married to a "macho" husband ...is it a cultural thing? im a stay @ home mom....

VILMA EVETTE - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my husband is very controling and im supposed to stay @ home and clean, cook, take care of my son and depend on him to buy what me and my son need and/or want...am i going crazy...it feels like an overload in my head it is very depressin...i am only 22 and my hubby is 32 what can i do to get back some sanity...its very frustrating...help please...

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Theresa - posted on 01/17/2016

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I was your age when I ended up in the same position, I hate to say it but if you try talking to him and he shuts you down and is unwilling to compromise what your doing now is what it will remain, unless its a case like mine which just got worse the longer time went on.Mine is unwilling to change and I wish I had left years ago. You need to have a heart to heart with yourself and figure out if your willing to spend the rest of your life like this and if you truly say no then you need to end the relationship.

Candyce - posted on 06/02/2010

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Same here, only I'm 23 and he's 49, and he is also the one who wheedled me into staying home then getting mad because i do things differently... Apparently only the man's opinion counts, have you noticed? He likes the bed made, but I hate it, so it must be made since he's "the man". Pretty much, every now and again we'll have it out, or whenever he's mad that the dishes didn't get done for a day or the Boy messed up the bed after I made it (though he'd rather just believe I didn't make it...), he'll blow up. After nearly three years of it, I'm just tired of fighting, so I end up smiling and nodding, which then infuriates him because apparently I "don't talk to him anymore". You can't win for losing mama, unless yours has a bit more sense than mine. Is he at least willing to see things from your viewpoint, even if he doesn't agree with it? If so, you're ahead.
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Andromeda - posted on 08/26/2009

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I'm so sorry you're feeling like that. Have you talked to your husband and expressed your concerns in a way that doesn't make him feel like you are attacking him? I am complete opposite of you,at age 21 I met my husband and he is 5yrs older. He also thinks that he should be the one to provide and I should be the one to stay home,he actually doesn't want me to work. I however, have always wanted to stay home and do all the "womanly" chores. I have no problem not working and taking care of our kids and him work/provide and buy us things. Do you feel like you need to at least have the option to work? My hubby doesn't care if I was to get a job, at least I'm happy doing what I want. I say talk to your husband again and let him know your feelings.Good luck!

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