My 2yr old is soooo clingy! What do I do?

Nikki - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm sure it is, well I know it is, my fault she is so clingy. She is our 3rd child. We have 3 girls and 1 boy. It started about a year ago. She got to where she would cry louder and longer every time I would put her to bed in her crib. After so long, I gave in. She has been the most snuggly of them all, since the day she was born. So it made it real easy to want to hold her all the time.

I started out letting her sleep with our oldest daughter (8) and it worked great for a few weeks. Then the new wore off. So I got her to sleep with our 7yr old daughter. It lasted a few nights. It has gone on and on since then. I tried everything I could think of. I finally gave up and let her sleep in our bed this month. I CAN NOT STAND IT! I can not sleep with a child in the bed with me. It's knees and elbows all night long. Then you get hot and kicking covers off the bed, ughh! Does anybody have any advice to reverse the mess I've created, lol?

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Brandy - posted on 02/21/2010

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I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM...I PUT ATODDLER BED ON MY SIDE OF THE BED AND KEPT MY HAND ON HIM MOST OF THE TIME TILL HE FELL ASLEEP....OR AT NIGHT TIME IF HE FEEL ASLEEP ON THE COUCH I WOULD PUT HIM IN HIS ROOM...HE WILL FIND YOU ,PUT HIM ON HIS TODDLER BED.....REPEAT.YOU REALLY NEED TO LEAVE HER WITH DAD OR SOMEONE FOR SHORT PERIODS OF TIME...SAY 30 MINUTES WHILE U GO SOME WHERE...TELL HER YOU WILL BE RIGHT BAC ...YOU WILL ALWAYS COME BACK...

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Linda - posted on 02/21/2010

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I agree with Brandy. I'd put a small bed by my bed or a pallet on the floor (sleeping bag would work) and let her sleep near you. You could also lay with her in her bed till she falls asleep and give her a chart and a star for every night she sleeps by herself like a "big girl" with a prize at the end of a certain period of time. Some children need you close more than others. My girls slept on their own always...my son slept with us till....well, I'd better not tell you! LOL...but he is 10 and yes he is in his own room with no problem at all! He was our third and came along when we were in our 40's so we loved having him close....and we had a very large bed and he was a very quiet sleeper.

Elaine - posted on 02/21/2010

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we got into that mess aswell. we did the following way it may sound harsh but it worked for us in 3 days with our first and about 2 days with our second child. we put them in their bed in their room and read them a story gave them a kiss and hug said goodnight etc, then put night light on and left pulling the door up, when they got out of bed we put them back in saying its bedtime now go to sleep, then second time they got out we said its bedtime and put them back in the third time - 5th time we said nothing and kept putting them back in- they cried and cried but you have to ignore it. after the 5th time we put them in and closed the door properly, they would get up again so we put them in and held the door closed so they could not open it, they cried kicked hit the door screamed our first even made herself sick from crying so much (we went in cleared it up and left again) they then fell asleep by the door eventually. the second night it lasted only half as long- not even needing to close the door properly and the third night they only got out a couple of times. after that they were fine. this helped with the being clingy part as it is all linked together. try putting her in the living room with some colouring and tv on tell her your just going in the kitchen and will come in and see her drawing in a mintue- go in kitchen for 10 mins if she comes in tell her to go back in living room -take her back and return to the kitchen. eventually work up to leaving her with a person she sees regularly and knows well while you go for a 15 min walk etc, she will cry when you go but you know she will be fine as soon as she gets her mind on something else!!!! DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!

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