my 8 month old daughter wants to be held 24/7

Nadine - posted on 11/03/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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my 8 month old daughter wants to be held all the time. she's been that way since she was born and i can't get it out of her no matter how long i let her cry. she doesn't play unless she's sitting in my lab, she cries when i put her in her carseat and she doesn't stop until i get her out. i don't know what to do anymore, it seems like i let her cry all day and she still won't get it.

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Krystal - posted on 11/06/2009

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My baby girl is 8 months and always wants to be held. She has been crawling for over a month now, but any time I put her down, she screams and crawls to me as quickly as she can. She hasn't sat in a bouncer or swing for months and refuses her walker and jumper. She hates being alone and doesn't really want anyone but me. She also screams nonstop in her car seat, which makes it hard to go anywhere. I know it can be very hard and frustrating, not to mention exhausting. I agree with the other moms about wearing your baby. That is the only way I can get stuff done. I also have a Moby wrap and highly recommend it. You can wear your baby several different ways in it. Other than that, I don't have much advice. Just keep doing what you are doing and if you have any luck, please pass the info on to me!

Alexi - posted on 11/06/2009

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I have a 7 month old baby girl.

She loves being held and would be in my arms all day if she could. I went through a stage where i could not do my house work until she went to bed at night. She is now crawling which does make it easier, It just means when she wants my full attention, she can come to me instead of crying all on her own until i can get to her if i am busy.

Please persevere with her. She will outgrow it. I have found my daughter to be very content and at ease because i have followed her lead. I have 3 sons aged 13, 5 and 3 as well and they were all the same and are perfectly balanced well adjusted little boys.

Jessica - posted on 11/06/2009

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Hang in there. My 2 yr old is that way. yes a 2 yr old. She was never that way really before but recently we have had to move into my inlaws house till we can build on some land that we have. ever since then i can not walk out of the room. it is always mommy hold me, hold me, hold me. no one can touch her, no one can look at her at times and no one can give her kisses but me. not even her daddy. so i understnad where you are coming from. just hang in there. but i would do like other moms have said and try a sling. i would use it on my 2 yr old if there was one big enough

Caryn - posted on 11/04/2009

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I agree with Katherine. Some type of wrap or sling would probably do the trick. This will free up your hands to get things done but keep her close to you like she wants.

Katherine - posted on 11/04/2009

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My son was similar at that age. I had a Moby Wrap, and that was how I got everything done. Some babies just need to be held more than others. Honestly, at this age, letting her cry is unlike to teach her anything. She's crying to communicate with you, and since she feels you're not listening, she's just going to keep going.

If you can wear her during the day, it might be helpful. The more cuddle time my son would get in, the more he seemed to be content to be without me for little bits of time. And honestly, once she starts crawling, she's going to be feeling much more independent. Once my son learned to walk, he'd run off in to a crowd without thinking twice. Sure, he's happy to see me when he finally notices me, but right now he's busy, busy, busy, and I'm just boring old mom. ;)

This is a good article on high needs babies, and how to cope with them: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t050200...

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Tamlyn - posted on 11/07/2009

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how is her appetite? maybe she needs more solids, which keep them full for longer, and they can sleep better.

Nadine - posted on 11/04/2009

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she takes 15 minute naps during the day,but she sleeps through the night, thank god :)

Nadine - posted on 11/04/2009

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she has a walker, a swing, a bouncer and lots of other toys. but as soon as i sit her in it sh starts crying and it doesn't matter how long i leave her in there, she wont stop crying :)

Erin - posted on 11/04/2009

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I hate to hear my kids cry. Honestly, invest in a good sling that will grow with her. She just needs her mommy. How is bed and nap time for her?

Shannon - posted on 11/04/2009

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you mentions the car seat but what about a swing? My girls loves swings when they were little and its the only thing that allowed me to get things done or just get some free time. Also you could explore some of the reasons she wants to be held, try blankets and warm clothes if she just likes your warmth, try the heartbeat bear if she may like the sound of being close to you, maybe try a breastfeeding pillow or a baby chair if she likes to be comfortable when she is sitting down to play. I used my breastfeeding pillow till my little one could sit up on her own and then i bought her one of those little couches and she loves to sit on it and play.

Kelly - posted on 11/04/2009

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Hmm..that's a tough one! Dont know what to suggest. Your doin the right thing though. Maybe talk to your doc? Stay strong!!

Shayna - posted on 11/03/2009

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That can be stressful, but as hard as it can seem, I would enjoy it as much as I possibly could. Soon she won't be that baby anymore & become alot more independent. She won't want to cuddle as much, but rather be on the go all the time!



If It is really bothering you, and you find yourself really stressing out, you could try to take her to daycare, or babysitter a day or two a week. This should help her attachment needs for you, and teach her it is ok to be away from mommy.

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