Mommy is Sick...Leave Me Alone...

Doriss - posted on 11/20/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have been sooo sick this pasted week...w/ congestion and a killer cough. I have zero energy and wish that I could just go in bed, lie down, and sleep all day...
But with a 17 month old, a 4 1/2 year old who has everything from pre-school to dance classes, and a 13 year old - who sometimes requires more attention than my toddler...
my hands are full on a normal basis, now that I am sick...I cant even get up, get showered, and get dressed to face all the other moms out there...I try to rest for minutes at a time..and have been unable to cook...

My point is - there is a lil' frsuteration with the hubby...he works his normal 8-5 job...then he comes home, plays with the kids..and does help with little things like getting them bathed and tucked in at night...but doesnt take the bull by the horns..he still waits for me to tell him what to do regarding dinner, and doesnt just take let me rest...I feel like there is lil' sympathy from him...
BUT when everyone else is sick..the hubby takes a day off & sleeps, kids get to lay in bed the whole time...I just have to keep going....I know this is the "hard" part of being a 24/7 stay at home mom..but geez...dont we get time to recooperate and get better...

Just wanted to my fellow mom's... :)


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WIthout reading what other moms had to say I just want to say " I hear ya loud and clear!!!" Somedays whether Im sick or not and ask my husband for help its like talking to a brick wall! I go to a book club once a month (to try to give me some ME time) and I feel if I dont make bottles and lay out food I fear our girls wouldnt eat at all!! I know he's very capable he just acts lazy so I'll do it myself. All I can say is "you're not alone and I feel for you!!!" Good luck and God bless!

Michelle - posted on 11/20/2009




Id get your 13 yr old to help you out...get him to take the 4 year old away from you for an hour to play in thier rooms or in the garden. I know I was able to care for my 8 month old lil brother at the age of ten...boys can be different to girls, they have less patience and being that your 4 yr old is a girl, He could always just read her a book before bed time then dad can put her to bed. Maybe you should go to bed earlier than normal.
Get a take away! aint gonna hurt them all for a night or two! lol
Most men need to be told what to do....they dont have initiative like us women when it comes to the domestic part of life.
Get some multi vits down you and drink plent.. take some paracetomol and you should feel better..if not you may have a chest infection been as you mention conjestion. have you tried vicks inhaler or similar product.Go see the Gp. Does your 17 month old nap in the day? sleep when he sleeps.
I wish us mums could click our fingers and be in dream land for a day or two to re-cupperate...we just have to get on with life...but your husband needs to help out!

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I know when I was 13 I could cook simple meals and clean the house. Have her (um, i thot you said it was a girl but i'm not sure anymore lol) Regardless boy or girl, they can make simple meals, they can take care of the younger kids at that age. Sure, the floor might not be swept to perfection or the dishes completely cleaned the way you want or wish but let them help and carry some of the burden. Bout the hubby, mine is awesome but just gotta remember that not every guy thinks of everything a woman would (yes even after having been told every day lol) lay on the couch and direct! lol

Caryn - posted on 11/20/2009




Maybe see if DH will take the kids all out tonight, its friday so I'm sure they could find smething to do :) You stay home and get some rest. You won't get better until you :)

Lorna - posted on 11/20/2009




While it is the hard part of being a stay at home mom, it doesn't mean that you should suffer any more than any one else. While the 13 yr old should not have the responsibilities of an adult, there could be a little compassion on their part and help you out a bit more. Just for while you are sick. Then if they do help out, be sure to carve out time to do something special with them and only them.

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