Kissing on the mouth?

Kimberly (Edwards) - posted on 10/26/2010 ( 76 moms have responded )

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Recently I have been getting a lot of negative comments about how my 3 year old kisses me on the mouth instead of the cheek! I don't think it is weird at all but some of my close friends/family think that he is too old to be giving me my "Mommy smooches"! He doesn't kiss anyone else one the mouth and he is not a Mommas boy or anything like that! What do you guys think should it stop now? Or should I enjoy them until he decides he is to big for it on his own?

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This comment is for Sarah;
I looked up that article you mentioned. It was very sad to read about that story, but if you read the full article you would now that its an extremely rare case and the mom had caught the cold sore infection from her mom and had bearly broken out (unknowingly) when the baby was born. She did not know at al that she had a cold sore virus and the baby could have still died from the virus had the mom touched her mouth and then touched the babies hand and then the baby touched it mouth with that hand or even if she had kissed the baby on the cheek.. So, the baby may have died without even being kissed. Horrible story but that doesn't mean you should never kiss your child. Sometimes things just happen...

CARINNE - posted on 10/27/2010

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Definatly nothing at all wrong with this you should enjoy them because when they get bigger they may not wanna do it :) I still kiss my mum and dad on the lips when they leave and im 24! and the people that think any more of it are sickos!!!

Kymberly - posted on 10/26/2010

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My daughter is 1 and just started giving kisses :D I wouldn't trade it for the world! The funny thing is is that she will only kiss me, daddy, and Grandma on the lips. Everyone else she tucks her chin and ducks her head. I think its hilarious but if she's uncomfortable then I'm not gonna force her to kiss ANYONE! I couldn't imagine the day that someone told me kissing my child was "inappropriate" I would tell em to f-off personally! :D my child, my decision!

Jackie - posted on 10/26/2010

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oh please! I would love my little boy to be kissing me on the lips :) I always kissed my mum and my dad until i was about 5-6 years old! :) I think he will grow out of it...but think of it this way...they are only tiny once...when they get old and they dont want it anymore you will probably want him too. I say just let him take his time :) it just shows what a fantastic bond you both have :)

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You mean that with all the germs that our kids come in contact with, the one you're most worried about is something that can cause cavities? I'm sorry, not trying to be disrespectful but I don't buy it. I mean, really, kids are some pretty disgusting creatures if you think abou it. They pick their noses, touch EVERYthing, who knows what they do with their hands when you turn around for 5 seconds....and where are their hands constantly? In their mouths. If they are gonna get sick it's gonna be because of THAT, not from a kiss. And besides, your kids get sick, you get sick and vice versa. Even if you don't kiss your kids, if you're sick, chances are they will get sick too. It's because kissing isn't the only way we come into contact with them and in such close proximity, it's just a fact of life. Back to the cavities...I brush my son's teeth 2 or 3 times a day. Right now he's going through a phase where he wants to do it every time we're in the bathroom and I don't try to stop him. There are worse habits he could have. But still, if you're worried about your child's oral hygiene then brush their teeth more often. I just can't wrap my head around anyone who doesn't kiss their baby. Sorry.

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Lynette - posted on 07/04/2011

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OMG! how rude or these people. It is totally up to you wether or not you kiss your child on the lips. I have two children both girls aged 3 and 8 and they kiss me on the lips. Totally innocent and thats it. I think this is other peoples problem and not yours. What is the matter, are we not allowed to show our children affection or our children show us affection. I was kissing my mom on the lips till i was in my teens.

Tiffany - posted on 11/02/2010

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My 2yr son does the same thing. i think its fine until he gets older and decides to change it and kiss you on the cheeck. I honeslty think its kinda cute!

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My family has always kissed on the lips. I remember not liking to kiss Grandma on the lips though because she always scratched me with her whiskers. I am careful around extended family especially with my kids because of Herpes but with my husband and I we don't care.

Sarah - posted on 11/01/2010

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My daughter is thirteen and she still kisses me on tje lips, if I tell her not to she thinks I'm mad at her, she only does it when she goes to bed and she only kisses me like that, gives everyone else hugs goodnight. I'd never tell her to stop as I feel that would send her the message that it was wrong and I don't think it is, I'm het mum and I love her.
My youngest is 16 months and if you ask her for a kiss she gives you her chin to kiss. All kids are different and they need to fell loved and if a kiss or a cuddle helps show that then do it xx

Carla - posted on 10/31/2010

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I'm 22 and i still give my mum a kiss on the lips!
I kiss my little boy on the lips all the time, there is nothing wrong with that!

Nicole - posted on 10/31/2010

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What !! I love kisses from my son ! He may only be 4 months old but until he tells me he doesn't want mommy kisses.. I will continue to lavish my baby boy with all kinds of kisses and hugs and smiles-- do what makes you comfortable.... don't live each day how someone else tells u -- It's your child :) Happy Halloween !

Lydia - posted on 10/31/2010

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nothing wrong with the kissing. i think it's just people's minds that are so sexualized...

Cj - posted on 10/31/2010

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I kiss my children, just not on the mouth. If you want to do it, it's up to you. It's your choice. I just choose not too. I wanted to add another factor for consideration.

Carisa - posted on 10/30/2010

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My kids kiss me on the mouth. The only time we had an awkward situation was when our priest bent down to say hi to her (she is 4) and she kissed him on the lips...I don't think he was upset, just surprised. And I just thought it made a funny story. I only have girls, and I know sometimes people feel differently about boys. My general rule about things like this (including nudity) is that you should let your child decide when he is too old. He will get to a point where he doesn't want to kiss you on the lips. I say enjoy it while you can.

Jennifer - posted on 10/30/2010

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Why not?He is 3 years old, he is not 16 years old!He will know when he is too old to give his mother a kiss on the mouth!When he gets old enough for school he may not like that you call it a Mommy smooch,but he may still do it when you guys are at home!!!

Jennifer - posted on 10/30/2010

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i have a 4yr old and a 7 yr old and my 4yr old kisses me on the lips and my 7yr old sometime does sometime doesnt it depends on his mood.. and i dont see anything wrong with it you have to take chances on whats what.. you cant live your life in fear on what could or couldnt happen..i would just let him make his mind up let him decide when hes too old to stop kissing you.. until than dont let anybody tell you otherwise or let them put you down for him kissing you.. its not perverse or anything like that its a family thing..

Evelyn - posted on 10/29/2010

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there is nothing bad with kissing your child,i do it too, and my boy is 9. so don't worry yours is only 3 enjoy him now that his a baby cause when he grows up that's different,he wont want u to kiss him at all. i have 5 kids and i heaved kiss theme all. GOOD LUCK!!!

Cj - posted on 10/29/2010

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It's not a question of appropriateness but one of oral hygiene. I don't like to kiss my children on the lips mostly because I can transfer mutans streptococci, a cavity-causing bacteria. Caregivers can actually give children cavities by kissing them on the lips.

Erica - posted on 10/29/2010

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Tell them to Shut up! He's three there is nothing sexual or discusting about it. He's kissing him mother! My 5 year old neice still kisses us on the mouth, ther isn't an issue with this. There are times we must ignore our family!!!

Crystal - posted on 10/29/2010

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I don't see anything wrong with kissing your children on the mouth. My kids are 5 and 3 and we kiss them on the mouth, cheeks, forehead, tummies.. :) It's a form of affection and you shouldn't let anyone make you feel bad for that.

Marilyn - posted on 10/29/2010

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Hi, this is my first post. I have always kissed my children on the cheek because of flu and cold germs and I still do. I always kissed my parents on the cheek and they always got big hugs too.

Kimberly (Edwards) - posted on 10/29/2010

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Well the truth is in the numbers! Out of 56 comments there has only been 3 or 4 who say that they don't do it! and none of them think it a "sexual" act! I'm glad I asked! I can't believe I even let them get me so worked up over it!

Noel - posted on 10/28/2010

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no way!kiss your baby!forget what anyone else says,thinks, or does...i just love my kisses i get from my boys on the mouth the cheek the nose the forehead the tummy the hand kisskisskisskisskisskisskisskisskiss

Aenea - posted on 10/28/2010

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Girl tell them to sit down somewhere. I'm 34 with two boys and I still ask for kisses or they do and yes in the mouth. I still kiss my mother that way and my father when asked too. They are being very petty its no different if you weren't able to bath yourself and he had to wash you. He has already seen all up your insides. It's not a big deal that's your baby and you only have one life. Just my opinion..

Fiona - posted on 10/28/2010

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to the people who dont believe in kissing their kids on the mouth let me just say that your the one that is missing out and your children are also going to grow up thinking thats its wrong,its the most natural thing in the world and its a real shame that this act has been sexualized or deemed to unhealthy, i hate to tell you this but your kids are going to get sick regardless,and you and your kids are missing out on an important way of expressing affection.

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Enjoy it until he decides he is too big for it on his own. My son kisses me, his Daddy, grandparents and my best friends on the mouth and I see nothing wrong with it. To take it one step further, my aunt raised me, and my cousins are like my brothers and sister to me. I also have two brothers and a ton of second cousins. If any one of us, to this day (and we're all adults) were to see each other and NOT kiss on the lips and give a giant hug, someone would have their feelings hurt. That's just how our family is and I love it. I'm raising my son the same way and I think that anyone who has a problem with a child kissing their parents on the lips needs their head examined.

April - posted on 10/28/2010

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i say go for it...get the kisses while you can before he doesnt want them anymore. my son is only 4 months but i kiss him all the time because i know one day he wont want my kisses haha. if people do have a problem with it because they think its a sexual thing, then they are the ones who need to get their mind out of the gutter for thinking that. its such a special thing to kiss your child and to enjoy those loving memories. i say kiss him all you want!!!!

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My daughter always wants kisses. She makes smoochy noises and pouts at people all the time. Though I only let her kiss family and the closest of friends. Though I never thought it was weird. And neither does my family but I have no idea what other people think. I would personally just let it be until he/she grows out of it. I mean when they turn a certain age, you will become the dreaded parent which they want nothing to do with. Smooch all you can, while you can I say!! :D

Melissa - posted on 10/28/2010

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ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY!!! They're only little for so long...so enjoy it! My son is 7 and is slowly, on his own getting away from that...so take it while you can..that kind of affection is wonderful between a mother and her son.

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Oh for crying out loud..... seriously? Tell them where they can go! There is nothing remotely sexual about giving anyone a peck on the lips. People need to stop fracking around and start living their own darn lives! Tell 'em where to go!

Corena - posted on 10/27/2010

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Yet again, I am shocked at how many people have problems with this. I find that so weird!
I totally kiss my kids on the lips, and my mom, heck I even kiss some of my friends occasionally.
Are we really such an intimacy paranoid society?

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I kiss both my 7 yr old son AND my 7 yr old daughter on the lips, so does my husband. I don't and never have seen a problem with someone giving their own children a little peck like that.

Tiffany - posted on 10/27/2010

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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with it! You are his Mommy and don't let anyone make you feel bad for it! When he is ready to stop, he will. By making him stop you're just going to make him feel like he is doing something wrong when he is not. I kiss my daughter mostly on her cheeks, but sometimes on the lips. I try not to when it's cold season cos I don't want to pass anything if I'm getting sick. I have no problem with her Daddy kissing her on the lips either, although he feels uncomfortable doing it. But if she wants to kiss us on our lips when she is 3, that's fine with me.

Corinne - posted on 10/27/2010

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OMG thankyou! Another normal person. My husband thinks it's weird for me to kiss our kids on the mouth! His Mum is not one foremotional attatchment or outbursts, unless it benefits her some way. They're not forced to, and they don't do it to anyone else, not even their Daddy. As a matter of fact, my son only allows people to kiss the top of his head, but will literally climb my leg to plant one on my lips, makes me feel very special. Enjoy it!

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I personally do not allow anyone but my husband to kiss me there. I don't allow my kids to kiss ANYONE there and if anyone does or tries with my kids they find they have a new butt hole.

Tiffany - posted on 10/27/2010

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I am 21 years old and I personally still kiss my dad on the mouth. Nothing nasty..just a peck goodbye. He is my dad and I love him. Anyone who thinks that acts like that are sexual has problems. My 19 month old gives us kisses. Only my hubby and I on the mouth though. Everyone else on the cheek. If you're family, I see nothing wrong with it.

Charlotte - posted on 10/27/2010

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My parents more or less forced me to kiss them on the mouth til the age of about 5 or 6, they got upset when I refused. I don't let my kids kiss me on the mouth, my man is the only one who's allowed to kiss me there! In my opinion it's healthier.

Bethany - posted on 10/27/2010

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yeah, I'm not a big fan. My daughter has such lovely squishy cheeks, I like kissing her there. Not a big mouth kissing fan.

Elysia - posted on 10/27/2010

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enjoy it while u can still get it. he will be saying eww gross mum before you know it. my little boy is only 19months and has already gone off kisses. they all seem to be reserved for his new little sister. occasionlly he will walk up and give me or my partner one but not very often especially when he used to dish em out all the time

Kimberly (Edwards) - posted on 10/27/2010

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You all have made me feel so much better! For little bit they had me feeling guilty that I enjoy my mommy smooches! I am 22 and I still kiss my mom and dad on the mouth! It has always made me feel like they love me completely, holding none of there feelings for me back! (Does that make sense to anyone else?) I have decided the next time I see these particular people I am going to tell them to stuff it! Because only someone with a dirty mind or thoughts would take a child's kiss in a sexual way! That is how they were taking it too! One person even commented "How can you do that! What if the wrong person see you kiss him like that? They will report you!" Now you see why they had me so worried about it! I thought maybe I am just too old fashioned and no one really does it anymore! Thanks again you guys!

Antoinette - posted on 10/26/2010

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My nephew used to kiss his parents on the lips till he was about 10-11, my sister (his mother) didn't care but my brother in law (his father) was a little creeped out by it, until my nephling stopped doing it and then he felt like he'd lost something. My brother got teased at school when he was about 17 for kissing (on the cheek) and hugging Dad goodbye when he dropped him off but he just turned around and said "What? I love my Dad" put them in their place!!! I'll kiss my own kids on the lips, but I also show them that kisses on the cheeks are nice too.

Laura - posted on 10/26/2010

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My son kisses me and my family on the mouth and we are all cool with it,my bf's and his dad's family think you only kiss on the cheek.So I just work him the way to make all happy.I agree get the kisses while you can.

Judi - posted on 10/26/2010

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It runs in the line top of the head, forehead, nose, mouth, raseberry on the tummy. Back of the neck. My son is nearly 5 and didn't like human contact for so long that when he sneaks up and kisses me it's awesome. Plus the mummy spot at the back of the neck.

Megan - posted on 10/26/2010

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Treasure them. My son had a bad cold and we made a big deal about germs and now he only offers the very tip of his nose for kisses unless he is feeling very affectionate. And I still give my father kisses on the lips.

Florinda - posted on 10/26/2010

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My son is 5 and I still kiss him on the mouth....he is my baby...also with my little girl she is 3 and my yongest wich is 2.....I think there is absolutly nothing wrong with it.......also my kids only do it with me or they're father sometimes........never nobody alse...I will keep on smooching them ;).......................... we need to love on them as much as possible...they grow so fast....and sadly later it wont be that easy to get a kiss from them.......

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Those are Your kisses! Take em while you can!! He is not too old to be kissing you on the mouth! He will decide on his own when he doesn't want them anymore. lol

Candyce - posted on 10/26/2010

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I know some grown children who kiss their parents on the mouth. I also know some friends and strangers who greet one another with a mouth kiss. What's the big deal? My son kisses me and my husband on the mouth, cheek, whatever. His thing now is hands.... I kissed my mother on the mouth as a teenager at times. It's simply a parent-child thing and should be applauded rather than scorned. At least we show some kind of physical affection, lol.

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Jodi - posted on 10/26/2010

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Well...in the US it's also uncommon and makes people uncomfortable to greet each other with a more european kiss on the cheek. My daughter kisses on the lips and we're fine with it...do what's comfortable for YOU nad your kid...screw what everyone else says!

Crystal - posted on 10/26/2010

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really! i dont think that's weird at all.. my daughter is 4 and still kisses me. i wouldnt listen to these people..

Sarah - posted on 10/26/2010

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maybe everyone else is right but i suppose it depends on the parents upbringing as well. mine for instance wasn't very affectionate. nobody ever hugged me or kissed me when i was a child apart from one person which i won't get into as i'll start ranting about the past. i suppose it's ok to if they want to kiss mummy or daddy on the mouth as they're older to understand but not a newborn baby.

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