Leashes...... heh

Grace - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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So, I was talking to my mother-in-law the other day and she kept telling me that once my daughter starts walking I should get one of those little kid leash/harness things and use it when ever we are out of the house. She said that she used one for my husband when he was a toddler and it 'saved his life'... She leashed him everywhere they went. Even if it was just out on the front lawn...



I do not plan on using a leash, nobody on my side of the family has ever used a leash.... I sort of think that in most situations a leash makes you lazy...



I was wondering what your views were on using the kid leashes/harnesses.

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Emma - posted on 04/03/2010

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I don't think its over protective or determining,
I mean you strap your kid in a car seat don't you ?
Why do you do that ? to keep them safe right
You take precautions relevant to the situation your in at the time, and those precautions evolve as your child grows.

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Grace - posted on 04/04/2010

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I'm sorry I didn't mean to bring up a topic that had been throughly discussed. I just hadn't seen it up on the board at all.

Maybe my view on the laziness part is that i don't agree with a lot of what my MIL did with my husband when he was a kid. She really wasn't that good of a mom... But I do see where leashes can be used in crowded situations, if you have a child that can't be controlled another way etc... I was just thinking about it in the way that MIL used it... all the time for every situation. For years...

Michelle - posted on 04/04/2010

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I use one on my son who is Autistic, sometimes he runs in public places, sometimes he don't like to be touched so you can't hold his hand when in crowded places, so for me it has been a life saver, keeping him safe. I do get funny looks out in public with it on him. But better safe than sorry.

Natasha - posted on 04/04/2010

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i think that yes if you wont even allow your kid to play at a park or in the yard or try to teach them then it is a lazy thing, but i can say that leashes can and have saved kids lives, when your mil used them though they were an armband and a string, now there a cool little back buddy, my kids had a monkey and they didnt mind them at all and i did have control over them when they tried to take off, usually i had there hand and the leash, but there was a time that one of the kids botled got away from me and i jerked back on the leash adn they landed on there but just in time to miss a car, it is scarey i am soooo all for a leash, i do have 3 kids a 4 3 and 15mo, the older 2 now know better but the baby will begin wearing one soon! to each his own

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I have never used one put i want to get one for the summer as my daughter is walking now and we love to go site seeing in a local place with dangerous drops etc but as lovely views etc and very popular with tourists to my country.I feel its an extra safe security and i watch my girls like hawks anyway and i am very attentive towards them..and in no shape or from would i not be the same while shes on it there.the harness wont make me a lazy parent..believe me.
Other than using it for that one area i have no need other wise,but i support moms who feel the need to use them more often.

Kimberly - posted on 04/04/2010

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I was given a harness when my child was born. When I was younger my mom used one on me that would just wrap around my wrist so if I ran I wouldn't get hit by cars when we were walking. I used the harness on my son once so far. He's 15 months old & has been running since 12 months. I feel a harness or a "leash" is necessary in some situations. I was walking down the sidewalk with him and that was my reassurance that he wouldn't get hit by a car if he ran & I didn't catch him in time. It has nothing to do with laziness, it's for his protection. I did feel bad for doing it but it was the only way to give him some freedom because he won't hold my hand.

Irina - posted on 04/03/2010

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If your child has hearing problems I'd recommend it, if not then you should be fine without one.

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I was one of those moms who said "I WILL NEVER use one of those!" Then I had THAT kid..... I had 2 kids within 1/12 yrs and my toddler was BUSY. I did daycare at the time and it involved walking to the school to pick up my nephew a few times a week. I can honestly say, that the day after my 2 yr old ran out in front of a BUS, I bought one! We didn't use it long though, and only on him. My second did not need one.

I think it depends on the child. Don't do it if you don't think you need one. Most kids are fine without. My son learned VERY quickly and we didn't use it for very long, but walking with 5 boys under 5 was hard to do without it.

Good luck!

Amy - posted on 04/03/2010

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not to be rude, but people who diss leashes - haven't had multiple children to take care of in large public places alone. Lazy, sure. if you use it all the time or in cases where ther is no danger. When kids are toddlers and in a large group of people, they can disappear in seconds. If you only have one child,may not be necessary. I went to the Toledo zoo with my kids this weekend. I'm glad we had it. although my daughter stayed right with me and we didn't really NEED it. I'd hate to think what would have happened if she got lost in a crowded aquarium and i never saw her again. I'd probably never forgive myself. If you're using it to CONTROL them, i don't agree. But just as a simple tool to keep them safe...all for it. Also had a friend who was walking in a park and her daughter started to fall off the bridge - her brother caught her by the buckles of her backpack harness. They can have their place. I thought it was insane to use one - until I had multiple children. I wouldn't go as far as using it WHENEVER i go out of hte house. But anyone who knows a 3 year old who sees a bug or toy - they don't always think and can dart into the road on a simple walk - even while you're telling them no. My cousin used it one season and said helped her daughter learn to stay close and now it's not needed at all. i think if things are used properly, they can be great learning tools.



if you don't want to use one, you can do games like red light/green light or stop/go. so they get into the habit of hearing and responding to "stop" to keep them out of danger. my daughter loves that game. only time we've used the leash is at the zoo and on walks since we live by a major highway and have to cross it to get to the post office.

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Lazy - haha. That's funny. I think they seem overprotective. But I can appreciate why a parent might feel a leash is appropriate in a crowded situation. Still, I've never used one. I don't know - mostly they just seem demeaning to me. A child is not a dog, ya know?

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For the love of Tuesday do we really need this debate again?? This was recently on the welcome page. This is just like the bottle/breastfeeding/smacking debate.

Emma - posted on 04/03/2010

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Hi,
I used the harness type with my kids when they where just starting out, but only when we where going to places like the mall or walking along the pavement,
my kids are only 14 months apart so hands very full when out and both where bolter's always in different directions too.
My kids are now 2 and 3 and i only use it on the youngest now when walking on the pavement as he always bolts towards the road.
I think they can be a life saver but are not necessary for everywhere

Dayna - posted on 03/31/2010

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I used to be terribly judgemental of women using 'leashes' or harnesses on their children, then I met a lady that used one and talked to her about her reasons why, I have realised that in some situations it is necessary and can make life easier for Mom without being detrimental or meaning laziness. It is not something that I would choose to use with my children but then I don't have the same challenges that some other parents face.



If you deem it unnecessary then don't use one :) It is your choice, but that doesn't make others wrong for using them

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