Lately my son wants to go to everyone else before me. Jealous mama

Stephanie - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have been since day one the sole provider for my 13 month old, wake up with him,feed him,change him,bring him to the doctors,bathe him,naps,sleep, and for the most part its OnLy me. Lately though, hes been all about his father, I think its awesome that he loves his dad, but he wants to go to him and cries when he leaves the room, he also will only let him get him to sleep anymore. It makes me sad :( does anyone else have this problem, or have any idea why??


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Kristin - posted on 05/13/2010




This is totally normal for your child. Your feelings about it are also totally normal. Your baby is testing his independence. Just continue to be there for him as much as he will let you and tell him you love him. This is a phase and it will balance out soon.

Adrienne - posted on 05/13/2010




I've been a full time mom now for 3 years next month. I have my two sons who will be turning 3 and 2 next month plus my 6 week old baby. My two older ones do what your 13 month old son does and from what I can tell you it's because my boys see me all the time so daddy is a "treat" to them. Also I'm the one who has to put them in time outs and say no to them all day long. So when they see daddy it's all play time with him. I'm a jealous mama because they never seem to want to be with me as soon as someone else shows up especially when it's daddy. But every once in a while my 2 year old will come up to me and hug me and says he loves me with daddy around.

Michelle - posted on 05/13/2010




:P I had the same problem with my daughter and she still goes back and forth between a favorite parent. It is really normal honestly for kids to switch back and forth between who they want to cling to most. We are very much like their favorite toys when you play with something constantly all the time for a long period of time the new shiney toy gets more attention sometimes. Daddy being gone most of the time at this age makes him the fun one the new shiney toy and also the fact he now realises people come and go at this age. Dont feel sad I know its hard when we focus from the center of their attention instead cherish and get photos of these wonderful times or use it as and this is a rare concept for us new moms ... a moment of rest or a break lol take a bath paint your toe nails go for a coffee or read a book and relax knowing that your child is so secure because you have taken such good care of him that he can love and trust others around him completely to lol because soon enough it will switch back to again where he is clinging to your leg and screaming when dad wants to hug him lol it can even change up daily. God Bless and good luck

Stella - posted on 05/13/2010




Its a stage that some children go thru. I have 3 that did that very thing. I used to cry because i didnt think they loved me anymore. (I mean, I carried them for 9 months, I gave birth to them, I raise them, watch them ALL the time, and all they want is daddy? Come on...) but it isnt that... I just think its a stage that is very normal. I wouldnt worry to much... try not to let yor child see. You'll be amazed at how well they truly understand that emotion.

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