Livin at home wit my overprotective parents..

Samantha - posted on 03/28/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I at the moment am livin at home with my mom and dad i workin on gettin into college and gettin a job and all that i just bought a car and im workin on gettin on my feet .. i have a 2 month old and i go out one night with my daughter to hang wit an old freind and her sister and her babies my mom called me non stop and texted me non stop and got so mad at me...

i wish she would understand she is my daughter and she is fine and everythings okay... she hoovers over me and my baby and acts like i cant take care of her even though i livin at home my parents only take her every once in a blue moon i watch her day and night and i think i should be able to take her out on my own and be home on my own .. i want to know if anyone has this problem and wat i can do to get my mom to understand that my daughters fine and im a good mom and i wen i take her out on my own that she wont get hurt and to a faith in me that im a good mom



beacause wen she does that she makes me feel like she thinks im a horriblemom...

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Samantha - posted on 03/29/2010

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well see wen i do need help they help i just get tired of them thinkin they can raise her thier way wen i want to raise her my way

Gabriela - posted on 03/29/2010

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when i had my first son i had just turned 19. and too say the least my parents were not that helpful..my mom too would question and just want me to raise my son her way..what you can do is just take care of yourself and your baby and as long as you are doing what you need to do try not too worry too much. we cant control other people what we can control is how we deal with it..
it took her awhile to see that even though i was young i always put my son first.. she still gives me umm "advice" and i just say ok. i don't do everything she says because i need to learn on my own and if i fail then its only on me and if i triumph then its on me too. so just try to keep your head up..

Samantha - posted on 03/29/2010

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yea i think i might this week talkt o her about it cuz i love my daughter because of her i literally changed my whole life and i wouldn want to change it for the world i love the new me i love bein a mommy an d i love takin her places witme so my freinds can see her and meet her i just don watn to be gettin fone call after fone call like it used to be wen i ws 16 and i stay out passed curfew they would do that and now thier doin it again yet im a mom and a adult hopefullly she stopps

Kara - posted on 03/28/2010

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Hey i have the same problem with my in laws i am also living with them and they freak out when i leave to go up the road and take my 3mnth baby in the pram they wait for us to come home right by the door and it drives me crazy, i have sat down with them and talked to them about how i felt when they do that and the understood but they are his great grandparents and they will always worry about him every time even if we were not living with them so i hope that things work out for you just talk to your mum thats the best you can do right now tell her how you feel

Kristin - posted on 03/28/2010

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Just make smart, safe decisions. As a mom of preK age kids, words mean very little. It's all about actions. And really, that will hold true into adulthood. I know my biggest peeve is when someone tells me they are going to do something and then they don't. It's like, "Mom, I'm going to behave and follow the rules" and 10 minutes later back to fighting over stuff and shrieking over everything. That would be breaking rules 1 and 2 in our house.

Just keep showing her that you can be a responsible adult who is perfectly able to take care of her own child.

Samantha - posted on 03/28/2010

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yea i mean i am the baby of the family and im the only one of her kids that aint been moved out so i guess the whole her baby had a baby is hard cuz i have two older sisters the oldest has spina bifida and she moved out a long time ago then my other sister has a daughter a month older than mine and she moved out a long time ago so she never sees like any of them and im the baby and i had the youngest granbaby and prob thier last grandbaby and i understand she gets nervous cuz i had a rough past i was bad into stuff and wen i had my daughter everything changed and i want her to trust me and give me a chance but she just won even try .. to have like any faith in me

Kristin - posted on 03/28/2010

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I'm so sorry, that's hard. But you can't grow up if she won't let you. She is short changing both you and her granddaughter if she doesn't step back and help when you ask for it.

Samantha - posted on 03/28/2010

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lol well my sister just had a baby too n shes only a month older i feel like the only reason she does it to me is cuz i live at home and im a single mom and my sister has her own place and is livin wit her babys dad and she is so sucessful and i feel like she only doin this to me cuz i pretty much failed at almost everythign now i have a baby wit no dad and that she feels like she has to raise her and watch her like shes her own wen i do it all and i can do it by myself.. and i tried talkin and she got mad at me... its hard..

Kristin - posted on 03/28/2010

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Talk to her about how you feel. Her baby just had a baby and is in a tough spot. She may not realize she's doing what she's doing. All you can really do is sit down and have a CALM conversation with her.



Good luck.

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