Much needed help establishing a routine/schedule!!!

Crystal - posted on 01/09/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am a new SAHM. I have a 5 year old (who attends preschool daily) and a 2 year old. I am having a very hard time establishing a good schedule for us. It seems that I do so much and am busy all day long, but at the emd of the day it feels that I accomplished NOTHING!! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!


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Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010




I agree with the other posts...give yourself a break! I have 1 in 1st grade, 1 in afternoon preschool everyday, and a 5 month old..some days I get a TON done and other days I just take my "preschool break time" and for 2 hours....I sit on the couch and watch tivoed soap operas...LOL And its great for a good re-charge!

What works best for me is a tip form the Flylady (Queen of Clean) book....set a timer for 15 minutes and focus on ONE room or area. If you break things up into 15 minutes you would be AMAZED what you can accomplish! And I pick ONE major thing that needs my attention a day....for example the breakfast bar in the kitchen (which looks AWFUL right now ;-) and if I get that completely done...I am happy. Because along with everything have to make 3 meals a day and snacks and rock to sleep and ready stories and run errands and give out hugs and kisses and as long as my boys go to sleep happy at the end of the day, right now that HAS to be enough for me ;-) I also try to EVERY morning....first thing put a load of laundry in the gives me all day to remember to put it in the dryer and at least I get one load done everyday...LOL

Good luck!

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I've tried to keep myself to a schedule, it hasn't worked out exactly, but pretty close. give yourself some slack. My kids go for a nap after lunch, but sometimes they sleep longer than other days. I just leave them to sleep and whatever errands I needed to do that day at that time can wait for another day. What I have found helpful is each morning I write a to do list and tick it off as it gets done, then at the end of the day you can see what you have done. Lots of times I feel like I haven't done anything, but I just need to look at my list and see that that isn't true.

Remember, cut yourself some slack.

Michelle - posted on 01/09/2010




hahahaha...... good luck. Stop being so hard on yourself is the first step. Getting nothing done is ok sometimes, we can't all be super mom (I'm definitely not lol). I would just write it down every time you hit on something good so that you don't forget. I find that I forget more stuff now that I'm a SAHM because I'm trying to keep track of so much more stuff. So for example, I realized that... It was much easier to get the dishes done in the morning rather than the afternoon b/c my son is so excited to see his toys again. Or if you notice that the later the naps begins the nicer they are after... Stuff like that. This well help you establish a routine that will help you get more done. Oh and just so you know-- the only break I get is nap time, and I usually don't feel like I accomplished anything, but I asked my fiance and he said he can always tell what I've done that day. Just tell your husband that you need a little encouragement and reassurance since you're new at this. I bet he's thinking it already!

Stephanie - posted on 01/09/2010




oh love. welcome to sahm-ness. It's quite a big adventure you're beginning here. May I recommend that for the next 6 mos to a year you cut yourself some slack, take a deep breath and begin again. :) it's gonna be just fine. :)

as for a schedule, it'll depend on the preschool schedule a bit and on the toddler's nap time.

:) I've got twins in 1st grade and a 2 1/2 yo at home, so I know your struggle.

for us, at 7am we get up and get ready in the mornings, and at 8:30 am, walk the big girls to school. (we live around the corner from school, and are a 1 car family...) Keep the morning routine simple. make lunch and backpacks ready the night before. teach the 5yo to get ready on her own-clothes, teeth, hair, breakfast. so you can get yourself and little person ready.

at home, toddler and mommy play and run through some basic chores(dishwasher, laundry machine, vacuum) till lunch.

12 noon--eat lunch, toddler down for nap-1pm. every day. without exception. :) so you can take a break, catch up additional chores, talk with me here. :)

3 pm, for us after naptime, is pick up twins at school time. Toddler gets a quick diaper change and off we go. (yeah, she naps well.)

4pm Kids do homework and piano practice, then their chores-clean room/living room/playroom or whatever needs doing.

5-7pm-- I make dinner. Hubby's home. Eat.

play time.

8pm bedtime for kidlets. no exception, every night.

10pmish, bedtime for parents... more or less. :) hehehe...

it's just life, that you'll be busy all day long, but be flexible enough to change things up that just aren't working for you. my schedule works for me, but it hasn't always been the same as it is now. wishing you much success and all the good things that stay at home moms get to enjoy.

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