My husband thinks we should get a cleaning lady!?!

Rhonda - posted on 01/19/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Wow. Is all i have to say. Not really,but seriously? Iam a stay at home mom. Yes i will admit i dont get the tub. Thats it thou. The toilet, sinks counters, mirror .i get all that, and he thinks its terrible. I think its just cuz hes home working, and he sees it everytime. I donno. What do you guys think? Should we get one, or no? Help me please. I need to convince him not to waste our money!

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If you can afford it do it! It would be that much more time for you to do other things. Plan a date night, get to the crafts you haven't done, play with the kids. He is offering help in his own way. I would take this as an act of kindness more then an act of telling you that you aren't good enough. If we could afford one I would do it. I spend more time cleaning then anything else. Even if all she does is the bathroom and general sweeping and dusting. If you know its not in the budget then write it out and show him you can't afford it.

Lori - posted on 01/19/2012

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I fought the opposite battle with my husband. When I was pregnant with my 2nd one I was sooooo miserable that the house was just going to he*!. I've found that it's really nice having someone do the scrubbing with chemicals while I watch the kids. I still pick up and do dishes and vacuum, but twice a month we have someone come over and help with the bathrooms and kitchen.



Is he suggesting it because he thinks you're not doing a good enough job - or maybe he's suggesting it because he is realizing how much you do and thinks you could use a break and some help? If you don't want to hire a cleaning lady then talk to your husband about why exactly he thinks you need one. His answer may surprise you.

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Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2012

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I would be flattered if my husband wanted a cleaner though. He knows how much I haaaate cleaning.

Karen - posted on 02/06/2012

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If my husband offered to hire one, I think I would allow it, maybe just once. I am curious after reading Kelly's post. I wonder what little things I skip over that another person might see or think was important. Hmm!

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Haha! I had the SAME argument with my husband when I first started staying home with J. In dh's defense, I was doing a pretty crappy job--I'd never cleaned house before and had no idea what I was doing.



I was DETERMINED to do it all myself--I am a sahm after all! One night, dh said to me, "Maybe we should consider having Anna come back part time (she was our housekeeper when I worked). I was SO angry!!! I totally feel you. I felt like he was saying that I didn't have what it takes. Not so much that I was "lazy" because he knew I was trying, but that no matter how hard I tried, I'd never be able to do it.



In the end, we did end up having Anna come back part time for about a year, but we utilized the time as lessons. She taught me how to streamline things, how to "prevent" dirt rather than just cleaning once it's dirty; she taught me little tricks to stay focused and on track. I can totally do it now! And I clean fast too--no more than an hour & a half a day!



I highly recommend hiring a housekeeper in to teach you the ropes if you really want to do it all yourself. I agree, it is very empowering to be able to do it all, just in case you ever really need to.

Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2012

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Maybe you could make a cleaning schedule so everything gets done... and maybe he can clean the tub if it's not up to his standards.

Lisa - posted on 02/05/2012

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Not at all! My husband recently stayed home with us for a couple days and admitted that with everything the kids and I do during the day he should be helping more with the cleaning etc...

If we could afford a cleaning lady I would say "heck ya!!! lets have her come every day and she can do the dishes,too!"

Rhonda - posted on 02/05/2012

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I am a stay at home mom though, so it makes me feel like he is telling me i am lazy. Does this mean i am lazy?

Christina - posted on 02/05/2012

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Really?? YES YES YES you should get one! There is a difference between wasting and spending money, I don't see a downside, house is cleaned, you and him have more free time!! win win

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