My husband wants to have a THIRD baby after TEN YEARS!! How do I decide what best??

Sara - posted on 01/18/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I have a 12 year old daughter and our 10 year old son. He's been saying ALOT more now that he wants to have another creepy crawler;)...but the thing is, I dont feel we are "financially ready". Plus, I want to go back to school to get my GED..then to community college to pursue an AA Degree..and possibly transfer to state! When I think of child care costs and staying home for those couple years to care for our baby...makes me feel like I will be back tracking...and the time to become successful will only take longer! Ive been waiting too get back into school..and now my husband is so FIXED on having another child! I want to make my husband happy, but Im not sure if I will be later once the baby responsibility stuff kicks in and if my two children will like the idea..since both are the only girl/ boy. Im not sure if im ready to wake up different hours of the night..i enjoy my full nights rest! Yes, the idea of having another beautiful!...but I dont want to struggle anymore like we did with our last two...eventhough we did make it through...I feel we should focus on saving for college, sports, our own family trips now!...Please Help! Need advice!!


Kay - posted on 01/20/2012




Tell your husband that he is closer to having a grand baby than you are to having another one. Tell him how wonderful it will be to love, spoil and enjoy grandchildren! Tell him how much you are looking forward to that!

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Have you shared your fear with him? Having another baby is stressful I can't imagion doing it 10yrs after my last.

I was 14 yr younger then my sister, 16 yrs younger then my brother and 19yrs younger then my other brother. (Iwas adopted by my grandparents) It does make it hard, but it was nice the be the only child after the others left the house. I got to go places and do things with my parents that the older ones didn't because Dad was in school and so was Mom. They had little to no money when the older kids were little.

I would write out a list of the good and bad. Ask your husband how much he is willing to pitch in and maybe talk to the kids and just feel it out. Maybe even go off BC and tell your husband ok if it happens in 6 months it was ment to be if not no more trying. (We did this and hello baby #3 lol. I figured we weren't going to get pregnant)


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