my childs father left us...what does this mean?

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so my daughters father left us a month ago, he drives by our street to and from work six days a week. he saw our daughter two hours this whole month. he does pay all the bills here for us til the lease is up in july and diapers plus gives me alittle cash. what does this mean???

i just thought he would see her every night after work. we sit here and dont know anyone or have family. i want to move back to where i grew up and around all of my family. theres no one here to sit and watch tv with, to love on my daughter or do things with her because we know no one. i do attend church where she goes to mothers day out program twice a week and she gets to interact with kids and seems happy, its just that i miss my parents and grandmother and aunts and cousins who live about five hours away. i dont know what to do. i was a stay at home mom for two years and now here in this state there is a waiting list for daycare assistance throgh the state for mothers. I dont know what to do.


Erica - posted on 03/10/2012




If he isn't showing interest in having an active relationship with your daughters then I personally would follow my gut. I think from what I'm reading that your gut is telling you to go home where your daughters can be surrounded by family who loves them and would support you.

It's great your getting out and meeting new people at church, but if your anything like me when I'm going through a hardship the last thing I want to do is put on a smile and make new friends. I hope it all works out for you but something tells me you are a strong woman and will get you and your daughters through this no matter what you decide.


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Tabitha - posted on 03/19/2012




Go home to your family and take your little girl with you. It sounds like he has another love interest but wants to keep you on the side. You deserve better! Your daughter deserves better! You need a support system, that's what your family is for! After you get situated, get started filing for child support and visitation.

Gabriela - posted on 03/11/2012




Guess he knows you can claim child support if he stops paying the bills, but he can send you the money or make monthly deposits so you and your child can be taken care of. But what the child needs most and you do too, is being with people that loves you and cares about you. What it means is that you have to get on with your life and show your child that a woman doesn't need a man to live, and to be happy. They do make life more interesting sometimes, but if he's no really involved in her life, it could cause more damagge than seeing him from time to time might help.

Courtni - posted on 03/10/2012




Home is where your heart is, and it sounds like your heart is with your family. Don't be afraid and don't stay there alone. Your daughter will benefit more from being around a family who loves her.

Kimberly - posted on 03/10/2012




well he cares about you guys to still be paying the bills some don't do that I would say he does not wont you with another man or another man around his baby, he's moved on and does not wont to hurt you he prob. does not wont you to get him for child support, he cares about you guys be glad for that.

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