MY 2 YEAR OLD WONT SLEEP IN HER OWN ROOM NOW HER BABY BROTHER IS HERE! PLEASE HELP!

Susanna - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi,



I NEED SOME ADVICE OR IDEAS PLEASE!



i have a daughter who is 2 next month. we had trouble when she was younger getting her to sleep in her cot in her room, so much so that she became scared of it! we tried controlled crying going in every few mins, controlled crying just leaving her to settle herself (this was awful!), a full on routine of dinner,play, bath,book and bed and nothing! so when i fell pregnant, once we got to 20 weeks, we moved her into her 'big girls' room which she helped decorate-all in mickey mouse, and set up her new 'big girls' bed. she took to her new bed well after 4 weeks of co-sleeping by hubby and we thought we had cracked it! however, now her brother is here and it seems this as upset her routine in sleeping in her own bed! i have at night a snooring hubby and daughter by my side in the night whilst trying to feed my new baby with match sticks holding my eyes open!

any ideas on how to get her to sleep in her own room in her own bed without traumatising her again!?

xx

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Jane - posted on 09/11/2009

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we have a huge bed too, thank god. be sure the dog doesn't join him on the floor - lol! maybe you can put a bassinett in your room. isn't it great how life goes on - breastfeeding, weddings, sleepless nights. ;)

i got over the breastfeeding guilt very quickly once we were all sleeping thru the night again in our own beds.



good luck w/everything!

Susanna - posted on 09/11/2009

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thank jane! glad to know im not alone!

i also have the family dog to attend with too at bedtime!can you believe it! just as well we have a superking! im a bridesmaid in 6 weeks so need to keep on nursing as i have a dress to get into! and its going really well for me this time so im reluctant to stop it now- my son is 8 weeks. my daughters never had a dummy and she hasnt asked for one as yet so thats good but she still has a bottle a night anyway so im cool with that. i think im gonna have to do what u mentioned- i certainly dont have the energy for it though so hubby will have to do it-again! co-sleeping. i will help make him up a lovely soft bed on the floor! ;-)

luckily my daughter seems to have enjoyed having her brother arrive- she loves to help out with him, its very cute! and she showers him with kisses and cuddles too. it seems its just bedtime that shes feeling left out with! thank you for ur help!

x

Jane - posted on 09/11/2009

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i feel your pain! we had our 2nd when our 1st was 18 months. it was a few months of hell for me. everyone else was happily sleeping in our bed while i was wide awake wondering how to get her back in her room and making sure that i didn't drop our newborn who would only sleep on top of me for the first month. it just took time. her world has changed and she wants to be sure she still fits in it and figuring out where exactly. i didn't have the energy to do the whole be firm and put her back in bed, etc. they were just too close in age. i ended up only nursing the newborn for 3 weeks so once she was on formula, my husband was able to take care of her and then i was able to work on getting her back to her room. it will all settle out eventually. see if your 2 yr old will go to be w/your husband and you can sneak out to the living room w/the baby to get a little break. or send him to her room w/her and see if that helps get her back to her room. also, my 2 yr old regressed to a bottle at night and a pacifier once her sister has come along. i think they just want to be sure they're still your baby. include her in things like, gettting diapers, wipes, clothes for the baby, etc. good luck! i've been there.

Susanna - posted on 09/10/2009

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hi leeann,

thanks for the advice. however, we do that! and my little munchkin isnt silly- she knows what she wants and where she wants to be! i swear she has this radar or sixth sense because shes in the deepest sleep at 1st but once we pick her up to move her, bang, shes wide wide wide awake! and crying in protest! as soon as we bring her in with us shes as quiet as a mouse!

x

Leeann - posted on 09/09/2009

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MY LITTLE GIRL DID THE SAME THING AND WHAT WE DID WAS LET HER FALL A SLEEP ON THE COUCH OR WHERE EVER THEN WE WOULD PUT HER IN HER BED ONCE SHE WENT TO SLEEP AND SHE SLEPT ALL NIGHT LONG IN HER BED GIVE IT A TRY.

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