Men... Clueless !!!

Andrea - posted on 12/31/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I had my baby four months ago and the baby's dad has left me because of my mood swings and I have been suffering post natal depression, he gave me no support only made me feel worse I dread facing raising my baby alone I already had two children with my previous partner there now teenagers so I know what lies ahead of me.

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Jodi - posted on 12/31/2013

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Andrea, are you getting help for your post natal depression. I know what the baby's dad has done is wrong, he needs to be far more understanding of your post natal depression, but maybe you need to seek help for it as a couple. When I was going through this, it was extremely severe (I was hospitalised at one point) and one thing we did do was attend some of my counselling sessions as a couple so that my husband could understand what was happening to me and so that HE could find ways to cope too. It isn't only the person with depression that needs help, but those around them as well. It isn't fair to blame him for not being able to deal with it if he hasn't been given the tools. Of course he is clueless! Anyone who hasn't been through it is clueless, they don't understand.

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Andrea - posted on 01/01/2014

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Aw thank you Jodi, it's so good to hear I'm not the only one I really was starting to think it was all me:( yea I have been subscribed anti depressants but there only mild I think I may need to go back to my gp. I don't think he is interested he constantly tells me "it's all in my head" and I'm a horrible person :( which I'm not, having the baby just made feel insecure in so many ways and then his attitude on top of everything. I think I'm probably better off without him he seems to only add to the problems. And he's walked out on me at least ten times since I had my baby the first time she was only ten days old because I got upset with the amount of house work I had to do most of it down to him.... Messy pig!!! He thinks his life should stay the same he doesn't realise that when you have a baby things change.

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