My 5 month old will scream unless held...any suggestions?

Tara - posted on 02/19/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My daughter will only be content with her play mat, toys, Einstein videos, etc. for about 5-10 mins before she starts screaming and only wants held. I can't get anything done around the house. Any suggestions?

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Kathy - posted on 02/19/2010

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My best advice is to NOT pick her up!!! I know it is soooo flippin' hard, but you have to start breaking her of that now or it will be even harder later on. I learned my lesson the HARD way and encourage any mom with a baby like my 3rd to break the habit asap or it makes it so much harder later on. I ended up even wearing my little Klara in a baby carrier inside the house while doing chores and taking care of my older 2 because I couldn't stand to listen to her cry when I put her down. That was the wrong thing to do. I had to slowly wean her off the constant carrying (baby wearing) by putting her in a swing/seat or on the floor or bassinett for 15 minutes even with her screaming and crying and worked it up to a half hour until she eventually realized that I wasn't going to carry her all the time and that it was indeed OK to not be held. At first I would always stay right next to her so she could see me and know I hadn't left her alone. It's not easy, but I must say stop it now before it gets even harder :) Good luck!!!!

Casey - posted on 02/19/2010

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I know how you feel, my daughter was the same way. And I held her a lot, even when she was sleeping. But you can't hold her every minute of the day. And someone told me to talk to her. So, when ever I was cleaning, or cooking, I would have her in her car seat or something, and I would still do whatever I was doing, but I was involving her by talking to her the whole time. I could get stuff done, and she would listen to me. Babies love it when you talk to them. I would just tell her what I was doing, and ask her questions, just like she knew what I was saying. She started talking at 9 months old. Now she's 3, and everywhere we go, people say how good she talks. She can even talk better than her 6yr old cousin. Hope it helps

Miri - posted on 01/08/2012

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My five month old baby screams, in the carrier, in the crib maybe she might stop if I am dancing with her but than she gets bored quickly with that as well. I can't dance with her all day. I have things to do. I dance with her sum and sometimes let her scream. I know she is not hurting and fed and her diaper is changed. I try talking to her. I tried the bouncy chair. She is just a demanding baby. Doc says she is fine. Its the worst feeling to hear her scream but she drives me crazy. I am doing my best but I seriously cannot hold her all day dancing.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

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Well keep up with the tummy time it really is very important for physicl development, but maybe try interacting with her for as long as she can stand it talking rolling her from belly to back and back again lay on your belly and talk to her when shes on hers show her toys and try to get her to reach for them, not only will this let he know shes ok on the floor but that it can be fun too, it also might wear her out for a nap then you can get some stuff done while she sleeps. do this as much as possible, but if you do not have time to just play, you might want to invest in a comfortable baby carrier I suggest a Ergo carrier you can wear them on your back or front and is great for a little monkey who just wants mommy all the time like my son! but keep up with the tummy time!, my son was the same entill he learned to crawl at 7 month then he was happy for a bit longer when he started walking at 10 months it started again because he could get to me faster so I still rely on my Ergo almost everyday so I can get dishes washed dinner cooked and laundry done and he is 15 months!!

Ashley - posted on 02/19/2010

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she will grow out of it. She needs her mom and there is a reason she needs to be held even if it is for comfort. Its Ok.. She wont ask you to hold her untill college. I have children I never let cry at night ever and picked them up for comfort. They are fine. Not spoiled from too much love. IT will end.. Sadly enough, its trial and error those first few months..

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I agree with Ashley and Lillie! Get a carrier so you can have your hands free. Too soon, she won't need you to hold her all the time. My twins are 6 now, and I still miss feeling them against me in their carrier. When my kids were born, my favorite piece of advice was "if you were on a desert island with your baby and he/she started to cry, what would you do?". Since then, even against the advice of my mother-in-law, I always picked up my kids whenever they needed me. I

Tina - posted on 02/22/2010

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Hehe i had the same problem with my son when he was around 5 months, i had to let him scream its a known fact a baby can't get hurt from screaming and sure enough she'll be more than happy going down than being up ^^ if you have a soother (dummy) then when lieing her down try giving her that

Hayley - posted on 02/19/2010

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have you tried a electronic rocking chair for babies i found it worked wonders with my boy when he was younger if not try it otherwise you will have more problems later on as she will be so clingy

Amy - posted on 02/19/2010

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I'm a "safe place, safe toys, you'll be alright" kinda mom. I also often will have her in the exersaucer nearby or in the bouncy seat/swing while I work on stuff. That said, there were (and still are) days where I'll just hold her as much as she wants. She's a happy girl. My boys all figured it out too. Just try different things until you are content with how it's going, whether a little bit of crying or working with her attached.

Lyn - posted on 02/19/2010

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Get yourself one of those bouncy chairs of johnny jump up and keep her "with" you while you work so she can still see you and hear you. While cooking cleaning etc. engage her in conversation as if she could respond if she knew how! Good luck!

Lilie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I agree with Ashley.
I also bring my 5 month old with me to the kitchen while I cook and let him lay on a big comfy matt on the floor with some toys. He likes to watch me cook and the kitchen is bright so it gets his attention. Also, you can carry your daughter around with u in baby wrap for a little while... maybe she'll fall asleep.
Have you started her on solids? My 5 month old is doing much better now that he eats solids twice daily... and mashed banana or apple in a mesh fruit bag for a snack :) Good luck!

Theresa - posted on 02/19/2010

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I agree too, let her cry it out for awile. If you're not comfortable with that get a front carrier. That way she's close to you like being held, but you have your hands free to do other things. Don't try cooking with her in though, that can be very dangerous.

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I agree with Megan! As long as you can see her and know she is safe, a little crying won't hurt her! Also, I used to talk to my son. As long as he could hear me, that was comforting enough for him :)

Megan - posted on 02/19/2010

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im sorry to say it and trust me i know it's hard but you have to let her cry it out as long as you know that nothing is wrong with her. she will eventually stop!

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