my daughters dad hangs round wid 12-16 year olds what shuld i do?

Tia - posted on 05/03/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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im 21 n have a 9month old daughter i have jst found out that my daughters dad is hanging round wid 12-16 year olds n he is 24 he has contact evry fornite, but wat do i do wen it comes to exsplaining it to my daughter wen she is older

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Tabitha - posted on 05/03/2010

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Tia what are you doing with this guy?? You need to drop him like a bad habit. Guy's like that are not a role model for your child. Theres nothing you need to explain to your daughter when she is older because she shouldn't be around him period! Do the right thing for your child this guy sounds like bad news and you don't want her becoming a victim when she hits puberty. Good luck to you!

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more then explaining things to her and worrying about that right now...shouldnt you be explaining it to the police?!?!?! he could be in serious trouble. Depending on what he has done.

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Tia - posted on 05/18/2010

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well girlys i have been to the police station today to enquir bout my ex hanging round wid these kid n to b honist i am nt happy they have told me that is against the law n aprrently my daughter is to younge to be in danger but wat annouys me the most is that a 30-40 year old man can have teenages friend wicth are the kids freinds n so on n they get acused n aressted n named pedos even tho there has been nothing going on n they can do ne thing wen a 24year old is doing it as its not breaking the law aprerently i am so pissed off wid it how the hell do they knw my daughter mite not b in danger they havent got a clue wat its lyk n how i feel as i feel well bad letting him near her but have no chose as he will take me to court so that he has contact how sick to think that its ok 4 him to do it,its not helping him relize its a bad thing its giving people his age that do the same the inprestion that its fine to hange round wid theses kids :(

Tia - posted on 05/07/2010

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so tomorow im gna go to the police staition n enquire bout it n also have stopped his contacted 4 a months so i can get this sort
n guys u have been realy good help so big thanks to u all xx

Tia - posted on 05/07/2010

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cheers guys well went on to a plice thing yesturday to c wat i culd do as im am worried for my daughters safty n tis wat they have sed:-

If you are concerned about his behaviour and feel that children may be at
risk then you should report his behaviour to your local Polices wat they sed

Katie - posted on 05/07/2010

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Sounds very dodgy to me I dont know any 24year old guy that hangs with 12-16year olds! Report him. Or ask him how he would like his daughter when shes 12 to be "friends" with a 24year old man! WRONG on so many levels.

Chelle - posted on 05/07/2010

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Whether they do anything or not, is not the issue here, at least you know YOU did something. It is not normal for a 24 year old to be hanging around or dating children of 13,14,16. There is too much difference developmentally. Perhaps he suffers from a low self esteem and that is why he pursues younger females? Regardless if this was happening to me, i would report it. I would also be wary about leaving him alone with your daughter as there could be potential for sexual abuse with her!

Taryn - posted on 05/06/2010

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i didnt have a dad growin up untill i was 12, i met my dad on my own&hated it because of the type of person he is. he tryed to lock me up on his drugs& when i was prehgnant with my son he told me if i have him he would beat me all because my son is mixed. I grew up without him&wish i never met him. it hurts me to know what type of person he is&that hes my dad. if i where in your place i wouldnt let her find out who he is cause knowing hes a bad man is worst then not knowing your dad at all. good luck & i hope everything works out for the best. =/

Violet - posted on 05/06/2010

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Tia This guy sounds like he is scared stiff by the responsibility of being a father and the fact that he may be fooling around with a teenager is an extra headache u do not need in your life right now. He needs to choose between you and his daughter or this lifestyle which will only end with him being arrested and worse you raising your daughter in the same house with a registered sex offender (which is the title he will get after serving time)

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As a mom of two girls if there dad were hanging around with 12-16 year olds id give him a slap around the ear for sure.Come on thats not acceptable behaviour for a 24 year old father to be doing.Put your foot down ,lay it all out on the table and if he cant live by what you want which is what many woman would want than tell him you dont feel comfortable about him seeing his daughter unless its supervised visitation..Hes way out of line period& i would bring his behaviour to the attention of the police.

Christine - posted on 05/06/2010

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well I obviously didn't mean like 19-17...but you know. I wasn't against that, hell when i was 17 i dated a 20 year old, but i mean going as far as 13-14 yr old girls being more then 5 years is a lil out there, unless your both adults, like a 20 yr old dating someone way older, teenagers have all their hormones and everything outta whack

Crystal - posted on 05/06/2010

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I have a friend that is dealing with the same problem, only her 4 year old basically has to answer to a 16 year. Her father's dating a 16 year and spends more time criticizing his ex wife that it is not doing anything for the daughter. I also would like to know how to help with that kind of situation because it seems so wrong that a 16 year old's parents would let her date some that is 27 years of age....

Kelina - posted on 05/05/2010

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EVen if he's going to deny it, still you need to try to do something about it. go in and ask the police some questions. Go in and ask child services some questions about what you can do as a mother. And honey, if all else fails, get the hell out. Find out what kind of notice your custody arragnement says you have to give him if you're moving and go. Good luck hon!

Jessica - posted on 05/05/2010

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It doesn't matter if he "waits till she's 16" it's still statutory rape. I would be very concerned with the father of my child hanging out with kids under 18. He can deny whatever he wants but I personally wouldn't want that around my child. I would tell someone.

Kel - posted on 05/05/2010

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I agree with EVERYTHING that has been said...get the dirt and sic the cops on this dirtbag, pronto!

Christine, really? A 19 yr. old dating a 17 yr. old isn't that far fetched and certainly not disgusting...let's at least acknowledge that there are SOME shades of gray in the issue...LOL

Christine - posted on 05/05/2010

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You have got to take that into consideration. Of course he is going to deny it, he's a guy!! They always Deny Deny Deny. What you should do is get proof. Print out convos you read online that he has with these 14-15 yr olds, print out things he might've sent u in emails about 14-15 yr olds. Copy any evidense you can find and get on him, make copies of conversations on the phone if you can. Do what you have to do to get the evidence then pursue every legal possible thing you can. This guy sounds like a pedophile to me. Any guy over the age of 19 should not be interested in any girl below his age I think that is disgusting. There are so many good looking gorgeous woman out there their own age, they have to wait for these lil teenbops to grow up so that they can pursue them is ridiculous. I send you my hopes and prays, do the right thing, whatever your heart tells you girl, and do not let him around your daughter.

Melissa - posted on 05/04/2010

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No offence but this sounds a bit too bloody off for me ! I would look into that straight away, that is not normal ! Do what it best for you child.

Tia - posted on 05/04/2010

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hey guy u have been really good help that i has made me think bout ting more luckly im not wid him i havnt been since be b4 my daughter was born n luckyly i have my daughter wid me all the tym ni am gna take all ur advice n persuse wid this as u have all sed he is mesed up cheers guys ur all rite x xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Jane - posted on 05/03/2010

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go file for full custody. he's mixed up. obviously he doesn't view the value of women properly. protect your daughter.

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Even if he would deny it I would still report it...put him on the radar of the police. I agree with the others. You need to get her away from him. FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR away. Make sure if your not married your state has the mother as full custody, and sue him for child support. When you do this you will have to talk to social services about why and then you have your chance to tell your story. or report it and tell them what you know.

Stevie - posted on 05/03/2010

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i agree with tabitha i think what you should do it take him our of any cusdity and try to get him also leagaly taken out of her life im sorry but id freak the hell out if my husband did that or if i wasnt with him it doesnt matter if i knew something like that id worry for the sake of my child worringing about malesting from him he obviously feels like its ok do anything you can so he cant be near her or you or any of your family ever again

Tia - posted on 05/03/2010

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even if i did that he wuld jst say there was nothing going on even tho i have jst found out that he is suposidly dating a 15 year old n waiting till she is 16 to have sex wid her xxxx

Tia - posted on 05/03/2010

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i realy need help on this i have sed something to him b4 but he dosnt seem to be botherd that we have to exsplain to things lyk this wen shes olders please help x

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