My husband doesn't want me to stay at home anymore

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I was a bit blindsided the other night when he came to me and told me that he has been struggling with the fact that we have very little money left over after bills and groceries etc. He wants to start a business because he is tired of working for someone else and not being able to save money is not allowing for that. After a long talk and hurt feeling on my end he understood that right this second is not the best moment because we have a 9 month old and daycare cost for her alone would probably not be worth it. However we have 3 other children who are in school but I feel like they still need me too. I am just so hurt and confused I thought we were on the same page as far as me staying home goes but I was definitely wrong. There has been other things going on between us and this just feels like the icing on the cake.

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Nadine - posted on 10/08/2016

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I have always felt the need to contribute financially to the household. Have you thought of maybe doing home daycare, or a work from home-option? If you guys need more money it is not unreasonable, to expect you to contribute too.

Rose24 - posted on 10/08/2016

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I am truly sorry you are having this turmoil. Marriage is not easy and add the responsibility of 4 children and a mother who feels she is needed at home and a husband and father who is stressed over finances and has a dream he believes will be a better direction and this certainly makes for some challenges.http: //bit.ly/2e0u3UK
Financial stress can and does cause many marriages to fail and my prayer is that yours won't and you both can benefit from the article I have enclosed. Remember these times will pass and I pray you both can find a way to communicate effectively and reach a compromise for now that will be healthy and beneficial for your family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you find ways to reach a place of peace and also consider the other issues that may be lurking as well as finances and openly communicate with each other remembering you are on the same team.
May God bless

Monika - posted on 10/07/2016

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my husband has his own business and to be honest i know nothing about money either....how much we have, how much we own...etc...
i myself started a little business from home i have paid off the product that we buy there (all household products -vitamins, cleaning supplies, laundry supplies, dental care, hair care, body care and a lot more)
it feels good to be able to stay home with the kids and help at least a little with the income :)

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