My 7 week old son won't sleep at night

Fareeda - posted on 09/27/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi! I am in desperate need of some support. My 7 week old son hasn't sleep for more 10-15 minutes all day. It's 10:30pm and he hasn't slept. I fed him and fed him, bathe him and still no potential of sleeping. Please, help!!

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Rebecca Louise - posted on 10/03/2013

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By the sound of things your everything that is needed to be done all your baby wants and needs is you and before long he will reward you with a smile if not already and that is when you know everything your doing is right, for me the first 3 months were hardest as they change so much so fast and your constantly altering the routine lol, but by then I had it sussed at least the day time anyway , as for the dipers yes my lo were always really wet until he started solids ( 4 months he is a hungry baby) and then they went to a normal amount of wetnes xx

Alexsandra - posted on 10/03/2013

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You can buy the book for maybe 2- or 3- on Amazon. Meanwhile, keep your baby attached and get moving in the things you like to do and that need to be done around the house/yard, errands, exercise with walks outside, etc.

Here's Jean Liedloff speaking http://ttfuture.org/authors/jleidloff. It is about 50 min.

Our baby was considered "high needs, colic" by the expert doctors and child educators. What a joke, as soon as I called Jean and started carrying him 24/7 with movement, all difficult symptoms disappeared in less than 24 hours and never returned. The same is true for the parents I consult. Two decades later, I heard one 'expert' (M.D.) say there is no such thing as colic. Yes, it is biology! I do not know how I could give you my private email on this blog but I would be happy to talk one on one with you for there are still questions I would ask to fully solve this issue. It was so hard for me for 4.5 months, tearing my hair out and not sleeping with a sleepless baby, applying others' advice often made things worse. You have support and there IS a peaceful path ahead!
If you do not have a sling, you can take 2 yards of fabric and tie the 2 opposite diagonals together in knot (this is done in some parts of Africa). Place it over one shoulder by going over your head so the fabric sits on a diagonal from shoulder to hip. The baby fits into the pouch created by the fabric by pulling the sides of the fabric up around the baby. You will need to play with how much fabric you take in the knot to fit your body size. You probably will also need to put a make shift pad under the fabric on your shoulder under the sling so it does not dig into you.

Alexsandra - posted on 09/28/2013

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Okay. Your baby expects that same kind of activity that he had when he was in the womb. THis is a huge mistake many active moms make and they cannot figure out why there baby does not settle down. So, walk and walk and do your household chore with him attached to you. Do not put him down, let him have his rightful place connected to you until he can move (crawl) on his own. He will be so independent and secure emotionally from this! He will not end up begging and pleading to be carried and coddled like typical western (spoiled) babies/children. I realize this sounds radical but indeed we have everything upside down thinking we will spoil the child if we carry him.
Have you tried walking with him until he falls asleep and then putting him down next to you for his sleep?
And, this is the other HUGE thing. Most of us believe we actually need to entertain our offspring when in fact this is the biggest mistake they make! We are told it makes them smart. What a joke. Read the The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. You will NOT need another book! I worked directly with Jean L. and until she guided me NOTHING worked. If you go about your adult task oriented activities with the baby attached to you but you not focusing on him, he gets all he needs as a passive observer in life. The human species could have survived if we focused on our young! More than that, it reverses the hierarchy of parent and child and makes children very angry, fussy, upset. The first few months you may not have a problem because they are not individuated enough. But, gradually, all hell breaks loose when we make the baby the center of our attention. Then, they end up going through the terrible two's and three's, blah, blah, blah. Continuum babies/toddlers never experience this. As a Continuum Concept Consultant for parents, this is the biggest most difficult thing for parent to grasp. Once they make the switch and become 'life centered" with the baby, who always has their presence but not their direct attention, all is easy. And, they are learning everything by observation and gradually help you in the tasks . . . I realize this sounds counter intuitive due to our conditioning so . . . once read even part of the book, it will either ring true for you or not. Dr. Sears says these early months need to be a continuation of what babies had in the womb. My guess, is once baby gets that, he or she will settle down for a good nights sleep in the security of your arms, smell, heart beat, breathing and sounds. Wish I could describe more but it is tough in the small space of a blog!

Fareeda - posted on 09/28/2013

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Hi, sorry my laptop's trackpad was giving problems.
Yes he was born at 35 weeks and he sleeps in the same room as us. I would often play lullaby songs for him but honestly that doesn't work lol.
He would stay awake through the day but at nights, his eyes shine like the moonlight.
Yes I do :) I try to spend a lot of time keeping both of us active but its kind of hard to play with him because he's so tiny. I'm not even sure what else to do so I would try to get his attention when I do sign language or I would have a conversation with him.
I was very active because each day I would have to walk at least 1km to get to work. Apart from that I would walk on evenings or weekends. I kept myself occupied with householdPOST Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS
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Fareeda - posted on 10/04/2013

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Oh thank you so much :) and I added you Alexsandra here
I'm gonna get a sling
caz he really doesn't like the normal carrier.
It's true what you say about him needing to be attached to me caz that's the only time he's quiet whenever he's awake. It's a good thing I found out early!
Yes I am sensitive to stress and have been under a lot of pressure during pregnancy, more than I could ever bear. I thought I was even experiencing PTSD :-/ because of the way I've been acting. This was followed by giving natural birth and having a lot of problems because the dr. who repaired me due to laceration tears, left a pad in me and I found out after 8 days. It had already began to decay and caused my cervix to be in pretty bad shape. Now I have to go for a pap smear :/
I'm coping well by thinking "hey I will be okay and not have cancer or anything seriously wrong with me".
I'd love to be able to share more with you to get support because I haven't really opened up to anyone.

Alexsandra - posted on 10/03/2013

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P.S. You do NOT need to play with your baby. This makes things much worse by the time they reach 8 months or often even younger. I know how crazy it sounds as we have been taught how we NEED to do this. Relax and keep walking as you did and doing activities WITH baby attached. They like to be in the midst of life's activities. Go out to a coffee house with friends, farmer's market, etc. where you can be around other adults and not isolated. Babies sleep a LOT in the early months and yes, they do pee a lot too! It takes awhile for their digestive track to develop. I recall our baby staying awake during the day for 9 hours at a time. This can happen until a rhythm is established. Yes, babies tend to follow the rhythm of nature, waking up with the light for a awhile, then dozing off again . . . falling asleep when it starts to get dark. Have you traditionally been a sound sleeper? Are you sensitive to stress? Does your partner or a relative help you by taking him for a walk or a bath, etc? What kind of hours do you keep? How was your birth? These types of things can also greatly influence the sleep issues of baby . . . as well as some other things.

Fareeda - posted on 10/03/2013

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Thank you for the sound advice Rebecca and Alexsandra. Where can I find the book though?I'll probably have to order it on line.
He's sleeping at nights from 9 till 11.30 he'll get up for feed or to have his diaper changed. He wets a lot! Is it normal for him to urinate so much? lol silly question :/
It's true that he wants to feel the same way as in the womb because once he's being held, he's quiet and calms down easily.
Especially if I move around. Babies are so smart and fascinating :D
I love being a mum and also I made a serious decision to go from working to being a stay at home mum because I don't want to miss out on his first year which is very crucial.
At this stage of his life, is there anything I can do to help him develop better than just lying around and fulfilling his basic needs?

Rebecca Louise - posted on 10/02/2013

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Hey I don't know wether this will work or maybe you have sussed it already with the other moms advise but when my little one was born he was all fun and games at night and then sleep at day time when I managed to get him on the right clock work I then figured out that if he had enough naps during the day he would sleep better during the night , I never carried him around I kept day time for playing and night time for sleeping and comforting, the buggy and car were great for the day time naps just to get his body used to the idea and bedtime was bedtime! After many weeks of perseverance he now has his morning nap in his bouncy chair and his longer afternoon nap in his cot as well as bedtime I hope this might help all this say about the longer they are awake the better they sleep is a joke babies need there sleep otherwise they get overtired and constantly wake up every 15 to 30 mins, that's saying is for when they are older good luck let me know how you get on x

Alexsandra - posted on 09/27/2013

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You did not give much info. Was he a primy? Does he sleep with you or in a separate room or ? Put him in a sling a MOVE with him as much as you can. This will keep him more interested in staying awake and you can get a few things done. Also, walk outside in the sunshine where he can see trees moving, the sky, etc. Babies/children love to be in nature. Of course, you may be doing that already.
How active were you in your pregnancy? This is crucial to know.

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