Mother of 3 boys. One is 4 years old and the other two are twins who are 7 months. I feel like I'm losing my mind sometimes and that my life is not my life anymore. I don't have time to do my hair get dress up or do anything for myself anymore. I adore my kids, I just feel I need to recharge my mind at times. My husband works so basically it's me taking care of my kids. I don't have my mom here to help me. Today was a rough day one of the twins was crying all day and my 4 year old acts out cause he wants all my attention.

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Vicky - posted on 03/26/2013

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Yes my son does help. He takes out all his toys but he puts them away too. Thanks

Vicky - posted on 03/26/2013

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Hi Anna thanks but I'm no hero smiling. I'm just a mom trying to do the right thing all the time. I did alot of thinking last night and I am going to make some changes to try an make it less stressful for myself an my family. I decided to turn a blind eye on the daily mess. I like to see everything neat and clean but the reality of it when you have small kids this is impossible. I rather take the time an enjoy my kids than worry about the mess. My husband is heaven sent because he deals with my moodiness. I don't want to be one of those mothers that are constantly stressed out and yelling at the kids. It breaks my heart for my older son because he wants my attention all the time. He is constantly asking me if I love him and I love him with my entire heart and soul. I assure him everyday that I love him. My twins are heaven sent although its so much work but I love them so much. I just have to adjust my way of thinking and my behavior because my kids are here to stay and I must enjoy them now.

Anna - posted on 03/25/2013

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I guess there is a case of postnatal depression perhaps - and it's okay that you are crying. I also could not hold my emotions inside and cried because felt that I did everything wrong and even I am a bad mom. When my elder son asks what's up(I can't hide somewhere at home to cry because we have only two rooms and the kitchen in our flat, many Russians live in flats not a house), I honestly explain that his mom is tired to do all the work at home and I ask him to help me(4 or 5yo is good age to do some of the chores) and be more pationate son. He understands that I'm not kidding and the things are serious. Sure, he agrees and helps a lot. Maybe it is not the good way out but that helped me. Just know, Vicky that everything will be okay soon - your organism will get out of depression(every woman has such thing after the birth of her baby) and your son will get his little brothers as normal situation - 7months, wow! they started to try to get the toys, and maybe their elder brother's toys. O fcourse it makes him feel upset:) But he will get used to.. very soon. Oh, and when my 3rd baby(the girl) was crying and my elders want much my attention I was trying to involve them into the process of making baby calm, I was kissing them and saying thankyous for any little help from them just to let them know that they are loved much too. I don't know if I'm right or not and not sure that it will help you, but I really want to help you, Vicky. Because I know how it's hard. Mmm, you even a little hero for me - I don't have twins.. I even can't imagine what a huge job it it! You are a good mom! just let the time pass

Vicky - posted on 03/25/2013

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Hi Anna. It's ok I understand what you said. I love my family so much but it's so overwhelming. I want to be the perfect wife and mother juggling the two can be difficult. I cry sometimes because I feel so overwhelmed. I don't like to do that too much because my 4 year old gets worry when he sees me crying and it breaks my heart. My husband tells me that I've become very mean but he doesn't understand the amount of work that I do. He cannot even do it for a few hours without stressing out. Today was not a good day. One of my twins was crying all day and my 4 year old constantly wants my attention.

Anna - posted on 03/25/2013

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Hello, Vicky! Poor you:( The same situation with me - my husband, I and 3 our kids(5, 3 and 1yo) live far away from all our relatives and friends. My husband met some new good friends at work, but I am a full-time mummy and have no time and chance to find new friends here. And may be there is no need to find some here because our kids take ALL my time:) The only thing that makes me calm is that in some years my lovely adorable chipmunks will understand many things and it will be easier to deal with them. Frankly speaking, i am glad to find you here - in such case it seems like I am the only in the whole word who is SO TIRED:) Buy the way, I am from Russia, so sorry me please, if I made some grammar mistaks or so :)

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