keepin infant up more during the day and less at night??? ;)

Yesenia - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




how do i get my 1 month old daughter to sleep more and longer at night and less durin the day??? its seems like she got her days and nights mixed up so that causes me to be more tired during the day cause im up wit her most of the night and her dad has to be at work by 6am monday thro friday so its kinda causing a problem for me and him.what can we do?????????


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Holly - posted on 01/18/2010




At one month old you probley will still be getting up a few times at night. But I agree with the what they said about make it just about eating and diaper and then back to bed. Don't play or talk to much just make it about the minimum and what needs to be done. Then during the day after you've fed the baby play with her. I know everyone says feed sleep play, but really it should be feed play sleep. Try it. The baby may only play for 15 min after eating but don't allow her to fall asleep while eating, that might make it so she isn't eating full meals and makes her eat more often and sleep in smaller amounts. At one month you should be able to stretch her to only eat every 2 1/2 hours to 3 hours with a few 1 1/2 hour naps throughout the day. That will then give you an hour or so to get a little nap as well. The sooner you can get her to be on a schedulle the better. Try feeding her at the same time everyday. That will help with longer sleep patterns at night especially if she gets on a schedulle of eating every 3 hours during the day, because she will then at minimum get up after 3 hours. Just prepare mentally and physically (as much as possilble) to know the middle of the night feedings will continue for atleat a few more weeks to a month. But the sooner the schedulle the sooner the 6-8 hour night sleep. I hope some of this info helps.

Briana - posted on 01/18/2010




lol Daddy will have to get over it. :) You are both going to be tired for a while. And I see that you are a mother of two so you probably don't get to sleep when baby sleeps. So hopefully he is helping you get some sleep when he gets home from work.

But yeh keep it bright in the house in the daytime and dark at night time. But not so bright that it bothers her eyes because that would be counterproductive. And at night time don't talk or play with her when you get up with her. Diaper change, feed her or whatever needs to be done and then keep it quiet and calm.

Your little one will get on a normal schedule soon enough and so soon enough you will get to be on a normal schedule.

Also I swaddled my little one. When I brought him home I thought that he hated it. Then I watched "The Happiest Baby on the Block" and learned how to do it correctly and use it along with many other tips and I'll tell ya what... It worked like a charm!!! I was getting sleep in 4 hr stretches most nights which as you know it pretty good.

You can find it at but if you don't want to spend as much try amazon or something.

Bethany - posted on 01/18/2010




The human brain relies on light to know if it is day or night. Make sure that during the day she is in bright airy rooms, with the curtains open, or even outside for a little bit, especially in the late afternoon. When you want her day to start, like 7am or whenever, make sure she is exposed to bright, indirect light, to switch off the night time sleepy chemicals in her brain. Sunlight is great for telling the body not to sleep.

A baby that age still needs lots of day sleeps too, though, and she'll need a dark quiet place to do that.

As it gets toward bed time for night sleep, keep her in gently lit, quiet places, so her brain can recognise the lack of light, and start to secrete the sleepy chemicals. Be aware of what lights are on in the house. If it is brightly lit, like kitchens and living spaces often are, her brain won't realise it's night time, and won't settle down.

Also realise that you are now doing a job that does not keep normal hours. Her Daddy will need to stop expecting you to match his hours. You'll be needed at varying times all through the day and night. Your sleep patterns will eventually adjust to your baby's needs. Nap during the day when she naps, and be ready to jump to it at 2am, 11pm, whenever you're needed. This is your job now, this is what you do now. He needs to realise that, and support you by being as helpful around the house as possible. What do his work hours have to do with you, anyway? Unless you need to be driving him to work, you don't need to be awake for that. Let him get his own self off to work! You have your own thing going on.

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