Jealousy PLEASE HELP

Faith - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Am I freak or is it hormones but I find myself getting like jealous about my mans past relationships, friends that are attractive women and so on, how do I get over this because I have never been the jealous type and I thought women who are jealous were crazy and immature.. I hate this feeling I get all worked up and I dont say much to him about it I just keep my feelings inside but its like serious strong feelings and I dont know why or how to make them go away..

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Eloi - posted on 06/04/2010

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yeah i feel the same way and most of the time it'll become roots of our quarrel.. a simple asking will turns into a big trouble, and im tired of it so now i have to keep it for myself, i don't want to talk much coz i don't want him to think that i'm a nagger one..i also hated this feeling... really i am that's why ive decided not to touche or read txts messages from his celphone, to avoid reading unexpected messages from his ex...whao!

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ok hate to be the bad guy here.. yes hormones are yucky.. they do kind of cloud your judgement sometimes.. but if he was sending messages while even just dating you, hopefully thats not an issue now.. yes i would be concerned.. and you werent together long b4 you got pg. so you need to see where you all stand on each other, plus a very new mom needs a lot of support in every aspect.. good luck

Faith - posted on 06/03/2010

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thnk you so much i suppose talking to him couldnt hurt only make things better so i will see if that helps my crazy feelings :) in every other aspect of our relationship our communication is great until it comes to my jealousy lol but i suppose if we are going to be together for a long time this will help us build a better foundation

Kelina - posted on 06/03/2010

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I would be more worried if he was spending time alone with them. And i can understand if you ,ay have been having issues while you were pregnant pregnancy horomoes are OUTRAGEOUsly annoying. It's possible that at the beginning, things didn't seem set in stone, or he didn't realize that it would bother you. Believe it or not, men can be outstandingly ignorant when it comes to that kind of thing. I would try atlking to him though. Try to do it at a time when you're not worked up, just explain that for some reason you've been feeling jealous and you know it;s irrational. It might help to have it out there taht you're having these feelings. I always find that I feel better after i get the irrational emotions off my chest and I'm better able to control them. It may also be me, but i think communication is a big part of a relationships success. If we can't talk about how we're feeling however crazy or gross or whatever, then what will we have to talk about ten, twenty even thirty years down the road? Good luck hon!

Faith - posted on 06/03/2010

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well We have been together only about a year and a half, we have a 7 week old son and everything has been awesome lately we never used to get along that well but now we love each other very much he treats me like a princess compliments me so on and so forth but back at the beginning of our relationship i did catch him sending messages to other women calling them beautiful and sexy even tho they were well aware that he had a girlfriend, maybe im just scarred, and ever since i caugt him at that he hasnt done it again to my knowledge but hes pretty good at erasing internet history... but to answer your question i dont think he hangs out with any in person at all

Kelina - posted on 06/03/2010

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I was like that when i met my husband. The question is, is there a real reason for the jealousy? Does he hang around them alot, how long have you been dating, etc. I got oober jealous when he so much as mentioned kim but i talked to him and eventually i got over it. I became more secure in our relationship you probably will too. Give it time.

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