Mom's without drivers licenses...

Caitlin - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




I was surprised at how many mom's don't have their licenses. I was wondering why so many don't?

I'm 21 and don't have mine. I didn't have any motivation in my teens to get it because my family was scrapping by month to month with no way for me to get a car. Then I met the love of my life who had no problem driving me around, and ever since we had our son money has been a short coming, again no way to afford a car for myself.. I've learned how to drive but I have my license and now that I'm 21 it almost feels shameful to go in and take the test being 4 years older than everyone else acquiring a drivers license.

What's other Mom's take on NOT having a license?


Jstefanir - posted on 04/17/2015




For you ladies in your 20s and 30s that don't have your licenses - don't be embarrassed. In many cities with good public transport such NYC, Boston, San Francisco etc. many people don't get their license until they are older. However, try to not put it off to your 40s and 50s. That's how my mom ended up where she is. We lived in Boston until she was well into her 40s and she always got around fine in public transport. Life threw an unexpected curveball, we now live in Houston where public transport is almost non-existant. She's 54 and can't drive. Now, she's afraid to drive. Heck, she scared me. Couldn't even keep the steering wheel straight. I now have to shell out $500 to get her into adult driving lessons because I'm scared for her to drive my car (I have liability insurance bc I'm 23 fresh out of college and its all I can afford) and I'm afraid for her life. Driving school cars have dual gas/brake systems.

Chelle - posted on 05/17/2010




Yes i am 34 and dont have mine. I really wish it was just something i made myself do when i was youjnger but i was never interested and am the kind of person that won't do something just because everyone is doing it.

So far with one kid its been ok and hubby has been ok but with another on the way i really feel i need to get it. In the past driving on the roads has just freaked me out, the whole idea of it. But i feel it is something i just have to do. I just dont feel like i am a fully responsible mother without one, what if my kid(s) got sick and it was an emergency and i couldnt drive them anywhere. So this year i am biting the bullet. I have even started learning for my L's again as i had them and extended them for as long as i was able to.

And the last time i sat for my L's i was the only one with a proof of age card and it was a room full of high school students! And i failed the damn thing!!


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Caitlin Marie - posted on 01/13/2014




I'm a VERY young mother.I need to get my License. Do any Of you know a program where I Can It faster because I Am extremely Young Single mother? .

Marcia - posted on 05/16/2010




I'm 36 and I don't have my license. I feel like kicking myself for not getting it sooner. However I live in the city where transit is right at your fingers. Now that I have a child, my husband is getting exasperated driving us places. If we weren't in a financial bind, I would go and get my license right now if I could.

Bethany - posted on 05/16/2010




My sister is 38 and doesn't have a licence. Husband drives her, or MIL, or friends or bus or taxi or walks. She has 4 kids 8yrs up to 14 yrs. Her eldest will be able to drive her soon. haha

I didn't get mine until I was 21, because I was travelling about and my learner's permit kept expiring. Age has nothing to do with driving, it's how well you do it you have to worry about.

Alice - posted on 05/13/2010





I didn't get a license until just before I was married. It was odd, but I never really needed/wanted one as a teenager. Money was always tight. Then my husband (then fiance) suggested I get one becuase it would be good to have. I rarely drive anywhere now, but for about two years I did go to work 6 days a week and it was convinent to have a license then. I remember trying to buy a DVD for my Dad, (Braveheart) & it was rated R so I couldn't get it b/c I had taken my bike to the store & left my license. That was really embarrasing to have two kids with me, our whole bicycling trip was to get Boompa a birthday gift, and we couldn't buy it because the clerk at Wal-mart thought I was under 18!!

Don't worry about the test part, who cares how old you are? You're just moving on for your kids. I worked at a nursing home & one lady there was 96, had never had a license, but when she left to go back home, she took the driving test, passed, and now drives herself around for the first time in her life! I'll bet no one was older than her in that testing room! :) Good luck.

Lisa - posted on 05/13/2010




I grew up in the city where you could walk everywhere, then moved to the suburbs where you can't get anywhere w/o a car and got used to being driven by someone. now I feel helpless, I can only walk...I need to walk w/a 3 year old b/c of meds...but I know how to drive. scarry isn't it. I know that I drive better than most people I know w/a license. But b/c I take certain meds I cannot get my licence to drive. It saves us money but takes time from the person who would need to drive me wherever I needed to go. I suggest that you go in & take that test... so what if you're older than everyone else, at least you're not going to have to drive w/a curfue like the others. they r jr drivers. you r over 18...just do it get it over with & gain your independance. I may never get my chance it while you can.

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