Let my 11 year old son miss school for a week to go on a trip to Disney....Have to notify his school of his absence and a friend said I shouldnt tell them where he is.....so what should I say??

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User - posted on 11/19/2013

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i wouldnt say that hes out there lol i would just say it a family problem or a family Reunion not that hes out having fun instead of being in school where he should be but i know that peeps that work only have certen days they have off so ,, no dont tell them cause if you do they can say you dont think your kids education is important to you and can cause lots of trouble

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Theresa - posted on 12/03/2013

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Thanks guys ....when they called I just said he was away and will return Monday....no questions.

Abigail - posted on 11/24/2013

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Why couldn't they schedule this trip on a vacation week from school?
Don't lie about it. You are allowed personal time off from school but you have to give your reason. Tell'em the truth and ask the teacher to give'em a packet of work he has to do. He can do it at night, before going to bed. But no need to make excuses/lies up. Not good!

Jodi - posted on 11/21/2013

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That's fine, do what you want with your kids. I will simply agree to disagree. If the OP chooses to encourage her child to lie in order to avoid consequences, then that is her choice too. I was simply giving my opinion on the matter.

User - posted on 11/21/2013

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i think that there is a lot of time off for kids to go do fun things and i do think that the kids should be in school i think my son has at least a months off from now to next year for summer ,, but you knw i do wander what kids r really learning in school my state is #48 in education 50 being the worse and i think we need to as parents stand up and stop these state mandates that keep telling teachers to do more and more and how to do things cause some of the things my kid brings home i have no idea what or how to do it cause i didnt have to do that as a kid and i do well as a parent as does others and for lieing you cant tell me that you have never told a lie to your kids or a friend etc and in my case me telling my kids about lieing well if you think about it theres not that many reasons to lie and it be a good one as in it can save your or someones life good not oh mom i did my home work lie thats what i mean and not hey she hit me first,,

Jodi - posted on 11/21/2013

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I guess that's the difference between you and I. I teach my kids NOT to lie. At all. As my children are pretty much almost grown (and one is an adult), it has worked out well for me AND for them that way. Sure, sometimes telling the truth has consequences, but teaching a child to lie to avoid consequences is setting yourself up for trouble.

From the perspective of a school, (I am a teacher), I see nothing wrong with students having time off sometimes for fun, providing they keep up with their work (whether it be doing work while they are away or catching up when they get back).

I simply don't agree with encouraging children to lie.

User - posted on 11/21/2013

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yeah i know lieing is bad i though about the kid wonting to tell his friends when he got back ,, but think about the schools side she is telling her son it is ok to drop school and go have fun just cause he can isnt that unfairness for his education ?? what do you think thats teaching the kid ?? even if the kid did all his school work there is things that he will miss,,and with the schools and CPS etc you have to lie sometimes and half the world lies,, lol i tell my son and nephews hey IF your going to lie make sure you have a good reason to and tat you better do a good job at it cause the reason to lie is that no one knows if your telling the truth ,, yeah i know your gonna hate that but this is what this world has come to ,,, dont ask do tell dont tell anything more than you have to its not anyone business what you do

User - posted on 11/21/2013

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yeah well i dont know,, cause where i live you dont have to tell the school anything ,, heck you dont have to have your kids in school you can say they r in home school and no one checks up on you,, but any way i do this some times when i sign my son out i just put N/A lol once i put NYB not your business lol i go t i look and they ooo ok haha but people r right if you tel them that he's going to that place instead of school then they will think that you dont takae his schooling series

Jodi - posted on 11/21/2013

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Um, i wouldn't lie about it. Just tell them he has had an opportunity to go on a trip with someone special, and you decided to allow it. If you lie about it, it will only turn around and bite you in the butt. After all, think about it logically, are you really going to tell your son to lie about where he has been, when all he will want to do is tell his friends all the fun he had!!! Not only are you teaching your child that lying is ok but you are going to be actively encouraging HIM to lie.

Theresa - posted on 11/20/2013

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Hi jenny one problem his sister is in the same school not sure if family emergency or family re-union would work...she didnt get to go on this trip my son was invited by his god mother and her son. I hate to lie but she said the same thing that when she was honest they gave her a problem...she goes every year at this time cause its less expensive and less crowded.

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