My 5 yr. old just start developing various fears and I am not sure if its something I should be worried about?

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son TJ who is 5 years old just recently started having fears such as going to bed at night, us dying, dying in general, the dark, and us getting older is this a normal part of development for his age? Or is it something to be alarmed by?

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Jane - posted on 11/29/2011

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My friends little boy at the same age went through sum think like that kept getting upset that everyone was going to leave him and he'd be on he's own and things we think the thing that triggered it off was he's parents splitting up but could be any number of things. My little girl is 3 and goes on about death and has a huge fear of hand dryers in public toilets and will actually run out the toilets screaming and still doing her wee cos sum one turn it on. Best thing to do is sit down x with him and have a chat and see if there is any think upsetting him xx

Mary - posted on 12/01/2011

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not at all my 5 year old just started being afraid of the dark now its heights he wont sleep in his bed cause its a bunk bed now as a few days ago i cant get him to go to the bathroom along ect but i know in the end he will out grow it like my 9 year old did

Mercede - posted on 12/01/2011

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It's very normal for this age. My son-now 7- had that period of fears of death, darkness, being alone, etc, when he was 5 and 6. He's got over it now. as they get older they find answers to a lot of questions and worries they have. I never tried to make a big deal of it because I heard from other moms that it was a normal period most kids go through. I also showed him that it's ok and very natural for him to worry about or be scared of different things.

Jane - posted on 11/30/2011

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My little girl went through I'm scared of the dark but think that was down to a flat outside her bedroom being on fire and I had to wake her up at 2am and get her to safety. Took a while to get her out of it but she's finally over it. ask up little any why he's scared and talk it through with him and if It's sum think in he's room like a toy or sum think can be easily removed . MY little girl hated her babys in her room cos the kept going off and saying mama in the middle of the night lol must admit they are creepy :-)

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Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2011

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Thank you Mercede and Mary I sincerely appreciate your advice its soooo reassuring I was truely starting to get worried that he had an anxiety disorder.

Jennifer - posted on 11/30/2011

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My son was not really afraid of much when he was 4 he did have alot of tantrums when he was frustrated but he was afraid of the dark he has been for a while.

Jane - posted on 11/30/2011

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I am the same hun like at the mo my little girl is having none stop tantrums every day and she's the only child don't know if its normal or if there sum thing wrong. what was ur little boy like at nearly 4 with tantrums?

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2011

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Jane I can't thank you enough for your advice and reassurance. My son TJ is our only child and sometimes its tough for me to tell what is cause for concern and what is normal development. I will take your advice and next time he brings it up I will have a chat with him. Thank you again.

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