Issue With Another Child at Child Care

Sam - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom and have recently started going to the gym. They have a great 'Kid Zone' at my gym where I pay to leave my kids while I work out. It's a great gym and they do a great job for the most part, but there's a 3 year old boy who wants to play with my 16 month old daughter, but he's to aggressive about it with her, so it scares her. She has been crying in a workers arms 3 times when I've gone to pick her up and each time they tell me the same thing about that little boy being too aggressive with her. Today when it happened, that child's parents came to pick him up and they didn't mention anything about the incident to his parents. Should I ask the workers to mention something to his parents? I've never left my children with anyone but family before, so I'm not sure how to handle this.

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Christy - posted on 05/26/2010

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Yes, the workers need to tell the mom what's going on! Tell them to, and also talk to the gym manager about it. And if they don't, it might be time to find another gym. In the case you can't go to another gym, and the workers won't talk to the mom, have a frank and assertive convo with the mom yourself. Good luck.

Patti - posted on 05/26/2010

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I feel you should talk to the child care worker this is there job . or the managment you pay to go there. I was in childcare good luck. Patti

Jamie - posted on 05/24/2010

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You mentioned the parent of this aggressive child works at the gym the parent then is going to be professional about your concerns b/c she is not going to want to lose yours or any other clients business especially if it is happening quite often, find the parent and explain to her you are feeling nervous etc.when your baby is left in the kids zone: suggest safe play zones infant, toddler and youth (under 5).

Melissa - posted on 05/19/2010

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You are NOT being overprotective! This is your child and no one will protect her like her loved ones. I feel for your "away from family" situation. We are in the military so family and friends are Never close. If that boys parent works there then you have even more leverage. You as a paying customer have every right to complain to management about this boys behavior and the lack of the child care workers to keep her safe while you enjoy your time.

Sam - posted on 05/19/2010

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I appreciate the advise. I should also say - we just moved to this town and are a 10 hour drive away from the closest family, so using family and close friends is out, and I also have a 12 week old, so doing a mommy/kid class is also not an option for me ... this is my ONLY opportunity for any kind of break whatsoever. I tried going at 4 pm yesterday (opposed to our usual 9:30 am ... and he was there then too ... his mother works in the gym, so he is there much more than most kids unfortunately!). I think there have been different workers when we've been there, so I don't know how aware they are that this has happened repeatedly. I think I should just mention it to them nicely. I was just worried that I am being overprotective. It's stressful leaving my kids for the 1st time, especially if they are upset when I get back!

Kim - posted on 05/18/2010

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Find another solution to the day care situation. A daycare worker is not going to lookout for your child as well as you will. What you do out of love is always done much better than what you do for money.



Work out when a friend or family member can be with your daughter whom she is comfortable with. 18 months is also the stage when they become more clingy and want to be held more often.



Find a class that is a Mommy and Me exercise class. You can work out WITH your daughter and use her as the weights. My kids loved this time and as they got bigger, my workout got harder.



WII fit is fun during naptime! Ride a bike with a seat or cart on the back. Jog to the park. Walk around the mall. Much to look at so staying in the stroller shouldn't be a problem.



A baby shouldn't have to be traumatized so Mom can attend and official workout group. There are many ways to exercise. It doesn't have to be in a specific building or with a group.



I must mention that I am strickly against daycare,

so I had to figure out how to get around it and still function.



Good luck to you

Maureen - posted on 05/18/2010

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I agree, you should start with the daycare workers. It is their responsibility as that is what you are paying them for. They should be keeping the other child away from your child as much as possible, they should also I think be the one's to let the other parents know that their child is acting aggresively towards your child. Maybe they can explain to him that he needs to play nice with the little girl. Hope it works out!

Melissa - posted on 05/18/2010

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If I were you, if you can, I would change my workout schedule. If that boy is there the same time everyday then go a few hours earlier or later. It is a difficult situation, parents are very protective of their kids, for very good reason, but it is difficult to tell if this parent might go off the deep end if anything is said. Either way the workers at the center now there is a problem with this child and yours so they should be keeping a closer eye on the two of them and distracting one of the two away from each other. Honestly, you can't blame it on the kids or the other parent if he or she doesn't know. You should start with the daycare workers. That is their job, especially since you are paying for the care.

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