My controlling abusive partner is braking me and hits me in front of d

User - posted on 09/08/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I feel that I am in an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship. What makes things even harder is I'm a stay at home mum to my 2 year old girl who is my 3rd child and only child that I have in my custody, I am 25 now and have a boy who's now 8 and at the time when I had him I was only 17 wild and was a bad mother, kids having kids, I wasn't in the right frame of mind and felt like i couldn't cope and found it hard when my boys father left me, at this point i had a mental brake down, and knew the right thing to do at the time was let my son go live with his dad as i was unstable and I felt he was safe that way, i suffer from mental illness and am an alcoholic since the age of 15 but I depend on it I just drink 3 beers everyday because I feel very I'll sns shaky, I don't ever get drunk and have been getting help for my drinking and trauma I'm diagnosed with ADHD /split personality disorder/ manic depressive - servilely depressed and signs of bipolar disorder/and just recently been diagnosed another illness called PTSD disorder caused through serious trauma, so I met my partner who I'm still with now I want to leave him! My girls father but he has told me I am free to leave but I can't take my girl.I'm afraid to leave because he will call the police and have me charged with kidnapping, and tell them about my past, my illness's and that I'm very unstable and get drunk everyday, he said he will tell lies and his family will lie for him, as he knows his family is much better then mine, Can he legally do that? What do I do to get out and keep my girl with me?

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Patricia - posted on 09/10/2016

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Get help for yourself and clean yourself up, that's the most and important first step so you could be on the right track and if you are being abused you have to get out of that situation asap, do not let anyone abuse you, there is help out there for you go get help and get yourself out that situation nobody should be abused mentally or physically female or male. You are very young and sounds like you had a hard life, but you could turn things around for you and your children and I am hoping and praying you do so. If you are getting counseling now and obviously you are that might be the first step to be open and let them know your being beat by your mate, that will also help you in the court system if he decides to take you to court. Hopefully you are at the point where your capable of taking care of your 2 year old, if not then you as a mother have to do whats best for the child even if that means your mom or family member taking custody while you get the help you need to get yourself together, because if your mate is beating you, then he needs to get help also, but you have to remove yourself and your child from that situation even if you have to stay at your mom house. With the proper help, which would be your therapist or call the victim abuse center they could help you with this if he is abusing you and the court is not gonna give custody to a abusive person, so I hope you have proof to show cause and if you do he will not get custody. Praying for all of your that there be a turn around in all your lives, and that God gives you a strength, love, and peace of mind to do the right thing. God bless all of you.

Dee - posted on 09/09/2016

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I am sorry you are going through this. I agree with LastAcorn99. Try to make a change for the better for yourself and your children daily and stick with it. A counselor could help you with these changes and give you support. Do you have any friends that could help you make better choices? Or have you tried going to church for some positive friendships? I will pray you make good choices for you and your family.

LastAcorn99 - posted on 09/08/2016

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I’m sorry you’re facing such a difficult situation, Jordan. While I don’t have relevant information to share with you, I would strongly suggest that you really work hard at getting cleaned up, for yourself and for the sake of your children. Also, get the help of a counselor. I’ll be praying for you.

Michelle - posted on 09/08/2016

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He can't charge you with kidnapping unless he has court orders stating that he has sole custody.
You CAN leave with your child, find a women's shelter and they will help you.
I would also suggest that you get yourself clean and do everything you can for your children. You have only mentioned 2 of them but said you had 3, where is the other one?

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