My little boy just turned 4 and not out of the terrible two's Or ready for preK..what do I do?

Crystal - posted on 03/28/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




He is so full of life and loves to just run around and be free. A happy little boy but quite a handfull when it comes to making him listen and pay attention. I hope he will grow out of the terrible two's before it is time for him to start pre-k this August.


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Kathryn - posted on 03/28/2010




I worried about the same thing with my son last summer. He turned four last June and started Pre-K in August. I had problems with getting him to follow directions at home. He would fight with his sister, often hitting or biting. I was terrified to send him to Pre-K, but it was the best thing I could have done for him. It took him a couple of weeks to adjust to following directions and having a more structured schedule, but after that he became a model student and is one of the brighter students in the class. If I had waited a year for Pre-K he would have been bored his first year in school. Pre-K teachers I talk to understand that their students are young and new to the school experience. Maybe you should try some summer classes in something that your son is interested in so that he can get used to the structure and you can gauge his readiness for school. Remember not to let anyone make you feel guilty for the decision you make.

Brandy - posted on 03/28/2010




Just keep your ground and let him know who's the boss, also keep to your disipline one day at a time it will get better i am going through the same thing with my little guy and he will be three here in july

Kristin - posted on 03/28/2010




It really doesn't sound like he's still in the terrible two's or threes. Do sitters or other family care givers comment on his behavior negatively. He does sound energetic and high spirited, both good things.

Have you tried him in a class of any kind, art, soccer, dance, martial art? He may just need to see what will happen to be on board with the goings on of PreK class settings. Maybe just go sit in on a class? Also, some boys just really need that extra run around time. But if he's got some behaviors you really don't care for, you still need to keep consistent with your discipline of him. And be warned, they pick up other awful behaviors from PreK.

Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 03/28/2010




My sister-in-law teaches pre-k. She has a tough time with boys. She says many start too early. She would rather see a boy a year older in her pre-k class that was developmental ready for it than a 4 year old boy who can't quite handle it. She says it is difficult for many of them to do what they should be doing and it also hinders the learning of the other children in the class.

Stevie - posted on 03/28/2010




no little kid wants to listen just keep your foot down dont give in and keep to your disipline one day he will learn he may also have ADD or ADHD i have add im not hyper all that much i can be but who cant idk much about ADHD except its more commently diagnosed and its meaning as well if you think he may have that talk to your dr about them both and maybe get him tested for it but the terrible twos are from the second they become more indapendant until they start to really figure it out hey mom was right lol or they just learn i wouldnt worry to much

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