My daughter gets very unsettled straight away when she thinks she is getting left alone. Help???

Staci - posted on 04/23/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Our daughter gets very unsettled when she thinks she is getting left alone. how can we help her?? HELP??


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Claire - posted on 04/23/2010




yea my son is the same age and he is like this he is screamin really bad wen we walk out the room, he sounds like he is being murdered.

Kristin - posted on 04/23/2010




Play games with her that show her object permanence; peek-a-boo, where's bunny? (hide a bunny under a blanket or behind your back and bring back), etc..

You will also want to be really good about not dragging out your departure from her. You have to show confidence in where and who you are leaving her. She will fight it and fuss, but she will transition more smoothly without your constantly returning to reassure her.

At home, keep things normal and talk to her when you are out of her sight. Don't get sucked into it at night, she knows how it works at that time of day and you just need to keep that going through the rest of the day.

Good luck.

Brennis - posted on 04/23/2010




Our daughter goes through this, we have discovered (by leaving her with friends), that after a little while when she realizes we are not there she stops crying. So don't feel bad about leaving her alone. They learn you will come back, eventually.

Staci - posted on 04/23/2010




oh i should have mentioned she is only 5 months old :) yeah i am looking at going back to work within the next 2 weeks so fingers crossed. Thanks for your help =)

Emily - posted on 04/23/2010




My three year old has just gotten to this stage. Play games like hide and seek and make a game out of it to show them you will always come back. We play the counting game. I tell him to count and see how long i am gone. He gets board counting and moves on to different things.

Louise - posted on 04/23/2010




Seperation anxiety is very common. This is phase and will soon pass when she realises that nothing bad is going to happen when mummy is not there. Children are used to routines and once you leaving her becomes the norm (if your going to work) then she will eventually accept this. All children go through this at some stage.

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