My 2 yr old son refuses to pee newhere but his diaper...sum1 help!

Cheyenne - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have tried everything...cheerios in the potty...soap to make bubbles...reading to him....he sits on the potty fine, he even stands up in front of it, but when he just about to pee or poo he holds it until his diaper goes back on...what do i do?

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Kim - posted on 11/07/2009

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He is probably not ready to be potty trained. Don't worry about what other people are saying as to why he's not potty-trained yet. He'll learn on his own time - just like he learned to sit, stand, and walk. There's no correct timetable. My friend's little boy refused to learn how to sit on the potty. Then they lost their home from Katrina and potty training him was the last thing on her mind. One day out of the clear blue he told her he wanted to wear big boy underwear and never once looked back at diapers again - he was 3 then. If you really want to encourage the potty training, buy him a doll with a doll potty (I think there's an Elmo potty doll) and show him how the doll goes potty. You can also buy him a potty for himself and just let him sit there with clothes on so he gets comfortable with it. Potty training should be a positive, rewarding experience and not a chore. Encourage him to sit on the potty and reward him when he does but don't show frustration when he doesn't. Be patient, he'll eventually learn.

Ashley - posted on 11/07/2009

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Quoting Elizabeth:

I have a friend who spends 2 entire days in the bathroom when it comes time to potty train her kids. Day 1 they don't get diaper or undies at all, she has some books and toys and lots of salty snacks and water and juice. She puts them on if they start to go on the floor, and she makes them use a rag to clean up the floor if there is an accident. She's trained her 3 that are old enough like this at 21 months, a boy and 2 girls. Day 2, if they do well by the end of day 1, they get to wear real undies. She is in there with them all day long, meals and naps included. They don't leave until bedtime. Oh, and she gives them some dried fruit for a treat when they go in the potty. Also, she has a doll the first day and a little bottle with water in it and the dolly goes potty, she hides the bottle behind it when it pees in the potty. Now, that being said, I tried that with my 2 year old, and it didn't work, she would wait until I had to go potty and go out of my reach and pee. We only have one bathroom, and 5 potty using family members, so it proved somewhat difficult. It has worked for her, and several other ladies she knows, like a charm, and after 2 or 3 days she says there are no accidents either. Anyway, if that's feasible for you, I'd say have a go at it!


Ok this is the MOST rediculous thing i have ever heard. Making your kid stay in the bathroom all day??? I'm all for people trying different things to get their children potty trained..but come on. All kids are different. They learn to go to the bathroom when they are ready. My mom started potty training my brother way to early...he wasn't ready and that caused him to have bed wetting issues for a long time.

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It seems like he's not ready. I tried pushing my daughter when she was 2 and it didn't work. She was a couple months from 3 when she finally started doing it and she has only had 2 accidents since (she just turned 4). She was trained in 1 day, and even stopped wearing diapers at night. My son is 22 months and shows no signs of being ready to start potty training, so I am not going to force the issue. Just take a deep breath, and buy some more diapers! He will come around when he's ready to do it :)

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Stay home for a week and don't let him wear anything at all....except for a diaper at night obviously....My son ran around in the nude for a week and there were a couple of puddles but after a week he was basically trained with the exception of night time, when he wears pull ups. Once he had no other choice(a diaper) he learned! Or, I also agree with the no diaper/underwear only rule....but I don't agree that it's ok to let boys take longer...my son was trained by 2.3 simply by effort on our part.

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2009

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Try the peeing outside thing...it works for boys for some reason, especially if they have a male role model teaching them. Otherwise just keep him in underwear all day (except bed time) and tell him this is what big boys wear and if he has to go potty then go on the potty chair......he might not be ready yet either, I know boys are harder than girls and usually don't really start trying or getting it until 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 (from my experience)

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Most boys are not really ready to potty train until they are almost 3. If you are really in a hurry try encouraging him to go into the bathroom to go potty in his diaper. Then, reward him when he does. This way you are training him to make it to the right room without stressing him out about using the potty. Also, use a potty chair not the big toilet. It can be really scary thinking you are going to fall in and get flushed down.

Lynn - posted on 11/05/2009

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I have 2 boys and neither of them potty trained until they were 3. When they are ready they will let you know. My first son told me one day he didn't want diapers any more and that was that, my 2nd was a little harder, but one day he announced he was ready too. He had a few accidents, but don't make a big deal out of them and let them know everyone has accidents. They will come around. I think pushing the issue makes it worse.

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theres a book called 'potty training in less than a day' that really helped us with DD #2 and #3 (#4 is only 1 so he'll wait a little longer)

Jess - posted on 11/05/2009

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Just keep him in diapers until he himself shows interest in the potty and actually using it. I know it is a pain in the rear but when I was potty training the twins it was more stress for me by making them do it. I know it sucks but it will make your life easier

Sadie - posted on 11/05/2009

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My son could care less if his underwear is wet, so that didnt work for me, if he had something on he wet it, so I stayed home for a few days and let him be naked til he caught on, Ofcourse he didnt have any siblings or other people around to see his constant nudity, so that might not work for everyone.

Rebecca - posted on 11/05/2009

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your son just might not be ready and you shouldn't push it. I have three sons and none of them were trained until they were 3 Sometime the older they are the less time it takes to train them my 1st 3 days done and my 3rd a week done. Good luck

Cherise - posted on 11/05/2009

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don't put a diaper back on, put on big boy underwear. If you really want him to potty train. He will hate the feeling of peeing his pants. But he is only 2 some don't even get trained till 3. I am sure it will come to him. My son was potty trained at 2 and it was really simple as soon as he new he was getting big boy underwear he was excited. Let him pick them out. Also try rewarding him.

Diana - posted on 11/05/2009

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Actually, I did the pee outside thing with my two boys. They were trained in a week! It became a source of pride to have dry underwear. As far as going poopoo, they figured it out within the month after. Nothing like high fives from dad when they do well.

Kristy - posted on 11/05/2009

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Don't rush your son too quick. My son wanted nothing to do with it until around his 3rd birthday. Boys do take longer. I tried everything you did. I finally moved his potty in front of the TV and left it there. He got a chance to relax and did not feel like he was missing anything in the other room. He was so proud when he finally did it. He still does not have the hang of going poopy on the potty yet though. It is def a slow process. They do it when they are ready.

Carissa - posted on 11/05/2009

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I am one who just puts them in underwear when I potty train. I don't touch diapers anymore except in the beginning for naps and bed time. Take him every 10 to 15 minutes in the beginning till you get on his schedule for peein or poopin. After that wait a little longer and do a timer for him. When it goes off take him in again. If you give in and put a diaper back on you are just giving in and he will realize that. I have done this with all my daycare kids and will do it with my own too. It works. Yes you may have some messes to clean up with the underwear, but after they get the feel of wet underwear they won't like it. Give it two three weeks and see how it goes.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/05/2009

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I have a friend who spends 2 entire days in the bathroom when it comes time to potty train her kids. Day 1 they don't get diaper or undies at all, she has some books and toys and lots of salty snacks and water and juice. She puts them on if they start to go on the floor, and she makes them use a rag to clean up the floor if there is an accident. She's trained her 3 that are old enough like this at 21 months, a boy and 2 girls. Day 2, if they do well by the end of day 1, they get to wear real undies. She is in there with them all day long, meals and naps included. They don't leave until bedtime. Oh, and she gives them some dried fruit for a treat when they go in the potty. Also, she has a doll the first day and a little bottle with water in it and the dolly goes potty, she hides the bottle behind it when it pees in the potty. Now, that being said, I tried that with my 2 year old, and it didn't work, she would wait until I had to go potty and go out of my reach and pee. We only have one bathroom, and 5 potty using family members, so it proved somewhat difficult. It has worked for her, and several other ladies she knows, like a charm, and after 2 or 3 days she says there are no accidents either. Anyway, if that's feasible for you, I'd say have a go at it!

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2009

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My son does the same thing...boys usually take a longer than girls. I have let my son stay in the diaper and I dont bother him with it anymore and now he tells me when he has to go potty. Time and Patience he will come around.

Heather - posted on 11/05/2009

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I had that problem with my 2 year old son, when he was learning how to potty. When I was at home, I would take him outside and let him pee on a tree or bush. That got him to not be scared of peeing without the diaper on. When he got used to peeing without the diaper on, them I use the cherrios and soap in the potty to make it fun. But that helped with my son (peeing outside). I hope that it helps you.

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