Just wanted to share my story

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I feel like I should tell my latest situation and hope that someone will benefit from it. I have been a SAHM for over 2 years now of my 5 and 2 yr olds. There have been times I have hated it and times I have loved it. I think it really is one of the hardest things to do.
Recently I applied for a job thinking we couldnt afford for me to stay home and that it would be better if we were both working. I got the job and was set to start all in a matter of a few days. Needless to say it was very overwhelming. My husband and I had to decide whether to put our children in day care or hire a nanny...we hired the nanny. So the day before I was set to start this job I woke up in a panic. My bedroom was a mess, I had 5 loads of laundry to do and a few arrends that needed to be ran in the upcoming week. Can you say nervous breakdown? I assumed for the majority of the morning that I was just nervous but the more I thought about it, the more I felt guilty for leaving my children. My daughter threw a fit about taking her nap and I rocked her for a few minutes like I usually do. I have never enjoyed it more. It was then that I realizes I would be making a mistake by having someone else do my job...at home. Needles to say...I didnt take the job. I have taken for granted the time I do have with my kids and This whole situation has been a huge eye opener. I truely do feel blessed right now and hope to turn over a new leaf by spending QUALITY time with my family. Thanks for listening.


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Sam - posted on 04/13/2010




I am a SAHM of 4 children. It is tough and many of times i have thought that i have to go back to work just to make the ends meet. Then i think about how would the younger 2 (who are 2 and 1 yr old) like that? Then i think you know what i cant put them in a daycare with strangers to raise them with their day to day activities, that is my job as their mother to do. So my husband has gotten a better job just so i am able to stay home and raise our 4 beautiful children.
I just wanted to say thank you for share your story it made me realize that i had made the right decision.

Angela - posted on 04/13/2010




aw i love it:) thanks for sharring:) i am also a SAHM and loveit! yes its tressful at times but i can not even emagine someone else getting paid to raise my kids for me:( to be the one to calm them down or make them smile or hug them when they get booboos...no way

Lisa - posted on 04/13/2010




I had always planned on being a SAHM even before I met my husband. He agreed with whatever decision I made, and even said he would stay home if I chose to work. I love being with my children and getting to see how they accomplish their milestones. I consider it a true blessing and a priviledge to be able to be the one to take care of their every need everyday. Noone understands nor can handle my children's personalities, needs, attitudes, tantrums, joys, etc better than me. I rather my children learn family values and morals at home with me than in someone else's home.

Thank you for sharing your experience. God bless.

Bobbie Jo - posted on 04/13/2010




Well I think its great that mothers can stay home with there kids! My husband and I done the same thing we didnt know if we could just make it off of his paycheck but the lord works in all diffrent ways! So to say I got to stay home with my baby girl! And ive never not worked so its a little diffrent but im enjoying every moment!

Alina - posted on 04/13/2010




Crystal, thanks so much for sharing this! I was doing daycare in my home and my husband and I thought it was a great idea. Even working at home, it put such a strain on us! I couldn't do everything for my family when I was working during the day with three babies! I found I could only do some things a couple of hours on the weekend, but was too tired to do much. My husband told me to quit last week. I've been catching up on my family, volunteering at my son's school again, and the atmosphere in our home is back to being peaceful. Even my children seem calmer and happier. I appreciate my family and being a SAHM so much more now. Some things just aren't worth the money! Thanks for the reminder :)

Sara - posted on 04/12/2010




I understand. My son is 14 months old now, and I have been a SAHM with him. There are days I WANT to get a job to get away (teething is rough!) but mostly I love it. I can not imagine going to back to work and having someone else raise my son. We do have to make some cut backs to be able to do this, but it is a sacrifice that is worth every minute!

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