My 6 yr. old daughter likes boy "stuff"!

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Nicole - posted on 08/04/2013

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Perhaps you should ask yourself why it's so important that she only like what you define as "girl stuff." If she says she likes math, are you going to tell her that's boy stuff and push her towards sewing or baking? There is nothing wrong with your daughter, nor is it wrong for her to like angry birds or star wars. My six year old daughter definitely prefers playing with trucks, superheroes, and imaginative spy games. Frankly I'm proud that she hasn't fallen in to the princess or Barbie obsessions. She can like whatever she wants, as long as she is kind and respectful to herself and others during play. When I say my daughter can be anything she wants when she grows up, I mean it! Ask yourself if you really want to teach your daughter that there are things she can't do just because she's a girl.

Jillian - posted on 08/06/2013

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what? why would you do that? That is abusrd!

First off, how in the world is starwars and angry birds "boy stuff" and second why in the world does it matter if she wants to play with it even if it is "for boys"? This is ridiculous.

For what it's worth my daughter is 10 and has never been into princesses/dolls etc, her interest tend towards more geeky things, comicbooks, scifi and fantasy, stuff like that. My 9 year old son has always liked princesses and my little ponies have been his favorite thing for over 7 years now. It's all normal, it's fine, it's not hurting anyone and they are happy children. Pushing societies completely arbitrary gender roles on childre isn't ok, it does hurt people.

Jen - posted on 08/05/2013

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She likes what she likes and the only one who has a problem with that is you, so the one who needs to get over it - is you. Why is it such a big deal? If you're scared that she is going to be teased or something, maybe you need to realize that no matter what - unfortunately - kids are going to tease and get teased for one thing or another all the time. It happens, and you reinforcing it to your daughter that what she likes is "wrong" won't help. Just support her in what she likes, no matter what it is, as long as SHE is happy, I just don't see a problem. My daughter drove barbies around in jeeps and made them "space guys" with pink high heels, she's 17 now and just fine! My son is 5 and he wraps his stuffed animals up in blankets and sings to them, then goes and plays smash 'em up with his cars ten minutes later, and he will be just fine too. Just chill out mama, it's all good, and your kids are too :)

Jen - posted on 08/02/2013

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There is nothing wrong with your daughter. She likes what she likes. Sounds she is a tomboy, but forcing her to wear girly things will not change who she is, it will only cause resentment and frustration. Heck, maybe she is a lesbian, but again, this will not change if you force her to be more girly. A child is not something you can mould and dress up like a doll, she is her own person. She has her own interests and dislikes, and the sooner you let her express herself, the better.
If she wears a "boys" backpack or clothes to school and gets teased, you shouldn't tell her that she should dress like a girl to avoid being teased. You should tell her that children tease each other out of a fear of not fitting in, and she should be proud of who she it, and be proud of being different, because that is what makes her special.

Jillian - posted on 08/06/2013

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Why wouldn't you buy him a doll? Dolls are not girls toys, playing with dolls is not a girls thing, it's emulating what he sees adults do, it's pretend play, if boys are taught that taking care of babies is a girl thing how the hell are they going to be good fathers? Stop putting gender labels on things, if he wants a dress, let him have it, if she wants to play football instead of take ballet, let her do it, if he wants a princess themed bedroom, go for it. Just get over the ridiculous made up gender rules, you aren't just hurting your own kids by perpetuating them, you are also making life just a bit harder for all the gender non-conforming kids in the world.

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User - posted on 08/06/2013

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Cynthia You have a right to parent your child the way you see fit and if you want her to mainly stay within the girl things, that is totally fine! That doent mean you are pushing her to be set in one way. You can still let her play in the dirt, watch spiderman, and play trucks. I feel as clothes are made for girls, then clothes are made for boys, then there are unisex outfits. They are made that way for us to define our genders. You dont have to worry if anything is wrong with her, alot of kids choose all sorts of things they prefer over others even if its out of the way you thought. They've got their own little personalities and it sounds like you are working with her to find a middle

Jillian - posted on 08/06/2013

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It's true. Pink was always a masculine color cause of it's relation to red and blue was feminine cause of it being softer, it was in 1918 that a magazine said "The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl." And in 1927 time magazine still counted blue as a girl color and pink as a boy color. It wasn't until the 40's actually that pink became a girls color and blue a boys color, and even now in some cultures pink is still considered related to red and is either masculine or gender neutral. http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-cultu...

Amy Nicole - posted on 08/06/2013

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I let my kids express themselves through there room,and backbacks.She's a tomboy. You,want your child too be happy with what she wants not what u want. It's not mandatory that she has too have a girly girl backpack. Sit down and ask her what she likes and what she dosen't like,

User - posted on 08/05/2013

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So she's not a girly girl. Why are you so stuck on what's a "girl's toy" and a "boy's toy"? They're all just toys in the end. She's going to go through phases of what she likes. Today it's Angry Birds, tomorrow it might be My Little Pony. And as a girl who likes Angry Birds, Star Wars, superheroes, and prefers blues to anything that even resembles pink, purple, or pastel, and is somehow still feminine (hey, I'm in a skirt today at work and everything!), I think she'll grow up to be okay. ;) Why not just decorate her room how she likes it? Isn't it...her room?

Your daughter is fine. Honest.

User - posted on 08/05/2013

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And I agree to not change her room into a boyish outfit, I wouldnt do that either with mine. But dont worry so much. I was exactly the same when I was younger, and I am totally not that way now, but Im not real girly either. Its fine to like boy stuff and for boys to like girl stuff. When my hubby was little he said he had a doll, it was his "girlfriend" but needless to say he still had a babydoll.
I know Im not buying a baby dol for my son but if he wants to play with one at someone elses house its ok. We just have to show them whats appropriate for a girl or boy. Now if she had a backpack geared towards girls with a starwars pin or something on it, thats not bad. There's ways that you can go around it. Sounds like your doing fine, just dont stress that she isnt super girly, it might be a good thing that she isnt soo concerned about clothes and fixing her hair and being dolled up. Its good for kids to not have that concern for material things or how they look all the time

Rachel - posted on 08/04/2013

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Your daughter is clearly just showing a preference for a higher energy level. I was also like that- my one concession to "girl" toys, was My little Ponies. And they were all epic war horses in my imagination. The fact that higher more forceful energies have been pegged as "boyish" is our cultures flaw (a flaw I thought we were well past) and not your daughters problem. I have three daughters. They LOVE superheros. Our costume box has spidergirl, supergirl, batgirl, etc, and my most high energy daughter just loves her angry birds panties, and my youngest has a spiderman lunch kit. These "rules" you think your daughter is breaking don't actually exist. Get her some high energy toys, and let her pick out some high energy clothes. Let her know its okay to be yourself. I've never owned a Barbie in my life, yet I am now competent, feminine, and gloriously womanly. Stop judging her natural choices as "boyish". She's not a boy, she's a girl- so her choices have just as much claim to "girly" as the kid in pink ruffles.

Jenna Paige - posted on 08/04/2013

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Well I was like that at that age to my brother jaiden would say stop Jenny everyone called me Jenny but I love to be called Jenna and jaiden would say play with your Girly gross toys and I said "no" so it's ok nothing severe

Dehra - posted on 08/04/2013

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Let your daughter be who she is. Accept that she is not the typical girl ,and its ok. I have 4 girls(15,4,3,3) and they LOVE trucks and cars there is not a girl toy in my house and Im fine with it. they are who they are. How ever I do have them in ballet, tap and gymnastic classes. And they love that too. This maybe a phase she is going thru or she may just simply be a tom boy....it doesn't matter. just enjoy her while she little cause the time flies by

Juliana - posted on 08/04/2013

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Did you know that before the 1930s blue was considered a girl's color and pink was a boy's color? That goes to show that what we consider to be feminine and masculine is very ambiguous and changes all the time. My sister was a tom boy to the extent that she wanted to BE a boy and wore all "boy" clothes and only played with "boy" toys. Yet she is a beautiful, social, intelligent, college student with a handsome sweet boyfriend. There is no need to worry. Let your daughter be whoever she is going to be. It may be hard, but as a parent her happiness should be the most important thing. It's very likely she may grow out of it, but if she doesn't that's ok, too. I love Star Wars and Superman. There is nothing wrong or "ungirly" about that.

Christa - posted on 08/02/2013

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No worries, My daughter is just about to turn 6 and she loves Angry bird also, as well as hot wheels cars, which she has a ton of and playing in mud. So fear not, girls can be girls and also act like boys, that's whats so great about being a girl!! My daughter loves the fact that she doesn't have any color restrictions when it comes to buying cloths as her friends who are boys do.

Rachel - posted on 08/02/2013

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Why would you make her pick something girly when clearly, she doesn't like girly things?
I don't see what the problem is. She likes what she likes. There's nothing wrong with her liking "boy" things.
She's going to resent you for always making her pick things she doesn't like. Why not just let her be her own person and pick the things she'll love?

Chet - posted on 08/02/2013

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I wouldn't redecorate an entire room, but I certainly would have let her have an Angry Birds backpack if that's what she wanted. Lots of girls like Angry Birds. I consider Angry Birds more gender neutral than either a "girl" or "boy" thing. I really don't see anything wrong with Spiderman or Star Wars if that's what she likes and she uses it though. My only concern with this kind of thing is when a child says they want something and they change their mind and refuse to use it. I will try to dissuade choices that I don't think our kids will be able to stand by.

Michelle - posted on 08/02/2013

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You are being a bit discriminatory here. Just because she likes "boy" things doesn't mean anything. My son wanted a Bratz bag as hand luggage when we went on a trip one year. He was about 8 at the time. It doesn't mean he's gay or anything. He now loves all the traditional "boy" things and is 12.
She doesn't have to wear ruffles if she doesn't want to. Let her express herself as at this age it's really the only way she can. A bag will last a year, she will grow out of clothes in a year but squashing her individuality can have lasting effects.
Many years ago pink used to be a "boy" colour!!!

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