My get-up-and-go must have got-up-and-went!

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I am six months pregnant with my third son, and I am having a REALLY hard time getting my butt in gear. Basic housework is always done, and meals are always prepared on time, but all the EXTRA stuff is just being pushed aside. I have been sleeping badly, because it's so uncomfortable, and it seems I just want to sit down all the time. I know I can do better, but it seems my list of Things To Do is just getting longer and longer. I feel guilty all the time, but when I try to get going, something always comes up, and I procrastinate.

Anyone else been through this, and how do I overcome?


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Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2009




You are definitely being hard on yourself. But we all know how that feels. As mom's we expect our selves and our houses to be perfect. But think about it this way... if you went to a friend's house who was pregnant with her third would you really judge her on how her house looks. I think too often we put expectations on ourselves that very few others expect. We think everything is supposed to be perfect or we aren't doing our job. We need to realize that we are only human.

We often work so hard around the house we don't have time for the extra little a game of UNO or candy land or hide and seek. These are the things I want my children to remember...that mom took time out of her day to play with me....that I am more imprtant than a perfectly clean house....I am my mother's priority. As long as you do that you are doing everything right.

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i think your being way to hard on yourself and you need to stop it!! you are doing the right things so anything else that needs done is it really a life or death situation if it waits? NO. so take time out for yourself when you can instead of worrying about things that really arent important..... have a bath, enjoy something to eat. and relax.

you are pregnant and it take alot to grow a human being, and your looking after your two children. your house is clean and you have cooked the dinner. to be honest what else is there!! i think your amazing i only have two sons aged 3 years, and one aged 14months. my second child is an insomniac and i to felt how you are now but in the end my mum said to me as long as the kids are looked after fed etc the housework can wait....and she helped abit too!!!

so please just try and relax as best you can your doing an amazing job already!!! take a step back and think about it and you will im right.

good luck and remember have a little bit of you time!!!

Jenni - posted on 07/13/2009




I feel that three is a lt harer than 2. My third is now 8.5 months old and I fl like I'm starting to come out of a hase of not being able to do much more than what is absolutely necessary! Clean dishes to eat, bathe children if they smell, cook when my husband comlains about not having anything to eat . . .I definitely agree with the mom that said enlist help! I ahve hired a couple of teenagers to help with cleaning and watching the kids. I hope you are encouraged by all the comments here, and don't worry about what people say who have never been where you are, or have done it 30+ years ago!

Abigail - posted on 07/12/2009




I felt that way my second time around too! just pace yourself do a few things everyday and nap when the kids are napping, go to bed early if possible!!

Erin - posted on 07/11/2009




My get-up-and-go went without me, and didn't come back!! Don't feel guilty, your human! My house is a mess, my sink is full of dirty dishes, but holding my 10mth old baby girl while she sleeps - all is right in the world!

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Oh my - I have been there. Not during pregnancy so much but after I had my twins and had a 4 1/2 year old too. I did the basic housework, cooked and laundry. Everything else was pushed aside until DH or I had time and energy to do it. I BF and pumped every 2 hours the first many months so that took a lot of time and energy.

Do what you can, take care of yourself and love those kids. The rest can wait.

Tiffany - posted on 06/20/2009




Heather, please don't be so hard on yourself. I've been exactly where you are and it is tough. Hang in there and take the time to rest. Don't try to have everything done all the time or you'll wear yourself out even more. My third pregnancy made me very tired as well and I had a 3 yr. old and infant to care fore. Believe me, you need your rest now because you will not get it once the 3rd is here. Please take time to take care of yourself first or else you will not be able to take care of everyone else. Best wishes to you and hopefully better sleeping.

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2009




I know how you are feeling. With my first two pregnancies I had way more energy and worked until I was 8 months pregnant. Then with my third, having two little ones at home and being pregnant (this time with twins) was a lot more difficult. I had no energy at all by six months. I have to say you are doing better than I did. The housework didn't get done everyday unless my husband helped out. Give yourself a break. I know napping when you have other kids to take care of is hard so if you feel like sitting down and relaxing, do it!! Soon you won't be able to. Good luck :)

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Girl relax! I know it's frustrating when you're used to having things done or at least used to having the energy to get things done. But think about what you are doing! You are making a human being and it is tiring, moreso for you because you already have 2 little ones to look after. I know it's easier said than done but you need to not worry about your "to do" list. If you have the energy, spend that energy on your family because as you know, once the new baby is here, you won't have much time for anything else. Also, maybe ask your hubby to help out more? That way things on your list get done and you feel better mentally. Just remember, if he helps you out, don't worry if (or when) he doesn't do things like YOU want them done. Just be happy he does them. My husband took it upon himself to make laundry his chore when our son was born. Here he was doing something really nice that most women would LOVE, and there I was complaining because he folded things "wrong" or hung my shirts inside out. One day I remember thinking to myself "ARE YOU STUPID JOY???" LOL Most women would KILL to have a husband that did laundry. Good luck girl and remember, relax!

Holly - posted on 06/14/2009





My third child is now seven months, and I'm still there! It started about the same time as it is for you, though.... I've had good days, and bad days... mostly good moments and bad moments. Frequent napping helps. Your body is in overdrive CREATING A HUMAN BEING. Cut yourself some slack.

After baby comes, life will be turned upside down. I know personally, I wasn't ready for the challenge. I didn't think it would be as big of a deal as it was. If my kids are clean and fed, and I've gotten a shower by 3:00 in the afternoon... I'm doing awesome. Laundry? Are you kidding? Dishes? Ha ha Haaaaa! And I'm what's considered a Neat Freak!

Slack... Slack.... it's only a stage, and it will get better. Enjoy the little ones as they are this day, and your body for what it's doing right this second... and leave the rest for later... a lot later.

Oh... and enlist help. I hate asking for it, but it became a necessity. Hubby and older kids unite - it's time to help mama.

Prayers for you and your family!!


Dawn - posted on 06/14/2009




o yes i went through this!!! i was so perky during my first pregnancy, i even worked full time for 8 months of it. but i was MISERSBLE for my second. i had cramping and light bleeding from 14 weeks till the end. dr explained this was normal for a 2nd pregnancy especially since i had had a previous c section.

to top that off i was HUGE!! my son ended up weighing 9 lbs 3 oz and he was a week early. so doing anything was a chore for me. it hurt to bend, stand, walk, sit, tie my shoes!! you name it. i just wanted to cry the whole time.

i don't really have any advice on how to overcome it. it's only gonna get worse the bigger you get.

i guess try and ask your hubby or maybe your mom or MIL to help out? this didn't go over well at my house with my hubby but it doesn't hurt to try i guess!!!

well i can't say he didn't help a little, just not a lot.

good luck and hang in there:) enjoy the rest now!!

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