Mother in law “temporarily” living with us..

Destiny - posted on 12/12/2017 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I’m trying to hold my patience with her but it’s getting really hard... so she is living with us until she finds a new place after the holidays. I offered her to stay so she didn’t move into a really bad neighborhood to begin with. Well, the husband and I have had some issues prior to her moving and her being here made that first few weeks worse. She stepped out of place during an argument between my husband and I, getting in my face. I told my husband before that I didn’t want our business for everyone to here but he made it public to her. So she apologized after since she was wrong but things have not been the same. Since I’m a stay at home mom, this is my “job” or “ship” sort of speak. So I run things a certain way. She is very judgmental and always has a bitchy attitude. (Before this move we got a long however) but she walks around like “this is MY sons house I can be how I want” when I try to parent my children she’s always right there and when I left my 2 yr old throw her tantrum and not baby her, she has some rude snarl or remark. She is terrible at cleaning up after herself, she does dishes occasionally but looks at me like why can’t you do them every day?shes always breaking or ruing something (on accident, but my kids are less clumsy then her). My house is not always clean. I have 3 adults, 3 kids and a dog.. it’s not gonna happen. She expects me to always cook when my husband and I have a certain schedule.. I’m just really sick of it. I feel so uncomfortable and not myself in my own house. I just needed one vent.

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Kassie - posted on 12/15/2017

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I am so sorry!!! You are definitely not alone in how you feel! I am here for you and praying!
Maybe, if at all possible, to set boundaries with her? Or, maybe find some activities outside the home that she can go to? Recommend her to be a volunteer someplace or, depending on her age I apologize, maybe a senior center?

Avidreader9559 - posted on 12/15/2017

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I am so sorry you are in this position. It is one of the hardest IMO. I agree with what has already been shared. I think setting boundaries for the time your MIL is with you is an excellent idea.Then let your husband set them up with his mom. Would you be able to take some time for just the two of you to talk about what you want and need in this situation? Would he be willing to have the hard discussion with his mom? That way you two are on the same page and you know that you have his support. In my experience my MIL's attitudes and behaviors don't bother me as much when I know my husband is supporting me. Praying that you find a way to be comfortable and be yourself at home. Blessings.

Mercedes - posted on 12/14/2017

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I think staying at home is one of the most important jobs, kudos to you!!! While is a 24/7 job, housework is never done, I know this well, I'm one too. I'm sorry your MIL is causing stress in your home. I think you and your husband have been wonderful to host her during this time, but is very important that she acknowledges the difference between the time her son was wasn't your husband, living at her home. He's a husband and father now and you're his priority and most immediate family. I think is time you and him have a serious conversation agreeing to determine which boundaries to set with his mom to preserve and strengthen the relationship. He should lovingly address these things to your mother in law. I pray that God prepares hearts, give you all words and wisdom.

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