
Erin - posted on 02/08/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )
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Sometimes, i feel so isolated and alone. I go to MOPS and playdates but I don't feel like I fit in. I am so lonely, my husband is always working and never home. I feel like i should get a job to get out of the house but I do NOT want to leave my children with anyone else to raise. I love being a stay at home mom but sometimes i get so lonely it borderlines on depression. What can I do? i am about to cry right now thinking about it. My husband doesn't understand. i do do things out of the house but I still fell so isolated and alone. Any advice or help? Because God only knows how bad I need some advice right now. See, now I am crying
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Erin - posted on 02/14/2009
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thank you everyone. It is so nice to hear I am not alone, even when I feel like it. It definetly helped me and even made me cry to relioze I am not as alone as I thought
Priscilla - posted on 02/11/2009
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Awww girl! I'm so sorry you feel this way. I felt like this when I had my son. I had always worked and being away from my family and a stay at home mom was a huge change for me and was very hard at first. I too would cry and then feel bad because I should have felt blessed to be at home with my baby and not have to work. It took awhile for me to get used to things. NOW, I'm over the top proud and excited to be with my son 24/7. Don't get me wrong, there are days where I want to pull my hair out, but WE have the control of what gets done around the house, what we can do etc. I usually go out and have lunch with my son because besides my boys, food is my #1 priority! I go get a pedicure and take my son with me and the people are so nice and I do give him a candy so he can chill out. If I had more then one kid, I would go to a museum or someplace where they can run around. Now, my hubby does understand me and understands that i need my space and since he does work and can't really help out, he leaves everything to me but understands i need my little treats and fun. I think you need to fix how your hubby see's things..I honestly think this is what is making you feel this way because it has to do with confidence. If my hubby wouldn't understand me, i would probably just go down and be depressed all the time. As far as mom groups, i did it once and thought it was lame! Main thing because all of them were older than me and i was the youngest and they thought i had too much in life for my age..go figure. Anyhow, as long as i have my boys, I'm all good. This is why you definitely need to be on the same page with your hubby. I hope you feel better. Your a great person for wanting to be with your kids. Is there anyone who can help take care of your kids and you go out and do something?
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I like talking to other moms on here. I also go walk around the mall or something. As soon as I get the money I want to sign up for the gym. The men dont understand. If I am ever to say something that sounds like a complaint he will say no one made you stay home. Dont get me wrong, he is grateful and now probably wouldnt have it any other way. I just tell him I need some alone time. I cant even pee alone anymore ;) I also like when I'm driving alone to turn the radio up real loud and sing! haha :)
Kristin - posted on 02/11/2009
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I dont have any advice for you but i feel the same way. I dont have a licence so its hard for me to get out. my husband is gone all the time on the riggs.I have no family close by to help either. People dont always understand how it feels and to read what you have to say makes me want to cry too. Alot of the times i hear that I am lucky to be able to stay home with my daughter but i dont feel to lucky to have to feel like this all the time. I was on depression meds and trust me they really dont help. they make you feel even worse. You know what helps me sometimes is something as simple as a walk. anything to get out of the house.
everytime you want to cry just look at your child and think of how happy your making them and the difference it will make in their lives.
Desiree - posted on 02/11/2009
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I am a mom of 2 and my husband works out of state so.....I understand everything you are saying because it sounds like my life. I am in MOPS (second year) I like it but there are times thatI don't like it because they don't seem to understand. But to know that you are not alone does help so if you ever want to chat let me know.