My daughter takes FOREVER to go to sleep

Jasmine - posted on 04/23/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Our daughter is about 2 1/2 and since she was 11 months old we put her to bed awake and she could put herself to sleep. She's been in a toddler bed since she was about 22 months old. Lately it seems like she takes FOREVER to get to sleep. We'll put her to bed around 7:30 and sometimes it will be 9pm and she's still awake playing with her stuff animals. Most of the time she stays in the bed though. Usually regardless of what time she goes to sleep she is still getting up roughly around the same time, usually between 7 and 8am. I'm just worried that she's not getting enough sleep. She still takes a midday nap around noon and sleeps for a little over an hour. We've tried pushing back her bedtime to 8 or so, but she still takes awhile to go to sleep. Any pointers??

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Indra - posted on 04/30/2012

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If your child is going through a new developmental phase then that can cause sleep habits to change. Staying consistent with a bedtime routine and briefly saying goodnight and leaving will help. Also, you can tell your child that if she stays in bed that after you do an errand (go to get a drink or water, go get a load of laundry) you will come back to check on her... You make the time spam longer as she gets older to teach her to stay in bed on her own. If the problems continue and she gets up in the middle of the night you might want to have your pediatrician check for enlarged tonsils or sleep apnea. Sometimes those medical conditions are overlooked...

Tamyra - posted on 04/28/2012

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My daughter is 27 months and I was recently told by her Occupational Therapist that some children have trouble falling asleep because of sensory problems. They have trouble winding down their brains and they just want to go go go. My first daughter had the same issue and grew out of it as she got older. My little one no longer naps so that helps it not go so long at night. I'm not saying that it your answer, but it was mine. I do agree with the many nighttime routines above. Take care.

Tamyra - posted on 04/28/2012

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My daughter is 27 months and I was recently told by her Occupational Therapist that some children have trouble falling asleep because of sensory problems. They have trouble winding down their brains and they just want to go go go. My first daughter had the same issue and grew out of it as she got older. My little one no longer naps so that helps it not go so long at night. I'm not saying that it your answer, but it was mine. I do agree with the many nighttime routines above. Take care.

Marsha - posted on 04/25/2012

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My daughter will be 3 on May 2 and she is the same way. We put her to bed at 8am and somedays it takes her SO long to fall asleep on her own. She fidgets in bed with her stuffies, rolls around, etc.

We allow her to do that as long as she stays in her room... and mainly in her bed. She eventually does fall asleep on her own.

Not sure how to change it, I think that is how she is right now, her sister just rolls over in bed and goes to sleep! (she is 5).

So it may depend on how she is a person. Some people fall asleep right away, some people don't. Good luck.

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Leslie - posted on 04/28/2012

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My daughter just turned 3, and i notice that she was taking longer to go to sleep by the age of 2. She always had her naps during the day time and by the time i would put her to bed she would take like 2 hours or more ! she would be asking for water , go to the restroom and etc.. just an excuse to keep getting up. But then i noticed when she didnt take a nap during the day, by 9pm she would knock out and will not wake up till the next day at 10 . So she would sleep for 12 hours or 13 lol, so i didnt make her take naps any more and thats how she's been. There is days went we go out and she takes naps during the day because we had long days, but yeah, thats my ittle story.

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I wouldn't worry about it as long as she isn't causing mischief. My daughter's bed time is at 7, some days she's asleep within minutes, other days she's up until 8-9pm. She seems to average around a quarter to 8.



I found that I just need to make sure the gets a nap the next day if it takes her a while to fall asleep.

Annabelles - posted on 04/27/2012

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wow u both have ur hands full i don't use night light or music box for my children so when it comes to putting my children to bed after there dinner i get them ready for bath and then get them ready for a bedtime story after a bedtime story i tell them i love yous to them all and close the door of there room thats my routine

Leanne - posted on 04/27/2012

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What i do with my almost 4 year old

dinner

shower/bath and bath play time

Dry, hair, teeth

Get dressed for bed get in bed

cheeck list teddies, watercup with no drip system, night light. music box that only gos for 10 mins and only gets it once.

bed time story from dad

says night to dad and little bro

night song from me

gets tucked in big kiss hug and i love yous

music box on and night night from door

Annabelles - posted on 04/27/2012

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yea i do that for my 3 children i tell u that works half the time they are falling asleep while am reading the story to them

Belinda - posted on 04/27/2012

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Annabelles has a good idea, lengthen her bedtime routine a bit, help her decompress a bit

Janice - posted on 04/25/2012

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Sounds a lot like my 2 year old. Bedtime is 8pm but she is often up playing with her stuffed animal til 9 or later. She is up by 7am everyday and takes a 2 hour nap. She takes 15-30minutes to settle at nap time too. Our bedtime routine is just brushing teeth and then reading a few books.

At 2 1/2 a child needs 11-13 hours of sleep in 24 hours which she seems to be getting. If she isnt cranky during the day and is staying in bed I wouldn't stress over it.

Sheena - posted on 04/25/2012

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have you tried a cup of warm milk that seemed to work with me when mine did that.... She still tries to stay up i unscrew the light bulb so she cant turn on the light to play.... She may not be that tired so make sure that she keeps busy running and playing till she wears herself out

Belinda - posted on 04/25/2012

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Try putting her to bed a little earlier. if there is more than a 4-5 hour delay between afternoon nap and going to bed at night it can make it harder to fall asleep

try pushing the afternoon nap back to start between 1230 and 130, let her sleep as long as 2.5 hours if she can, but bed time is 4-5 hours after waking up. She may take a while to get used to the new time but within a couple of weeks it should be smooth sailing.



On the other hand Children this age need approximately 11 hours of sleep at night and about 2 hours of naps.

Jasmine - posted on 04/24/2012

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I'll admit lately we've been kind of rushing the bedtime routine. Usually I put on a cd of lullabies for her on repeat. Lately she has been driving us nuts with demands though, asking for a cup of water, a kiss\, and her blanket after we've already given her all these things. I'll try your suggestions tonight. Thanks so much

Liz - posted on 04/23/2012

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Some kids don't need as much sleep as others (or as some adults, like me!) Is she cranky during the day? If not then she is probably getting enough sleep. I agree with Leanne - set up a bedtime routine that includes a song, story, tucking in, etc, whatever works for you. My boys (5 and 3) used to go to bed at 9pm and would sometimes still be up at 11! I started putting them to bed sooner (8pm) and now they are usually asleep by 9 or 9:30.

Leanne - posted on 04/23/2012

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have you tryed a song, reading a bit of a bedtime story to her, have you tryed playing with the lighting of the room. or the back patting thing?

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