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learning to walk

Erica - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter is 13 months and learning to walk on her own. She has done up to 20 steps on her own but she's getting to the point of being fearless... we've been catching her before she falls because we didn't want her getting scared but now she's climbing things and not being afriad of getting hurt.

Do we start letting her fall? I'm afraid that will turn her off to walking and she'll be afraid to try any more. Thoughts?


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Kristin - posted on 06/03/2010




Let her fall. See what happens, they are natural explorers. She will take her cues as to how to react to the fall from you. If you freak out, so will she. So....

Just let her experience what her body can and can't do yet. Comfort her as needed and encourage her to try again. Keep her efforts to age appropriate spaces and she will be fine for the most part.

Alli - posted on 06/03/2010




Our daughter just started fully walking today ( she's 9 1/2 months) but before she was constantly falling, and didn't seem to mind, so we let her! Now when she falls she just get right back up without hesitating. She is becoming brave as well, climbing on the couch and then trying to crawl face first off. We keep showing her over and over again to turn around and get off, but sometimes we let her go face first off our chair (low to the ground) to show her that its not the right way and that it hurts! I definelty think they learn better by experincing it themselves! Goodluck to you and your little walker!! so exciting:)

Kelina - posted on 06/03/2010




Yep. let her fall! Babies are resilient creatures who will learn from their mistakes and she won't stop walking just because of that. Walking is waaaaaaay too exciting. It's what mommy does! And kim, unfortunately i think the first gasp in the world came when eve had her first contraction! lol, but definitely the next one was when her baby fell. It's hard, but they ahve to grow up one small step at a time.

Kim - posted on 06/03/2010




The first thing you need to know in downhill skiing is how to fall safely.

By catching her, she is missing a HUGE lesson in natural consequences. Babies are short and padded for very good reason. They need to learn how to balance and what happens when they don't. Make sure the area is 'safe' for her. No stairs or cords or stuff to trip on and let her go. This is the first big step, no pun intended, to her being able to do things for herself (sniff sniff) It has to be done now while the consequence is small. My poor son's head was twice the size to balance on his little shoulders. He would walk, fall, landing on hands then head, (he just couldn't stop it from hitting the ground) and would get up and start again. This was necessary, I later found out because shortly after he began walking well, he was running!! If he hadn't learned how to keep his forehead from bouncing off the sidewalk early, I think he would have scars from it still 8 years later!

I think the first ever gasp in the world came when Eve saw Cain's first stumble and fall.

The reward for your daughter of getting to what she wants will be enough to keep her trying. Kids are more resilient than we Mom's give them credit for.

Happy Chasing!

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Falling a few times won't hurt or make her scared of walking. It might make her more cautious though. It's hard to let go, but you won't always be there to catch them when they fall. So let her fall if you see there is nothing potentially dangerous for her to fall on.

Terri - posted on 06/03/2010




Babies are more though than you'd think. My son started walking around the same age. He fell a lot, but he learned to catch himself and fall on his butt so he didn't get hurt. I think learning to fall and get back up is important in milestones like walking and pulling up. Of course you don't want your baby to get seriously hurt, but kids will get hurt all the time. You just have to baby proof as much as possible and always keep an eye on her. Walking is too exciting for her to stop doing it. She'll be fine!

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