my 2 yr old

Dana - posted on 04/05/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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well he'll be three in 2 weeks is driving me bananas he has so many behavioral problems that im tempted to go back to work so i can only do it a few hours a day instead of 14 straight hours i need ideas and help fast. no discipline works hes hyperactive and pushing me over the edge and we just started potty training to top the cake. he will pee on potty but also goes in his pull up. and will not even consider pooping in the potty. should i put him in underwear instead of pullups so he feels hes wet. im sure hes ready i waited til hes turning 3 yrs old. i know boys are harder, but geez.

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Stacy - posted on 04/07/2009

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Well, I'm glad he's not on drugs. Hyperactivity can be dealt with without altering their bodies with synthetic drugs!



Keep in mind that he is also a BOY and boys have so much physical energy. I would encourage you to allow for him to get out some of his adrenaline indoors, as well as out. Make a space in the living room, put on some funky music and dance with him. Go crazy. Show him mom knows how to have fun! ;)



Other indoor large motor activities: -make a basketball game with clean socks and a laundry basket -create an indoor obstacle course with sheets and chairs -have a "doggie" race where you race him across the house while crawling -teach him stretches and somersaults -jump in place



Also, post on craigslist for another mommy walking partner. You can bundle up and go for a 20 minute walk, even on cold days. 



Let me know if you need any other ideas. I do in home child care, and I care for a boy (was 3 in January) who is definitely and active child. 

Mandy - posted on 04/06/2009

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you could have just described my son at that age, he was like that. he is 6 now and alot better. nothing helped him at that age, i saw numerous drs (one wanting to medicate him) and psycologists. try the elimination diet, that helped a bit.



 



hang in htere, it does get easier.



 



my email address is mandy_123_14@hotmail.com if you want to chat more.

Stacy - posted on 04/06/2009

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Dana, do you have him on meds for his hyperactivity?



Have you also paid attention to his diet? Red dye and cows milk can play a big part in hyperactive children. I'll try and find the articles that I've read. 



Bless you for staying home with your child. And even if he's not autistic, it may be a good idea to give him some activities and projects as though he were. Basically something with obvious completion, something stimulating, but not overstimulating. Try rubbing his back with a soft brush, giving him a massage while putting lotion on him. 



Dana, I say this with only good intentions: find someone once a week to watch him and get out of the house. For both of your sakes!

Stacy - posted on 04/05/2009

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You know, the average age for boys to potty train is 3 1/2. If he's got some other discipline issues, I would nip those in the bud before you tackle potty training. Especially if he's not showing progress. Please don't go by age when deciding to potty train. Go by the cues he's giving you. If he's not interested in it, it's only going to cause more frustration and headaches on your part AND his part.



 



What are some of his behavioral problems? Is he diagnosed hyperactive, or is he an over-active boy?

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Dana - posted on 04/07/2009

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thats fabulous. i wish you were local id definately employ youre services, youre kids you watch are very lucky to have you sounds like a great experience.

Stacy - posted on 04/07/2009

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Oh! I just thought of another one which is going to be great for Springtime! (I'm going to get ready to do this with the kids I watch)



The rainy season is coming, and kids want to go outside, but lol adults don't. :) so get some blue construction paper, cut them out in roundish shapes and lay them on the floor all around. get a squirt bottle filled with room temperature water, and let your child "puddle jump" each time he lands on a puddle, give him a little squirt! Then you puddle jump and let him squirt you! (I'd set the bottle on mist though, not soak! )

Dana - posted on 04/07/2009

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thats really awesome advice thanks so much. your gonna come in handy..lol.. i wouldnt have thought of those.

Dana - posted on 04/07/2009

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Quoting Mandy:



you could have just described my son at that age, he was like that. he is 6 now and alot better. nothing helped him at that age, i saw numerous drs (one wanting to medicate him) and psycologists. try the elimination diet, that helped a bit.






 






hang in htere, it does get easier.






 






my email address is mandy_123_14@hotmail.com if you want to chat more.






thanks so much for youre support and help we are working on the elimination diet now. i hope to see positive results i know its also a lack of social interaction, and cabin fever since its cold here. hopefully summer will really help.

Dana - posted on 04/07/2009

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Quoting Stacy:



Dana, do you have him on meds for his hyperactivity?






Have you also paid attention to his diet? Red dye and cows milk can play a big part in hyperactive children. I'll try and find the articles that I've read. 






Bless you for staying home with your child. And even if he's not autistic, it may be a good idea to give him some activities and projects as though he were. Basically something with obvious completion, something stimulating, but not overstimulating. Try rubbing his back with a soft brush, giving him a massage while putting lotion on him. 






Dana, I say this with only good intentions: find someone once a week to watch him and get out of the house. For both of your sakes!





thank you so much i know we both need a break im looking into going back to school pt and putting him in a christian preschool i know he needs the interaction with other children as well. im starting his preschool activities now like shapes colors etc. also we do lots of crafts etc, i have adjusted his diet he is sugar free no dairy etc. ive studied all that no hes not on meds they arent recommended til atleast age 7 i hear he'll be going back for a check up in may so we'll see. thanks for youre help.

Dana - posted on 04/06/2009

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thanks stacy everyone keeps telling me he is overdue but i wasnt prepared to push him and i still dont just keep on trying is what i do. he does have several issues he is hyperactive, he is being tested for autism next month the behavior prob's started after a very bad reaction to his 16 month vaccinations. he s very strong willed and stubborn. and i fear he doesnt realize we are the boss. we didnt start trying to discipline til about 2 yrs old i was choosing my battles. and now im reaching burnt out i know thats part of it ive had him 24/7 for 3 yrs now hes never been with a sitter or even his father for me to have a break. we dont live near friends or family and im over protective i know. its so hard to do it all alone his dad is here but has checked out i do everything.but i keep researching and keep trying different methods in hopes he'll come around atleast he is finally sleeping all night in his bed this jsut started maybe 3 months ago so im thrilled with that progress. thanks for the support and help.

Deborah - posted on 04/05/2009

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The short of it all is consistency is key. Put a plan together, make sure everyone (the adults) is on board with the methods and stick with it. Don't expect it to work overnight but as long as you are not letting him walk all over you he will finally come into line.



Ideas of what to do is a little hard because you have not provided examples of what you did and how he reacts to it, but just some basic ideas:



- He is asserting his independence and you need to keep this in mind. Give him choices but make sure you have the control. He can do A or B (usually B choice is a negative choice for him.) IE. You can walk next to the cart as long as you mind me but if you don't mind then you have to seat in the cart. When he does run off or act out keep your word. Put him in the cart no matter what kind of tantrum he pulls and tell him he had the chance and he put himself in the cart by not minding. A few times of this he will realize you mean business.



- Timeouts: consider where you put him and does he respect this method or does he get up or wiggle around? If he is the type that kicks and screams and won't stay put this might be the reason it isn't working. If you use the Supernanny method then no matter how long you have to keep putting him back you quietly put him back until he does his time. The idea is you wear him out into sub coming to the timeout methods. There is also the method of restraining him during the timeout when he acts out to the level of kicking and screaming. Simply seating down on the floor and putting him in your lap crossing his arms over his chest and holding them there. You are restraining his movement and it will enforce that you are in charge. Just remember that the restraining method is not carpal punishment and should not be administrated as such. It is a light hold method just to enforce that he needs to follow through with the time out.



I am sure you will get more advice but just remember whatever methods you do use you have to be consistent.

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