My life story I need help with

Jess - posted on 11/24/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Well I'm the mother of 3 girls the first is 6 the second is 3 and the third is 4 months. Having two children was easy in my eyes but after having my third I'm constantly stressed and thinking that I can't do this there's the good times then there's the bad I'm only 20 my husband works in the oilfield so he's gone everyday all day comes home for dinner showers sleeps then he's gone again I'm blessed we have him and that he works so hard for his family. But I think I might be going crazy I dropped all my friends 5 yrs ago when we got married I thought all we needed was each other now I need someone anyone to talk with who understands what I'm going threw. I love all my children so much and equally so do not get offended by anything. My first hold is very independent quiet and helpful she loves to learn and help with everything my second child hates not having attention she hits crystal when she doesn't get her way refuse to eat meals doesn't like to share and screams and yells at everyone. My third is a extremely happy baby right now she has a cold so she's always crying and is very fussy she's very spoiled or "babied" so if were not holding her she isn't happy. So between taking care of them by myself having no one to talk with try to keep a clean house and keep up with laundry is extremely hard plus I feel as if I get absolutely no appreciation for anything and granted I can talk to my husband but when he gets home he's so tired and worn out I feel like he doesn't really care so why bother anyways sorry for writing a novel I just need some advise friendly wisdom or something to keep me going

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Marie Emilie Dion - posted on 11/28/2013

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I completely understand what you're going trought. I'm also very young and my husband works a lot too. He works night and sleeps days. He works a lot to support us and I love him very much but it does get lonely. We've just moved to a new city about 6 months ago and I'm not very good at making friends I would say I'm a bit awkward socially as I was raised with boys only. We have 3 kids already and expecting twins!! (not planned but very happy). I'm absolutely overwhelmed as you are darling. Big hugs and try to keep positive

Neelam - posted on 11/27/2013

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Dear Jess Carroll
Some time we r feeling, how u r feeling now . Very lonely and helpless but be calm and lets have small discussion on this topic. First of all there is very small gap between three children all r small , so u r not free hole day. If hubby is earning enough, u can keep helper for at least 3-4 hours. He or she can help u out in house work like cleaning, ironing, cooking, washing or children things, if no budget than u can call younger sis or mom or neighbor any one with whomever u r close or make them close to help u out in this problem.try to make nice time table for u as well children for sleeping, eating, playing, take them out .
Other thing u can do is make them in play school or nursery , or hire ababy sitter for few hours, take them out and make their friends so they will be busy playing with them.
Above all of this give some time to yourself also while they r sleeping or playing.
Good luck
Regards
Neelam

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