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Tasha - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My husband just started working 2nd shift. He goes to work at 3:30, and doesnt get home until 1 am. I am a stay at home mom with our 11 month old that is turning 1 this sunday. I LOVE my daughter, but I get sooo lonely when she goes to bed.... :( I am not used to this at all!!! :( He used to get home at 4 pm!!!! :( How do you cope with the lonelyness???

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Kelli - posted on 01/21/2010

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That is EXACTLY what I am going thru right now!! My husband just got his shift changed just this week. I hate it. Nights are very lonely for me. He works from 3:30pm to 11:30pm. He leaves every day at 2:30pm and don't get home till 12:30am. I get to see him during the day but it is still hard sometimes. I miss having dinner together. I have a 10 month old daughter. She is my world. I love her so much. She is a good baby. I definately miss her daddy at night. By the time he gets home I am in bed. I try to stay up to see him but I usually fall asleep before he gets there. I know what you are going thru. I probably didn't help much but I just wanted to let you know that I am going thru the same thing. I hope we get used to it:) send me a message anytime if you want to talk:)

Shana - posted on 01/20/2010

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I kinda undertand where you are coming from...my husband leaves for work at 7am and doesnt return until approx. 7pm and I only have the 2 month home with me...I have started to change up the baby sleeping because if he's up i'm always on the move with him...need it be changing a pamper,feeding him or reading to him....I'm almost certain u clean the house and do house duties during the day but maybe you should switch up a lil so u can occupy your time in the evening...by the time u finish that u would be so tired u will be out of it by the time ur hubby returns home

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Sherry - posted on 01/21/2010

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I have found things to use my time or go to bed early. Reading books, bubble baths, chat with friends on facebook. I know it seems hard right now but u will adjust to it and actually look forward to your quite time. If ya ever wanna chat look me up.. Keep ur head up and keep smiling..8)

Tasha - posted on 01/21/2010

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wow, it is amazing how similiar our stories are!!! :) My daughter misses her daddy too, she crys for her "da da" when she gets done with her dinner. It is soo sad!! :( I have been TRYING to stay up at night so that I can have dinner with him, but between my daughter waking up at night (she is teething... enough said!! :P) and him getting home soo LATE, it is really wearing on me!!! :( :( :( :( I am glad that I am not the only one in this situation!!!! :( I am trying to be thankful that he has a job when so many others are without. That is what gives me strength!! :) I would love to get together and talk on facebook if you wouldnt mind? :) Have a great night with your little princess!!! ♥

Leslie - posted on 01/20/2010

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I totally know what your going through! My husband just started the school semester and he is working as many hours as his work will give him. So its back to barely seeing eachother. I dont know how long you knew your husband befor you got married, but one thing I have found I love to do is scrapbooking. So when I get very lonely I will go to my box of "to do's" and pick out one of our dates and scrapbook it. I have also been learning yoga at home on our wii while my daughter takes her naps. Sometimes though I just cry and let it out, it does getr lonely!

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hi, im a single mummy so i no how u feel i just live wiv my daughter im wiv her all day and nite buy myself and it does get boring and lonely especially in the evening,

when my daughter goes 2 bed, i find lots of stuff 2 do, watch the soaps! read a magazine, paint my nails, face mask! tidy house, plan stuff 2 do the next the day my daughter loves sticking/painting so i make sure its all ready 4 me 2 grap when she wants 2 do it! theres loads of stuff ring a friend, sort out old clothes,

coz im on my own 24/7 wiv her thaeres alot of stuff i cant do when she up in the day so nite time is my time! it will get easier 4 u ur'll find stuff 2 do and u will get used 2 it.

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It helps to have a hobby or two(I knit, sew, or make bracelets). You could always ask a friend over to visit(talk or watch a movie on tv). Take a short nap & then catch up with house stuff. May be even learn something new. Good luck. :)

LEIGH - posted on 01/19/2010

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Happy Birthday Hope!!!! I've gone through this myself with my first child. It does get lonely just realize it doesn't stay that way forever. There are many things you can do. You can read, get in some exercise, do little chores that you couldn't do during the day. Read a book, or just enjoy the quiet time because little ones grow up fast. Pamper yourself take a long shower/bath do your nails. Or you could have fun finding new ways to torture your hubby (just kidding). I'm doing it all over again with my 6mth old. Ten years ago they really didn't have sites like these, use them I found a lot of old friends and new ones going through the same thing. Maybe we could start a new site--Mom's that are lonely and looking for their Sanity! That is if we ever had real sanity before kids

Cindy - posted on 01/19/2010

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My husband works 2 weeks day ans 2 weeks night and when he is on nights its 7pm to 7am and I get bored and lonely a lot. I try to clean some at night I seem to get more done then during the day b/c know one is in my way. I also dvr some shows I miss during the day that I might want to watch and then I sit down and watch a little. I have family that live in diff states and some times I will write them a letter instead on emailing them and I may get on the computer and find games to play. It gets a little easier, but still gets lonely most of the time.

Cara - posted on 01/19/2010

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well i am in some what of the same spot my man is a night owl and can not change it and i find myself lonely and the best way i have found to deal with it is to find friends online during those hours. another thing is to find something you love to do like crafts reading and stuff like that it will help kill the time

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2010

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My fiance works the night shift so I know what your going through.After our son goes to bed I usually try to get some chores done I didn't get to during the day. I also like to use the time to pamper myself i.e doing my nails. I like to read so sometimes I jsut curl up with a book until I get tired. It's rough but look on the bright side, after missing your man all night when he finally does walk through the door you'll only love him more!:)

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