My boys don't get along help : /

Esmeralda - posted on 02/17/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have two boys a 12 and a 9 year old and they fight allllll the time and it even ends up getting physical sometimes but they always together as well i try to separate them and 10 mins later they are right back together im a stay at home mom and dad travels alot only comes home a weekend a month so its all on me i don't know what to do its making me such a cranky person they frustrate me cause its all the time for any little thing what can i do????


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Desismith - posted on 03/05/2013




I think if you keep them busy, learning, playing, going to the park, zoo, some museums and engaging them things will improve. Try relationship building activities where they have to be a team. Let them bond and learn to trust and rely on each other. Keeping them busy will lessen the amount of time they have to fight.

Marian - posted on 03/04/2013




I nanny to two boys and bring my own son along with me. My boys are 8, 7 and 4. I often find myself playing referee, because the arguing gets out of control. What I try and remind my boys is that we as a family love and care about one another. It is our job to ensure that the members of our family are very well taken care of. This means we treat each other with love and respect, kindness, and mostly we have patience with each other. Sometimes they just need a reminder that they love one another and the fighting quickly goes away. Other times it takes a period of rest for them to remember how much fun they have together, and how much nicer it is to get along. Empower your boys to show love to one another, and remind them it is their job to care for one another. You may see a difference. I saw that someone else recommended staying out of it. I have to agree that as long as no one is physically getting hurt, letting the boys work it out to the best of their ability is best. They are going to be brothers their whole lives, they need to practice working through things without your interference. But once they have worked it out, tell them how proud you are that they did so, they'll appreciate that. I praise my boys constantly for being a good sibling or friend. I want them to know that I see it, and am proud of them for making a good decision.

Erin - posted on 03/04/2013




Tell them you've had enough and if it doesn't stop they are going to a boys home. Idk it might scare them.

Christine - posted on 02/20/2013




Best thing that worked for me, let them fight it out. The moment I stopped caring, my kids stopped fighting. The day I stopped going in giving them trouble, was the day the arguing diminished to almost never.

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