My daughter is 8 months old and she is up every hour throughout the night im frustrated PLEASE HELP!


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Andra - posted on 01/22/2010




you poor thing i know how u feel my second daughter was the same... my partner and i had separated when she was born and as i had the bed to myself and in need of comfort myself i slept her in with me and she got used to this routine... and she was breastfed and i really dont think my milk was enough to sustain her and she was either always hungry or just on the boob for comfort... this was just awful and took me sooo long to get her out of it... and as we had reconciled 3 in the bed was not real nice either :( unfortunately it took me until she was 2 and a half to get her out of it and i started by feeding her last feed at night and then giving her a bottle of water if she woke during the night for a feed.. however she didnt really stop until i took her off the boob and put her on the bottle... and i was 3 months pregnant with my son by then.. he has been on the bottle since 4 weeks old and is a dream sleeper :) he went through a stage at about 7-8 months where he was waking in the middle of the night which he does'nt usually do and we made the mistake of giving him a bottle which got him in the routine of waking for a feed but he wasnt drinkin even half the bottle so one night i decided enough was enough and when he woke i offered him water in a bottle or his dummy.. i did'nt take him out of his cot just laid him back down.. it took me 2 hours to get him to go back to sleep but after that night he has'nt woken for a feed in the middle of the night since.. he is 9 months old now and goes to bed with his bottle and his snuggle bunny and if he does'nt go to sleep i go in lay him down put the dummy in give him his bunny and walk straight out.. sometimes i have to do this 2 or 3 times but usually he goes off to sleep on his own with the bottle and no dramas.. good luck with it all i hope she starts to sleep for u soon :)

Renae - posted on 01/22/2010




How old was she when this started? It sounds only recent is that right? 25% of babies who have their parents with them when they go to sleep suddenly stop being able to go to sleep and start waking at night between 5 and 12 mo, closer to 5mo is more common. If this is what is happening, you can either wait it out, there is a greater than 60% chance she will go back to normal within 1-3 months on her own (also 40% chance she wont). Or you can teach her to go to sleep on her own.

To teach her to go to sleep and sleep through the night you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.

If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave her to figure out she is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to her cries so that you know if she needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.

The no-cry method most commonly used by behaviourists and sleep consultants is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.

Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.

There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

Gwyneth - posted on 01/21/2010




I have a couple of ideas for you. The first is to talk about this with your pediatrician. They often have good ideas for exhausted parents. The second is to get (and read) a book called Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. This has all kinds of help for sleep-deprived parents and it is based on research. I have had a lot of luck with its suggestions. Good luck!

Davina - posted on 01/21/2010




Are you breastfeeding or do you sometimes let her sleep with you? If so that could be it... she just wants her mommy and most of the time babies who nurse at night time aren't really hungry they just nurse because it's comforting for them. I have 2 children ages 4 and 1 and both of them did the same thing. I know it sounds hard but if you feel that she isn't in any pain, hungry or in need of a diaper change then just let her cry herself to sleep. It'll be really hard at first and you wont get very much sleep but after a few days when it's bed time she will sleep through the night. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Celina - posted on 01/21/2010




My daughter is also 8 months old and she too is up frequently throughout the night. I'm barely getting sleep. Sometimes its just for the normal nappy change or bottle, but recently she has just been clingy to me and wanting cuddles and as soon as i go to leave her room she starts to cry. She is also teething. Not sure if teething has something to do with it or not.

Jennifer - posted on 01/15/2010




Is she just up to play or eat? My son was the same way until he was a year old! He was waking to eat that often. I was so afraid to try to stop it before then, because he wasn't gaining weight like you would think he should with eating that much at night. Once he was a year old, and I was convinced he was eating enough food throughout the day, I stopped giving him formula at night. I would only give him water and only in a sippy cup. After a couple weeks, he still woke up every two hours, but at least it wasn't to eat.

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