when he was home he did everything too he would even give me some time to myself and take care of the kids. even though i have people saying im a bad parent because my kids have done some things that weren't the right thing like running away or having a baby at 16 well, i just tell them that it has nothing to do with how we raised them,but that everyone else thought to tell them what they wanted them to do, like go ing behind our backs and telling them not to listen to us. they are now just barely getting on the right track again. but yes my husband is a wonderful father, especaily for someone who grew up without one

Stifler's - posted on 06/21/2011

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Tonight I feel like my husband is a way better parent than me. But he doesn't have to put up with this racket ALL fucking day like I do while he's at work having adult conversations and making his own money so he has the luxury of enjoying the kids.

Dawna - posted on 06/20/2011

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My husband is a wonderful father and husband. And yes, sometimes I feel he is better than me. He plays better, encouraging her creativity, and is more active with her, encouraging exercise. I am a SAHM, so I might just get too bogged down w/the day-to-day stuff, though.

He also helps with housework and never expects me to do it all or tout that he puts a roof over my head. In that respect, he's a much better husband than most of the men from my hometown and family.

I come from a family full of men that thought the house and children were women's work, so I know how you feel. I thank the fates everyday that my husband is nothing like most of the men in my family/town.

Shelz - posted on 06/20/2011

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lucky! i one of the moaners lol.

I noticed most of you maybe all of you said HUSBAND, ahh see you married the awesome one, im still in boyfriend mode (been 5 years though)

I feel like id rather leave my kids with my sister or mum or even my bestie before him. He has his good days and my goal at the moment is applauding him for his efforts so he does more. He diaper changes alot but when it comes to actual playing (reading books, running round etc) then he doesnt. He also had a short temper and gives up easy.I remember my dad being the fun one and mum the cleaner... well im both! except on a good day...

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Yes yes yes and YES! My husband is awesomesauce! He deserves a trophy! He is super with the kids and now that I'm pregnant with our third and in my first trimester (and feeling sick) he is not only helping with the kids he helps with the dishes, laundry, meals and he just ran out to do our grocery shopping! I know what you mean about other peoples husbands being sort of crappy at fatherhood... what's up with that?!

Ashley - posted on 06/20/2011

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I know just how you feel .. my husband is the best he has always been there for me and the kids ... takes care of us when we are sick .. cleans (once and a while) and even in a blue moon i can get him to do dishes lol... but really hes is awesome never thinks as the girls as a burden and never acts like he has to "babysit" them .. it pisses me off to hear fathers say that .. my friend/neighbour has a boyfriend like that i just wanna smack him

Nancy - posted on 06/20/2011

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My husband is a fantastic dad!! He adores our daughter and sets a good example by being very involved at home and by being a good hubby. Considering the kind of dad he had, I'm so proud of him and blessed with my choice of a partner.

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My husband is amazing, always has been. His family has HORRIABLE Dads. His own Father was never around so it was him, his Mom and his sister. His Mother hates him 1/2 the time so I have no clue how he became so wonderful, but I love it. He keeps me grounded when the kids are sick or hurt. My kids cry every morning when he goes to work, and jump all over him at night. I'm so lucky to have a wonderful true partner in the raising of our children. I, like you, find it really hard when other women talk about how lazy or horriable their husbands are. I know some are aweful, but I wonder sometimes if its just they dont look at the big picture and see how blessed they are for what they do do.

Christy - posted on 06/19/2011

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My husband is awesome! He's a great father and a great husband to me. It does help that we work on our marriage constantly and discuss the family's needs.

My husband takes time to enjoy each of our four children and make sure they feel loved. He teaches them all sorts of stuff and appreciates them as adults in training!

I do often feel that I could use more help around the house, but for the most part he's available for us! So glad you got a good hubby, too!

Cori - posted on 06/18/2011

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Mine is great too. He is always very helpful and attentive to our two year old. Occasionally I have to remind him to calm down when our son is acting like a toot but overall he is amazing. (He just gets frustrated when the little one won't listen but generally I'll remind him that he is only 2 and he takes a breath and is fine.) My older sister has the worst husband EVER. (Drug addiction, cheating, and slightly abusive dad.) It is hard to always hear her talk about how lucky I am to have found a nice guy. What am I supposed to say? "Sorry you got knocked up by a creep and then married him and proceeded to have 3 more kids with him." I never know what to say. I usually just smile and nod and try to change the subject.

Tamara - posted on 06/18/2011

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My husband is amazing, he has taken to my older two sons and treats them like his own. I have found an awesome man to have a family with. My only problem with him and his parenting is he isn't always available, he works shifts (10 days working 4 days off with rotating shifts) so I feel like a single mom alot of the the time, he tries he comes home every day and does do the best he can and I really can't get upset over that. This morning after working all night I woke up to a clean kitchen and fed kiddos. He even put something in the crockpot for dinner so I didnt have to worry about it.

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My husband is a good father too, he loves looking after our 3 boys and loves playing with them, he is great.

Jaime - posted on 06/18/2011

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My husband tries hard...he is a great father and husband and would do anything....but he is still "learning" though I don't think I would ever leave him home with the kids alone for a long period of time LOL.



But when it comes to things needing to be done around the house he is totally lazy and incompetent. I usually have to go behind him and do it myself or just don't even ask.

Teresa - posted on 06/18/2011

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My husband is the best ever. His sense of responsibility to his kids is over the top and he has always provided for all of us beyond just our needs. He is incredible.

My brother is a sh*tful father. Abusive, neglectful, horrible in general. My sister married a d*ck and they had two great girls but had to divorce because he was just a bad person.

I am lucky for sure but when I went looking for a husband, I went looking for someone just like my dad. I knew what bad fathers were like and I knew I wanted an intact family to raise my kids in. My husband was raised in an intact family and I was not. I didn't want divorce affecting my children. So one of the criteria for me was that he believed divorce was not an option and that family was everything. I was lucky but I was also discerning when it came to choosing a spouse/father. I am BLESSED!

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My husband is a great father to our 9mo son. He loves spending time with him. I really couldn't deal with a man who thought spending time with his own child was "babysitting."

Of course some people just aren't "baby people." I suppose a lot of men are like this. They become better fathers when the children are older.

Charlie - posted on 06/18/2011

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He was born to be a Daddy ......He loves being invloved with everything to do with the kids from playing with them to changing nappies , bathing, feeding ect my own father was much the same.

Shannon - posted on 06/17/2011

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my husband is a good dad EXCEPT when its time for feeding and diaper changing lol that repels him faster than anything its pretty funny he will be playing with them then be like oh no your wet or phew you stinky and then the words *HUNNY DIAPER TIME* no matter what im doing he will make me stop he has yet to change a diaper of feed them and its been 3 years lol im afraid ill go into labour and my daughter will need a change and he will request me to do it lol

Leona - posted on 06/14/2011

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YES!!! I have a wonderful husband and he loves spending time with our son, spoiling him and helping me out:)

Bridgette - posted on 06/14/2011

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Yes and no - when he is with our son he is a WONDERFUL father, very playful and attentive. My only gripe is that he doesnt generally pull his own weight unless I push him to do it, but I guess that happens with a lot of men. Even so, I would easily rate him near the top!

Brie - posted on 06/14/2011

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I don't know about feeling he is a better parent than me but he is amazing with our son... he has another sone who will be 9 in october and he hasn't seen him since he was 3 (we are currently saving money to go after ex-wife for visitation) because of that i think he tries a lot harder than normal to work with our son and be there.. even though i know it hurts him inside to be with our son and be missing his son.. but yeah he is absolutely wonderful!!!

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