Leaving my son for the first time.

Eva - posted on 01/31/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi, my name is laura and i need some advice and fast. My husband and myself are leaving next week for three days. This is a work trip and he has to go. My issue is that i have to leave my 2 old year son for the first time and i dont think i can. I have a great friend plus my sister in law who is willing to watch him, but i keep coming up with different issues that might happen and that i am the only one who can care for him. My friend actually watched him for a year while i was at work and my sister in law loves him...they both love him to bits but i keep talking myself out of this trip. The thing is i will be leaving friday afternoon and back sunday night and we are going to las veags...nice eh and i am taking my five month old becasue she wont take the bottle so the company said that was fine. Im going back and forth on who should watch him and i think i might fake sick. I dont know if i can go? Please any advice here would be great. I really do need this trip...i just need a break.

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Angela - posted on 01/31/2010

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I feel the same way..My fiance and I have planned a trip to Vegas for three days in March, and my baby will be 9 months old by then, and he is staying with his paternal grandparents. I'm sooo nervous and don't feel like going because I don't know how good he'll eat without me there, and the fact that I can read his signals and I don't feel other people will know what he wants..I think my fiance and I really need to get away alone and spend time together, but at the same time I don't think i'll have a good time worrying about the baby the whole time!!...I think it's harder to leave a baby than a 2 year old..at least they can talk and tell people what they want...If a baby cries hysterically nobody knows what to do and you worry more...

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2010

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if you're friend has watched him a lot before then they would be the ideal candidate to do so again and if they need help then your sister-in-law can help too. it's always hard to leave them in the care of someone else but they will get by without you. i get really worried when my husband and i go out for ourselves but when i get home she's happy and smiling.especially if she's with someone who's watched her before like my stepmother.i think though that your sister-in-law might get upset if you choose a friend over family but if you sit her down and explain why she'll understand, but you need to go have fun with your husband and enjoy yourself because sometimes you really just need to get away.

Theresa - posted on 01/31/2010

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It's hard to leave your kds,especially for the first time. I really think you should go though. It will be good for you and your hubby to have some time together. It will also be good for him to have some time away from you. Yes, you'll miss him like crazy, but when you get back you'll be glad you went. As far as which person you leave him with it sounds like both are good options and both would be great with him.

Misty - posted on 01/31/2010

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I too have a 2 year old and while its never going to be easy to leave the first time is the worst. For your child, I would leave him something of yours (like a tee shirt or something) so he can still smell your scent to make him feel more comfortable. For you, well the only advice I know is what was told to me and that's just to grit your teeth and go no matter how hard it is. Don't let your child know how hard it is for you to leave either, it'll make it harder for them to see you go. I know its so hard to leave your child for the first time but if you don't you both will have some serious separation issues in the future. I know how you feel right now and although its so hard to go its going to better you guys in the future. Don't fake sick, you'll regret the chance to have done this I promise you

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